What do you call....

[lawtonfogle]

a crush that has lasted for over 3 years, and is alot more than just a crush???

What would you call it???

 

[BigHearted]

Obsession?

 

[silentpoet]

I would call it stupidity, but then again that is because I know the problem pretty well from the inside. But take heart, God made us the way He made us for a reason. WHo knows what purpose it may serve in our lives to be so foolish. We cannot understand the ways and plans of God.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

My dad has this problem. He is CERTAIN that he will eventually end up with this woman who is 18 years younger than him, not interested, and is currently in an immoral relationship with his brother! He's liked her since 1996 but didn't develop an 'obsession' until 2003 when he 'met up' with her again and found out she was divorced, i.e., "available." Since then, the family has been miserable! :-(

Whatever you're going through, I hope it's nothing like this situation.

 

[JPPT1974]

My dad has this problem. He is CERTAIN that he will eventually end up with this woman who is 18 years younger than him, not interested, and is currently in an immoral relationship with his brother! He's liked her since 1996 but didn't develop an 'obsession' until 2003 when he 'met up' with her again and found out she was divorced, i.e., "available." Since then, the family has been miserable! :-(

Whatever you're going through, I hope it's nothing like this situation.

I hope that you won't go through the same situation.
Sorry HC about your dad and the family being miserable.
Hope & pray that they won't be miserable for long.

 

[BigHearted]

Obsession?

Forgive me for sounding harsh. I want to tell you though that through middle and high school I spent the better part of 6 years madly in love with this one chick that I never had a real friendship with. More or less I made myself miserable and her probably more than a little uncomfortable. A year or so ago I found her name on classmates.com and I sent a little note just for old times sake I guess (I'm really long over her).

I have also noticed the tendancy to do this oin my own life now and really want to avoid that. If you develop an interest in someone I'm learnign that maybe the best thing to do is express it in a non-weird non-threatening way and see what happens. Wrapping yourself around someone without any reciprocation or even hope of reciprocation is just asking for trouble.

Hope this helps.

 

[JPPT1974]

Forgive me for sounding harsh. I want to tell you though that through middle and high school I spent the better part of 6 years madly in love with this one chick that I never had a real friendship with. More or less I made myself miserable and her probably more than a little uncomfortable. A year or so ago I found her name on classmates.com and I sent a little note just for old times sake I guess (I'm really long over her).

I have also noticed the tendancy to do this oin my own life now and really want to avoid that. If you develop an interest in someone I'm learnign that maybe the best thing to do is express it in a non-weird non-threatening way and see what happens. Wrapping yourself around someone without any reciprocation or even hope of reciprocation is just asking for trouble.

Hope this helps.

You didn't sound harsh to me at all. As you were just being honest.
I appreciate someone's honesty. Especially someone that is "brutally honest!"
I had felt that way myself. BTW, had you heard from her?
It is just asking for trouble. If you express yourself in a threatening and wierd way.

 

[treerootbill]

Many people feel this at age 16. If you were more than 5 years older, then it would be just sad. Im sure you will get over this problem in due time.

 

[christdriven]

I dunno what you would call it. The longest I have liked someone was a year and a half. But I prayed so long about it once I found out that it wasnt Gods will. God took the feelings away overnight. And I really learned a lot about myself. I wasnt treating him like a brother in Christ, instead I was treating him in a way that he didnt deserve to be treated as a selfish part of what I wanted for my future. I was being selfish and destroyed any real hope for a good friendship. It has almost been a year later and I still have no feelings for him. I now look at guys with the eyes of Christ. Hoping that I will love them with brotherly love before examining whether or not they are my ¨potential¨ husband.
Pray about the feelings you have, and in Gods will they may be taken away. Maybe you should ask God why you still have those feelings and ask whether or not they are from him. If they are not, ask for them to be taken away, surrender them to Gods will. Im sure things will work out!

 

[TriptychR]

a crush that has lasted for over 3 years, and is alot more than just a crush???

What would you call it???

A pulverization.

 

[chanis]

dunno...but it does sound kinda like an obsession if you ask me...

 

[JPPT1974]

Many people feel this at age 16. If you were more than 5 years older, then it would be just sad. Im sure you will get over this problem in due time.

Yeah as they say, time heals old wounds.