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soyness

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someone wrote this on his blogring. what do u think?

The Anti-Light Bulb Sermon

Pastor D's relationship sermon created quite a sensation at H. Women are now asking "Should I turn on my light? Is my light on? How do I turn on my light?" (By the way if you're wondering if the guy notices if your light is on then he probably doesn't. Guys are stupid. You could give the guy a light bulb and he still wouldn't get it.)

Well I just want to say to the ladies don't just turn your light on for any guy at h who happens to be showing interest in you. And I'm not saying you shouldn't turn it on because this guy may not share your values, vision, and passions or have compatible gifts. What if the guy is too fat? Or too wimpy? Or too short? Or not good looking enough? What if he's not asian? What if he is asian? What if he doesn't make enough money? Or if he doesn't have enough degrees? What if other people say he's not cool enough? What if he doesn't know how to dress? What if he has no hair on top of his head but abundant hair coming out of his ears and nose?

And for the guys if a woman does turn her light on for you don't consider how brave she is for showing interest in you, don't honor her step of courage, forget that she's a sister in Christ. Just ask yourself the most important question, "Is she hot?" Sure you can euphemize the question by saying "Am I attracted?" and justify such questions by saying I have to be attracted to someone I date, forgetting that attraction naturally grows and that love is not about physical attraction. Just ask yourself "Would I look good with this girl on my arm?" and if not, move on.

h, let's go back to the days when all these lights weren't on. Let's go back to the days of singles complaining that there was no one to date and married people always trying to figure out who to set up. Let's go back to the days of heightened sexual tension and gossip. Married people live off this stuff. Don't deprive us!
 

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Hmmm...lights on, lights off. I am wondering what watt bulbs we are talking. Maybe it would be more appropriate for lights to be dim, or maybe bright. All in all, if a woman wants to get her man or a man wants to get his woman, I am certain most any tact would be put to use.

Sending out signals, being forthright and straight-forward is definitely a good sign. My impression of a woman who does not ever have "lights on" but continually pursues a relationship where she refrains from communicating an attraction is that she sounds like a pest. If she cannot warm up, how could that problem turn into a wife that cannot always communicate I would wonder?

Going back to the days of sexual tension and being set up by friends to date or marry a woman sounds to me a little bit less than liberating, and I would most likely rather not be involved with such an arrangement at all. I cannot think of any of the girls my friends and family know that will ever have a chance of dating or marrying me, and I don't know that I have ever actually felt sexual tension after puberty passed.

Maybe the whole concept of dating and marriage just isn't that important anyway, after all!
 
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soyness said:
basically the light bulb theory is that women should let their lights more often "on" so that the guy would know that she is at least a bit interested.... that is basically it.

I've always found that if a woman is interested in me, she'll let me know. 99% of the time, if she shows no interest, she isn't interested. Even if she does show interest, half the time, she isn't. Therefore, there's no reason to chat up a woman who doesn't "leave the light bulb on".
 
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OhhJim said:
I've always found that if a woman is interested in me, she'll let me know. 99% of the time, if she shows no interest, she isn't interested. Even if she does show interest, half the time, she isn't. Therefore, there's no reason to chat up a woman who doesn't "leave the light bulb on".

Hey I was thinking the same thing about a guy as well. You must have read my mind! I should "sue" you but rather leave that alone. LOL!
 
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OhhJim said:
Exactly.

So, I wait to make sure. It's not always easy to tell.

Are you saying that sometimes a woman will ignore a man she's interested in?

Well, it depends on the woman's personality though OhhJim if you know what I mean!
 
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