What do you think ?

[wingcross]

I knew this girl who is 7 years older than me.
I am in love with her and have make my decision to spend my life with her.

anyway do you such relationship is possible ? I mean the gap ?
we are from different social status. Well, she is a business-woman. And I am climbing up but i will do better than her. just that i need time.

I heard there is successful marriage relationship similar to mine before.

 

[Quantum_Man]

If she feels the same way towards you then why wouldn't it work? Physical age doesn't have too much to do with it, it's more where both of you are at mentally, spiritually. My girlfriend's parents are 10 years apart in age.

 

[wingcross]

but now the I ams younger than the girl n not the other way around.

too many ppl dun like us to be together, so they spread gossips. She got pressured too. *sigh*

 

[California Dreamin']

It should not matter if the woman is older or if the man is older... My stepfather is 19 years older than my mother, and they are very happy together. My boyfriend is 9 years older than me and we have a good relationship. Age should not mean anything in a relationship. Someone can be 30 and you would think they were 10, or vice versa.

 

[Saviot'Valuan]

Bro, my girlfriend is turning 21 and Im 18. Not as large of a gap as your talking, but still it should be fine. What matters is your compatability.

 

[Pikachelsea]

Age should not mean anything in a relationship.

Uh, well, that's not entirely true. Seeing some 30 year old guy dating a 16-year old girl would raise my eyebrows.

Granted, you can't always measure maturity in years, but you can make a reasonable guess. People should just try to find someone close to their own age.

But back to the thread -- age becomes less of an issue as you age. 7 years difference would be a huge matter if this guy were 15 and the girl were 22, but now that they're older there's a better chance that they're both mature enough to know what they're doing.

If you really love her AND you're old enough to handle such a large age gap (which I think you are), then I don't see anything wrong with it.

 

[wingcross]

currently she is avoiding me..... what should I do?
I talked to my Pastor about she avoiding me, but unfortunately he tell her I went seeing him and talk nonsense. Now she is even more reluctant to see me.

should I leave our relationship and let God deal with us ? I been praying for her everyday. She have prayed for comfirmation that I am the guy she been longed for in the past.

She sounds like gave up. But I still not wanting to give up. I believe this is also the work of the devil. I know it is foolish to think this is the work of devil.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

What worries me is not the age, but your attitude when you said this:

we are from different social status. Well, she is a business-woman. And I am climbing up but i will do better than her. just that i need time.

Do better then her? Do you really see it as a competetion?

Perhaps it's not your age that worries her, but this attitude and the maturity level you're showing.

 

[Grishnak]

I knew this girl who is 7 years older than me.
I am in love with her and have make my decision to spend my life with her.

anyway do you such relationship is possible ? I mean the gap ?
we are from different social status. Well, she is a business-woman. And I am climbing up but i will do better than her. just that i need time.

I heard there is successful marriage relationship similar to mine before.

Im 17.5 years older than her.
The age difference has not made any difference except that it makes her more at ease that Im not some young prep whos just out for a good time.

If you two love each other and are both of legal age, then 7 years is no big deal at all

 

[Grishnak]

Someone can be 30 and you would think they were 10, or vice versa.

aint that the truth.

I know men who are 60ish and still act like spoiled 13 year olds.

 

[horuhe00]

like it or not, biological age differences does matter. Does it matter enough for you to break it off? That is a desition you both have to make.

 

[halifaxhoney]

It all depends on who the couple is. I mean if you love her and she loves you then there shouldn't be a problem with other people.

 

[deeplygrieved]

I knew this girl who is 7 years older than me.
I am in love with her and have make my decision to spend my life with her.

anyway do you such relationship is possible ? I mean the gap ?
we are from different social status. Well, she is a business-woman. And I am climbing up but i will do better than her. just that i need time.

I heard there is successful marriage relationship similar to mine before.

I think you're fine. Look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher! 7 yrs apart is nothing to worry about. How does she feel about you? Does she also want to spend the rest of her life with you? If so, then it's all good!

Oops. I just read the part about her avoiding you... Hmm. Do you know why she might be avoiding you? Are you coming on too strong? From what I gather from your post, she still seems unsure... Maybe give it some more time... In the meanwhile, I'll pray for you. If it's in God's will for you two to be together, then things will come around.

 

[seangoh]

currently she is avoiding me..... what should I do?
I talked to my Pastor about she avoiding me, but unfortunately he tell her I went seeing him and talk nonsense. Now she is even more reluctant to see me.

should I leave our relationship and let God deal with us ? I been praying for her everyday. She have prayed for comfirmation that I am the guy she been longed for in the past.

She sounds like gave up. But I still not wanting to give up. I believe this is also the work of the devil. I know it is foolish to think this is the work of devil.

Hey wingcross, i feel sad about your situation. Yes it's a big dilemna when handling feelings of the heart. What is common is that the guy is usually the older one. The exception is the girl is a few years older and for your case it's quite an exception. The problem with having an older girl is you may have these issues crop up: 1) She might view you as a small kid since you're much younger and not give you the respect that a husband should have. 2) Look at 1. Yes, respect and her attitude towards you is the big issue here. You don't want her treating you like you're younger (although you are).

Anyway, my hunch is that God does have other girls for you that are more suitable. Because if you start thinking on the practical aspects of it instead of focusing on your feelings, both of you might not be compatible after all.

 

[JustLiz87]

I'm dating a 25 year old and I'm 18. At first we were hesitant about the age difference, but after the first few dates, we knew it was not a problem. The thing is not the age of a person but their maturity level. My bf and I are pretty much on the same intellectual level. My parents are 15 years apart. Sure, people do judge based on the age and it's hurtful, but if you are meant to be, then go for it.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I am the older woman. My fiance is almost 4 years younger than I. Age isn't even an issue.

 

[HoshikoUsagi]

Uh, well, that's not entirely true. Seeing some 30 year old guy dating a 16-year old girl would raise my eyebrows.

Seen that happen. Well he was 28 and she was 15 when they got engaged, and he a Catholic too..

Too bad he'd been cheating on her with 8 women. *koff*

But anyhoo, my parents are 16 years apart. there really shouldn't be any problem as long as both people have no issue with age...and as long as it's legal.

 

[trust_faith]

AGE difference is not a problem for this century now.. just follow ur heart. Pray for God's guidance... Dun worry. If she is yours, God will show you the way.

 

[wingcross]

What worries me is not the age, but your attitude when you said this:



Do better then her? Do you really see it as a competetion?

Perhaps it's not your age that worries her, but this attitude and the maturity level you're showing.

its not really competition. just that i want to provide to her all her needs. security and otherwise.

Anyway she has mentioned it is an end to this relationship. I totally broke down in tears.

 

[trust_faith]

Age gap to me is a problem last time.. But ever since I saw my uncle and my aunt together and get married, I know that age gap is definately not a problem already.
My uncle is 40 and my aunt is 27 only.. they are living happily together... now with 2 kids. So nice... Blessed by God too... If you really like that girl, just pray. God will lead you.