what do you do?

[soyness]

what do you do while you wait for your soulmate? How do you help youreself from loneliness and desire of a mate?

 

[FFD]

Concentrate and work on your own life first. If you are happy with yourself and I believe if you have a good relationship with God, everything else will follow.

 

[bogie]

It's funny that you mention lonelyness because I just wrote about this very thing in my journal here on cf.com.

Excerpt from my jouzrnal.

"There comes a time in a dudes life when lonelyness begins to set in. My defeat for when I feel like this is just keeping busy. Right now if Im attached to a signifficant other too much it will drain me from the things I love to do. So for the most part I am doing all that stuff now while I still can."

 

[winglovesall]

God knows who your soulmate is - if you're talking in this context Soyness - he has planned one for you.

If you are talking - as in friends - patience - it can be hard and it's what God asks us. Patience sometimes come at a price - if you really feel deeply to that man and you want to express it to him and you can't - you should talk to God about it. God might not give you an answer directly, but he certainly does somewhere, sometime.

It's patience - I have it but sometimes I give up having patience because there's too much for me - it's how you cope with it as well - I think that's what I've been pointing out to you, Soyness.

You can chat around Christian Forums or you can go out and meet people. Talk to people on the bus or at work or anywhere outside and develop good relations with them. Good relations means unity. Friendship is something that needs to be done - you need to know your friend well to see if that's your soulmate.

Dates - you have to go through many. You might have to go through many males before you receive what you wanted as a soulmate.

Wing

 

[mina]

First y ou acknowledge that you are lonely; Then you recognize that lots of people are lonely and that marriage and a relationship doesn't always make you unlonely. Then you should talk to God about it and tell Him how you are feeling; He knows anyway but it's always good to talk to God. Ask HIm what to do about it. One think you can do is to pour out your life. Find someone or several someones in worse situations than you and go help them. Visit a nursing home and get to talking to people who feel really lonely and forgotten. When we take the focus off of our situtation and put it on others that need help then it eases our lonliness. Plus you can make really cool friends.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

My attitude's always been that there's things that God handles, and things that I can control.

It's on God to bring us together, but I decide how often I lift weights, wether I invest money or spend it on beers, and how much effort I put into my spiritual life.

So, while I'm waiting, I'm doing what I can to be the fittest, richest, Godliest iklepac13 I can be so when I meet this chick I'll be able to say I did my best and she'll be like "Oh baby oh baby break me off a piece of that..." Or somethig to that affect.

I guess the waiting time is prep-time really.

 

[chanis]

what do you do while you wait for your soulmate? How do you help youreself from loneliness and desire of a mate?

I think it's important to be happy with yourself and alwys working at bettering yourself - however that looks. If you're down in the dumps about not having someone and miserable about it I really think that pushes others away...honestly who wants to be freinds/BF/GF with someone who's always pessimistic...so it's learning to be content where ever you are now that doesn't mean comfortable...you gotta go grow and soar for greater things in life and as your journey through that he'll/she'll come...

So, while I'm waiting, I'm doing what I can to be the fittest, richest, Godliest iklepac13 I can be so when I meet this chick I'll be able to say I did my best and she'll be like "Oh baby oh baby break me off a piece of that..." Or somethig to that affect..

that's funnnnnni!

 

[Mr.Cheese]

You learn to be content with yourself and live life, continuing to grow as a person.

Perhaps it's not waiting so much as it is God making us who we need to be for the person we are meant to be with.

 

[Sketcher]

There are plenty of things that can distract me from those thoughts.

 

[BlackSaab52]

Just find something productive to do with your life and continue to grow and learn as a Christian.

 

[boilerblues]

OK, It's cliche but it is from God:

Matt. 6:33 “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."

As I've waited I've poured my life into serving God as He has called me. Find a group of friends for fellowship and find a way you can serve others. Live life like you aren't waiting, chase hard after God and at the right time He will guide you to the right person.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

OK, It's cliche but it is from God:

Matt. 6:33 “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."

As I've waited I've poured my life into serving God as He has called me. Find a group of friends for fellowship and find a way you can serve others. Live life like you aren't waiting, chase hard after God and at the right time He will guide you to the right person.

"Live life like you aren't waiting"

Thats good. I think thats key here.

 

[stormgade4]

If you ever need something to occupy your time, volunteer. I work with an animal rescue group and through them I adopted two kittens in January in addition to having foster cats. Those two keep me very entertained and not lonely very often.

 

[OhhJim]

Live enough, and you may find you don't have the time or desire for a spouse. You may even change your mind about the existence of "soulmates".

 

[Niels]

My attitude's always been that there's things that God handles, and things that I can control.

That's pretty much my outlook too. I just try to do the best with what I'm given. If and when my soul mate enters the picture, I'm sure I'll be able to handle what God asks of me. Until then, I just try to live a decent life, pay the bills, read interesting things and pursue activities like art and cycling.

 

[JPPT1974]

God does things and controls them beyond our control and beyond our means. That is wonderful and awesome that we have an heavenly Father for that.

 

[Femme Savante]

If you ever need something to occupy your time, volunteer. I work with an animal rescue group and through them I adopted two kittens in January in addition to having foster cats. Those two keep me very entertained and not lonely very often.

Yes ! Hooray for cats !

Aren't kittens the absolute best thing God ever made ? Of course, I may be a little prejudiced. I once shared my apartment with my cat's litter of six kittens (for eight weeks). I forgot I had a television.

FS

 

[Femme Savante]

what do you do while you wait for your soulmate? How do you help youreself from loneliness and desire of a mate?

I'm the anomaly here. God has given me the gift of solitude, so I'm very seldom lonely.

I'm the youngest of three very widely-spaced children. In school I was too bright and too odd to have any friends until I hit high school, so I learned to fend for myself. I learned to read before I started grade school, so my first friends were books.

In high school I was a part of my church's youth group and dated several guys from the group. As I grew older, I found I didn't belong at my church -- it was too legalistic and fundamentalist for me -- so again I was alone. But I've always had my family and my cats. I find animals to be great companions.

Eventually I started attending a Church of Christ and became engaged to a guy I met there. Unfortunately, when I moved out of state to finish my university education, he couldn't handle the separation and ended our engagement. I felt devastated and lonely, but only until classes started again -- as a full-time student my mind and body were fully occupied and happy.

Now that I'm one class away from achieving my diploma I have a lot of free time, but I'm never lonely. I go to services at Columbine Church of Christ ; I've built houses with Habitat for Humanity ; I belong to CCC's singles group. I also belong to a couple groups related to my passion, France and the French language, a French-speaking group and the Denver chapter of the French Alliance. And I've been dating several guys, casually, now that I have the time to date.

But I'm really a homebody. It seems my favorite way to spend a saturday night is to watch a DVD with a big bowl of popcorn. I'm also very content to immerse myself in a book all day and night. Reading is a great cure for loneliness because when your mind is completely engrossed in the hero's journey, you can't think about how lonely you are. When I've had a really bad day I start reading as soon as I get home ; and somehow, when I stop reading, everything seems better.

FS

 

[songz777]

OK, It's cliche but it is from God:

Matt. 6:33 “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."

As I've waited I've poured my life into serving God as He has called me. Find a group of friends for fellowship and find a way you can serve others. Live life like you aren't waiting, chase hard after God and at the right time He will guide you to the right person.

Brilliant answer brov!!!!!!!!!!
Thats just what i seek to do, yes you are right bless you brov

 

[songz777]

The answer to the question is indeed be busy for God and make the most of being single and most of all spend as much time with the Lord as poss for in this you discover a whole new world of happiness, thats greater than any earthly relationship.