What do you hate about being single?

everything

I'm going to be bluntly honest:
The one thing I hate about being single is no one to be physical with. I plan on doing things differently in regards to the physical aspect than I did the last time around but yet, I am missing making out for long hours, falling on the floor, or that being the only logical option because of how heavy your kissing each other and its not to do anything more, but to have more room. Holding each other to where the heat between the two while is making you extremely warm feels so good. Playing with her hair and getting my fingers stuck. The clanking of the glasses on our face while making out. I like that.

Now to the non-physical things.
I miss talking with someone that I am involved with. Just talking about any ole little thing. I like to talk, so I can talk about the most meaningless topic, or the most meaningful topic. It is obvious that I can talk a lot, just look at how long my posts are here on CF and I am the same way in real life when I get going. I don't care either way...I love conversing. I miss going out to pubs with someone and drinking with them. I miss having someone to call. I miss having someone that we are building something together. I miss accidental spiffs that are worked out with immense vocalizing how much we love each other. I miss being nervous about meeting a girl's family and thinking, "Are they going to be like everyone else, who thinks different/not good, or have a 50/50 like I am also used to?" That is a challenge and I like challenges. I miss writing cliched' sappy romantic dripping poems to...the type that are both clever, original and that makes one wants to barf. I miss the talk about sex. The reason is because it shows how much two people respect each other, regardless if they agree on the topic itself, the very fact they are discussing it together to be sure what they should do, that shows how important and how high they look at sex, and I miss sharing that with a woman. I may be a non-believer, but I miss going to church with a woman I am involved with. I miss going shopping with a girl. I miss having someone with me while I golf. I don't mind being distracted from my game from random kissing sessions on the golf cart, or her getting the flag out of the hole for me and her having to bend over to drop it and she never knowing that I am actually looking her up and down instead of focusing on the elevation of the green, the softness or hardness of the green or which way it breaks. Another strange one that I have to admit, I miss praying about a woman. I am not talking about praying that God finds me a woman. I won't pray like that. I mean praying specifically for the one that I am involved with, for us, for her life, for our life. I miss that.

Don't take this as me being such a sad, sad, sad man being single. I'm the opposite. I'm pretty happy being single but there is a lot that I miss about being with someone and more than the above I am sure, but this post is getting long enough.

The loneliness. No one to talk to at end of each day. No one to call when you need a listening ear. No one to exchange "I love you" with. No one to do things with. No one to experience life's joys and sorrows with you.

No spiritual support. No one to pray with me and for me every night as I get ready for bed. No one I can just collapse and be broken with, and have them hold me up and support me and tell me it'll be OK and help me get through.

Lack of physical affection. Everything from holding hands to back rubs to hugs to wild, insane sex.

Inkabink said:

Lack of physical affection. Everything from holding hands to back rubs to hugs to wild, insane sex.

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Don't hold anything back.

smacarena said:

Don't hold anything back.

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Dude, the "I do's" are the green light, and my foot's on the accelerator lol.

smacarena said:

Don't hold anything back.

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One reason why Ink is in my book...I mean about not holding anything back

BTW Ink, I'm with you on the missing sex part. I am shocked at myself in some ways, pleasantly shocked that is.

Inkabink said:

Dude, the "I do's" are the green light, and my foot's on the accelerator lol.

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Just make sure you make it to the hotel first.

smacarena said:

Just make sure you make it to the hotel first.

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Why?

Im_A said:

One reason why Ink is in my book...I mean about not holding anything back

BTW Ink, I'm with you on the missing sex part. I am shocked at myself in some ways, pleasantly shocked that is.

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Awwww, thanks dude Yeah, God has a wonderful way of putting things into "hibernation" mode if you watch what you think about and look at and pray for help.

smacarena said:

Just make sure you make it to the hotel first.

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Shoot, what do you think the blacked out windows on the limo are for?

Inkabink said:

Awwww, thanks dude Yeah, God has a wonderful way of putting things into "hibernation" mode if you watch what you think about and look at and pray for help.

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Thanks for that Ink. The weird thing is I didn't ask for help. I just didn't go out looking for action. Thing is, the first thing I thought was, soon enough I'd go and just get in bed with someone that seemed attractive enough. Seems to be the typical male thing to do right? I've never done that before, but I seriously was concerned I'd do that several years ago. So I stayed away for that concern but I had a lot of other reasons why I stayed away from the dating scene, except for the one girl that I did date off and on during the course of 2 years (it didn't last that long btw, it was just in moments, actually about several dates in one month of one year and one more in the next) and I actually could have had the chance to do what I was concerned about and I didn't do it and didn't push anything and backed off.

I'm not worried about that now or anything but it was umm, 'odd' at first.

Inkabink said:

Shoot, what do you think the blacked out windows on the limo are for?

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Or the bed of a truck...not that I have done that but hey just as 2 plus 2 equals 4, so does being married plus horny equals a solution based in convenience.

Surely, not having sex? No point on beating around the bush....

Thomas1984 said:

Surely, not having sex? No point on beating around the bush....

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Ink and I have burned the bush man.

This conversation is polluting my eyeballs.

I couldn't care any less about the sex... but the loneliness and lack of physical affection alone can drive a person into depression

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And this thread is in the gutter.

I'm gonna agree and say, definitely not having sex. Right up there with it is the physical and emotional affection.

Saying that a drawback of not being married is not having sex, is not gutter talk. It's just a fact.

Milkshake, anyone?

Inkabink said:

Saying that a drawback of not being married is not having sex, is not gutter talk. It's just a fact.

Milkshake, anyone?

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there's more to it than just sex, though...
cuddling, for instance, to me, means more than any sexual encounter than I can possibly imagine... just thinking about holding someone and being held in return brings unfathomable joy and peace to my mind... and yet it's something I've never been able to do