What do you do for fun?

[Stanfi]

Hello married folks,

I have a question for you. What do you do all do for fun? I look at the live of some friends of mine and even my parents, and their lives seem pretty routine, mundane and boring.

So, I guess that is my question, Once you got married, did the fun leave your life? Do you consider it to be mundane and routine? What do you do to have fun?

 

[selune]

Check out the other post here in this forum. Seems we have several gamers, poeple who like to do things outdoors and a variety of other things.

 

[desi]

Fun! I pester everyone here at the forums, read, exercise, watch movies, work with my kids' on their tai kwon do, work with my son's Cub Scout pack, shoot guns with my father, and on occasion drink booze with my fellow Legionaires. But my favorite thing to do is go on an occasional date with my wife. We go places we went when we dated as well as new places, we talk about how things are and how we want them to be, we share dreams and conspire as to how we can help each other make such dreams reality.

 

[lucypevensie]

Well, it's true that married people's lives can get boring. But so can a single person's life, really. And mundane is not always a bad thing. If all we did was have fun all the time then fun would cease to be fun. The magic word is of course: balance . Yep, some married people need to turn off the TV and come home from work a little early once in a while and forget about the housework for one day.

For me getting married was not the end of fun. If fact it made life more exciting. We continued our regular Friday night dates. Having children was another story. Some couples handle the transition well, but I had no idea how to have a good time. And I did end up sitting at home a lot.

 

[Stanfi]

Wow, Three people.. married life must be a drone.

 

[Whitestone]

No those of us that are having fun will get back to you and post later.

 

[artofwar]

I have more fun now than i ever did when i was single, heaps of socialisation heaps of us play risk quite a lot, goto the footy cricket, play heaps of sport goto the beach all the time and just hang out

 

[slim]

I think that the fun in my marriage is the small things. We ride bikes and take walks and play games enjoy each others company

 

[Peter]

Fun is something that the young and temporal minded concern themselves with. What matters most in a marriage is oneness, not entertainment. Joy might be a better way to describe the being of oneness. In this way marriage in the human element mirrors the marriage of Christ and His bride. True unity brings about joy without having to have fun. When one worries about not having fun with their spouse, chances are they have turned inward and selfish.

Now, there are things that can be done with a spouse that bring both oneness and pleasure. However, the main reason of any activity should be unity.

Example, my wife asked me to go shopping with her today. I hate shopping. However, I read through her invitation to the true meaning, "I want to spend time with you." I died to myself and went with her. It was a nice day with her. I even let her drive everywhere. It was her day. I let her be in charge, as it were. I was just there for her. Was it "fun?" Yeah, maybe.

Peace.

Peter

 

[IslandBreeze]

My goodness. You'd think some of you would rather go to a funeral than have "fun" with your spouse. I hardly think there's anything inherently evil or sinful about wanting to do activities and share fun times with your spouse--for nothing more than the sake of just having fun.

Having said that, my husband and I like to travel, play cards, see movies and take walks. There is a lot that we do soley for entertainment. It helps keep things interesting, and we always have a good time.

 

[GirlieGirl]

I've had the best time of my life since I've been married. We do lots of things together: walkings, swimming, hiking, hosting dinner/going to dinners, going out on dates at restaurants/movies, taking part in the married events at church, playing computer games with eachother, cook togther, and then all the bedroom stuff -so much stuff! Gosh, we're swamped. Listing it all makes me think we'll need a vacation soon - oh yeah, we go on vacations together too!

 

[sarah marie]

I've made it a habit to make sure I do something to make my husband laugh every day. I always tell him that I know that was the "real" reason he married me...

 

[desi]

In a way, asking what married couples do for fun is like asking what fun you get out of going to church. The reward and fulfillment is there but has little to do with worldly reward, well maybe it does a little.

 

[Whitestone]

I like always having a date no matter what event I get invited to...basicly anything and everything can be fun with a spouse. Theme parks, house work, cooking dinner, the joy of being together is fun in itself.