What do I do when my man doesn't want sex and doesn't want to admit there's a problem

[Baroness]

The title says it all. We were very sexually active for the fist four years of the nine we've been together. Now he doesn't even attempt to make love to me and the last time he couldn't keep an erection and he's 65, ten yrs old than me so i'm assuming is erectyle disfunction. He won't admit this, pretends like its okay, won't see a doctor about it and will not take anything for it. We get along very well and love each other but he sleeps on the sofa and i'm in the bedroom.
His excuse is he snores and he doesn't want me to come out on the sofa because I have for that reason and I don't sleep well out there, but now he's out there most of the time. Once in awhile he will sleep with me and he used to make an attempt at sex but now he just falls asleep. It isn't me because i'm a very pretty and sensual woman and men are coming on to me all the time.
I don't try to talk to him about it anymore because he just acts like he's just tired or whatever but I suspect he is masterbating but I haven't caught him in it. What used to do the trick, me dressing in a sexy neglige', isn't working anymore. He's retired and he volunteers up at canyon park and works very hard and then comes home and just sits in front of the tv. Except for the sex thing we have a good relationship. Niether one of us is demanding and give each other space and it works for both of us.
What doesn't work for me is not having sex. I like sex and am good at it, so i've been told, and I miss it and I think its a waste that i'm sleeping naked in bed every night when I could be making love. I just don't know how to fix this problem or what to do. I've been forced to take care of my own needs by myself but only as a last resort. I can't believe this is happening to me. I've thought of leaving but I do love him I just miss sex.

 

[Johnnz]

Erections and sexual interest go together with men. Erectile dysfunction can greatly reduce his interest in sex. Plus, it's demotivating to try and yet fail to 'deliver' sexually. Has he had a medical recently. Erectile dysfunction can be a symptom of cardiac risk.

There is more to sex than intercourse. Mutual masturbation, oral sex, a vibrator can help extend good sexual activity between couples.

John
NZ

 

[louie44]

I am 66 and they say men over 65 should have there prosite checked because the prosite has a lot to do with ED. If he don't have cancer , he may have an enlarged prosite which slows down his sex desire. It can be corrected.
louie44