What do I do?!

[DTate98]

A few years ago, I met a girl that I still haven't gotten over. She had everything. Looks (as in she was beautiful, I didn't really pay attention to her body), calm and happy personality, godly lifestyle, and she was everything I could fall in love with. When I realized how amazing she was, I was scared of rejection, so I never told her anything. Instead I told my brother, who told a friend who told her sister who told her. She seemed okay with it, but I still hadn't asked her if she liked me back. Every now and then, my friends would tease me about it, as I hadn't really shown my sensitive side to anyone other than my family before. One time they got me and her and everyone else speculating what might a marriage between us would look like. Her sister I guess tried to scare me out of it by mentioning several kids and big dogs. It didn't really work as I could either compromise or accept in that hypothetical situation. I eventually, though shyly, asked if she liked me. She seemed a little embarrassed and said that she liked me as a friend. For a while I had hoped she said that out of fear of embarrassment in front of a bus full of friends. Then I kinda accepted it. I later tried to show good character by being a little more mature in hopes she would develop mutual feelings for me. But since I go into deep thought a lot, I came at the conclusion that I would have to wait and hope our paths would cross again for another chance. I was terrified of her father. He was a military man still on active duty, and a proud D.A.D.D (Dad against daughters dating). He had a short to prove it. I was told she wasn't able to date until she was old enough to marry or until she was 18. She moved from Georgia to Washington, the state. I had no way of keeping in touch, other than a facebook profile. I'm still hesitant to add her as a friend, because of this idea in my head that it would be awkward and it would send the wrong message. I haven't seen her since early 2014, and whenever I come across that facebook profile, she looks just as beautiful as she did when I met her. I haven't really met anyone else who made me feel like that, and I have no idea if she was the one God made to be my wife someday, or if that was just the tip of the iceberg. I don't know if I'll ever see her again, but my parents mentioned her family moving to North Carolina soon. What should I do about this? Hold on to her or let go and move on?

 

[ecotime47]

Hey there. Sorry you're going through all of this. I totally get your dilemma in connecting with her on Facebook.

Here's the thing, you've already expressed that you had feelings for her and she didn't feel the same way. That was a long time ago and now she lives across the country. What harm is there in now adding her on FB?

Just focus on pursuing a friendship with her. Sometimes these situations evolve into something more over time. If not, you have a great friend.

Hang in there.

 

[DTate98]

Hey there. Sorry you're going through all of this. I totally get your dilemma in connecting with her on Facebook.

Here's the thing, you've already expressed that you had feelings for her and she didn't feel the same way. That was a long time ago and now she lives across the country. What harm is there in now adding her on FB?

Just focus on pursuing a friendship with her. Sometimes these situations evolve into something more over time. If not, you have a great friend.

Hang in there.

Thank you. I just hope that if it's not her I'm supposed to be with, then there's someone else that's even more special.

 

[DTate98]

Hey there. Sorry you're going through all of this. I totally get your dilemma in connecting with her on Facebook.

Here's the thing, you've already expressed that you had feelings for her and she didn't feel the same way. That was a long time ago and now she lives across the country. What harm is there in now adding her on FB?

Just focus on pursuing a friendship with her. Sometimes these situations evolve into something more over time. If not, you have a great friend.

Hang in there.

I did it! I finally did it. I added her on Facebook. It took so much confidence you wouldn't even believe it. Thanks for the advice. Hopefully she accepts.