What Do I Do?

[leyon]

Hi, some of you might have seen me over at GA, just joined you guys not too long ago.

I grew up in a Christian home. I've done more church 'equipping modules' than I can remember, and am currently holding a 'position' of some significance in church. I have come back to the Lord after many years of fruitlessly 'searching' for Him, and I believe with all my heart that if ever He was real, its now.

The question: God has revealed to me that to know Him, I must give up a particularly close friendship I enjoy with my youth leader. She is 25, I am 19. We are strictly platonic, but we do grab each other's arms on occasion, and may lean on each other whilst conversing with others. Also, she's literally bitten me several times. We are from totally different ends of the spectrum (in terms of personality) but I feel we compliment each other very well.

After coming back from a trip to Phuket, she informed me that she had a conviction from God that something about our friendship was wrong. I know, I said. We resolved to not speak to each other on a one-to-one basis for the moment, including phone calls. Would this be the right way to go? I'm praying, but I really cannot put my finger on what is wrong with us. I'd figure we're too close, but at what distance should I keep it at then? It feels really... well... terrible. Knowing that things will never be the same....

Any advice & prayer is most welcome...

 

[Mr.Cheese]

At least both of you have the same vibe. No one-on-one is a good idea. I'd stick to that for now. What else can you do? It's probably gonna be a little awkward for a while, but time will straighten that out. That's the best I can do.
Be patient and you'll get some more ideas soon. There's some really cool people here when it comes to advice.

 

[GraftMeIn]

I will be praying for you both. It could be that drawing yourself closer this other person, was drawing you away from your relationship with God. maybe you started to rely on each other more than on him. Or he just wants you to know this isn't who he has in mind for you to be with. In any sense I realy can't be sure. Just keep trusting in God, and do what you feel he wants you to do. It's our relationship with him that's most important.

 

[Remny]

Oh buddy, wrong could mean many many things. Maybe you are feeling the relationship is "wrong" because it is not that you guys are dateing. God could have many plans for you, but I assure you, he wants you to have as many friends as possible. And if something is "wrong" with a friendship, he doesn't want you to abandon it, he wants you to FIX it. Heh heh, is one of you married? I can see that that might constitute a "wrong" but really I'm just shooting in the dark.

I assure you though, a friendship should never be abandond while there is any hope. God does not abandon us. I will pray for you guys... it sounds like you two have something really good going on, and I would hate to see it end.

Also, I REALLY hate to blame things on the Devil. For the most part I think humans are perfectly capable of being bad without him. However, if I were the devil, placeing a dumb vibe in someone's heart to ruin a friendship would be a really sneeky, fun, and evil thing for me to do. If I were the devil... it'd be a great plan!

Ok, here I go to pray!

*pray pray pray pray*


Benjamin Jeanotte

 

[amie]

Hi leyon,
sometimes as we draw closer to other people it can take us away from the Lord. I am NOT saying that was happening here, I am not sure of the logistics of the situation, but I know that it is sometimes better to back off from a relation if one is feeling certain vibes. And if you are BOTH feeling the same thing, then chances are it may be a much needed break, you never know it could be a segway into something glorious for you and it could be a means of keeping things under control. Tell her not to bite you, human bites are dangerous (kidding here) In all seriousness, I think you are doing the right thing by taking a break, at least for the time being. especially since you feel it is coming from God, don't want to ignore that my friend. Although, it does sound like a great friendship too, so I hope it will continue to some extent...I want you to know that I am praying for you over this situation. It is natural for you to feel a bit let down or bummed in a sense, it is change and people have a hard time adapting to change. It is human nature and you were comfortable with things before and even if you weren't comfortable you at least were use to things how they were, so this in a sense is change...and therefore will take a "getting use to" I am here for you if you ever need any more advice. I am praying always with love and blessings...
Amie

P.S. I would write more since I was in a similar situation once, but it is 3:50am in California and I have yet to go to sleep!!!!(insomnia) so I am tired...I am praying!

 

[leyon]

Thanks for you prayers and support, really apprieciate it.

I'll tell you guys a bit more, might help make things clearer to you the thing which I cannot see. I admit I previously had thoughts about us being together, but I did not really entertain the thought, what with previous bad experiences (in relationships), youth group taunting (mebbe it's too obvious that we spend alot of time together) and the fact that she is the 2nd highest authority in the hierachy of the youth, 1st being the senior pastor.

I think you guys may be right, now is a very sensitive time for me with God, seeing as I just came back to Him not too long ago. It's so weird. I'm worried that even in a group setting our 'attachness' to one another may bubble and we might exclude the group from our 'discussion'.

And the fact that she told me I'm the first person she runs to when she's had an accident, has problems with her family, hates church sometimes does not make it any easier, especially in the way she says it.

Oh why does God choose that which is most dear? Why does He ask for it when everything is *perfect* between us? Nevertheless, praise the Lord, for I can only learn from this experience!

 

[amie]

yes dear leyon,
it is a "growing pain"....lord knows I have had my share of them. Best of luck and more advice tomorrow, now it is after 4:00, so I am really off to bed this time..goodnight leyon...er...good morning...
Praying always...
Amie