What do homosexuals think of divorce?

[Autumnleaf]

Is it wrong or not? Is it even an issue worth consideration?

 

[Sylvanspirits]

I would imagine opinions vary from person to person based on their personal beliefs and opinions, just as it does among heterosexuals.

 

[Wiccan_Child]

It is very unfortunate, but sometimes it is better to divorce. My parents divorced a few years ago, and I was sad that they did. However, I would not wish them to stay together if it made them or us (the kids) unhappy.

So it's sad that it happen, but sometimes it is the lesser of two evils.

 

[Allister]

Divorce is a sign that we have matured as a society. My grandmother was heavily abused by my grandfather unfortunately divorce was unacceptable and she was forced to stay in a horrible marriage. My parents divorced. And I am truly glad they did. They we both miserable after 18 years of marriage. Now they are both remarried and happy. (and I got to go to two weddings)

 

[Beanieboy]

As a homosexual, I would say that when heterosexuals claim that gay marriage is the biggest threat to marriage, they aren't looking at the divorce elephant standing in the room. Divorce is the biggest threat to marriage, in my opinion. I also get frustrated when people say, "What's to say that gay people won't divorce after they marry?" Hello, Mr. Kettle? This is Mr. Pot. You're black.

As a person, I think that at times, divorce is necessary. I have seen instances where one parent has put the children or spouse in danger. I have a friend whose sister got divorced. He is a partner at a law firm. He bought expensive clothes (to impress clients), but she was expected to sew all of hers and the kids'.) He would often come home at 4am, and then want her to have sex. She had a job, but was expected to do the "women's work" while he made money (the man's work.) At holiday gatherings, he usually slept on the couch for the majority of the time, because he was either working, or out entertaining clients. There were weeks when she didn't see him because he would come home at 3am, and leave for work at 6am. She even suspected that he was having an affair, because her mother saw him with a woman at a restaurant.. They went to counseling, and had breakthroughs, but then he wouldn't follow through. So, after claiming he wanted to try again repeatedly, she said, "enough."

My brother got divorced. He married his ex- when she became pregnant. She was probably abused, because she was very abusive (she once broke a mason jar over his back.) She talked in her sleep, begging not to be hit, but would never get help. After going to counceling and unable to resolve it, they split.

There are reasons people get divorced, and ones that I believe are valid.

Unfortunately, people are encouraged to get married, like it is an expectation. Women want to get married for the wedding, it seems, more than because they want to be with the man. They just want some man. They enjoy planning their fairy tale wedding for a year, and playing fairy princess, never thinking about the reality and seriousness of the contract. Often, people say that it is the "bride's day", and all the focus is on her, when a marriage isn't about one person, nor should it ever be.

Then I hear the pastor/priest say, "as long as you both shall live", and what they seem to hear is, "as long as you can both stand each other"?

No one prepares them for the reality. The bride is caught up in the pageantry, the size of the rock, the Fairy Tale, and they never think about the fact that during their lives, there will be times when they really aren't into each other, and they just need to stick it out.

If heterosexuals understood that a marriage isn't a wedding, isn't the cake, the dress, or the ring, isn't "and they lived happily ever after", they would have a much better time making it work. Unfortunately, they often enter into it, thinking, "We love each other, and that's all that matters", or claiming that the wedding is the most important day of their lives, when it is simply the beginning.

 

[Mling]

Occasionally it is necessary, but I consider it to be the biggest assault on marriage that exists today. I intend to choose my wife very, very
carefully, and only after we've been through some rough times, too. None of the "we get along all the time, and never fight, so our marriage will just be perfect," fantasy.

 

[m9lc]

It is very unfortunate, but sometimes it is better to divorce. My parents divorced a few years ago, and I was sad that they did. However, I would not wish them to stay together if it made them or us (the kids) unhappy.

So it's sad that it happen, but sometimes it is the lesser of two evils.

I agree with this totally.

 

[.Sabre.]

It's unfortunate. But it is a necessary thing because sometimes the couple are better off separate.

I think that cases like Britney's 55 hour marriage are ridiculous and a serious threat to marriage. Marriage is not only that one day. It's a COMMITMENT and fairly permanent. And this is why cohabitation should be encouraged so that you know who and what you'll be living with, not just date someone for 3 months and get engaged.

 

[Renton405]

Homosexuality and Divorce are both equally bad. If a woman divorces and remarrys another man(and vice-versa) they become an adulterer..

2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages. And the chances of divorce keep doubling everytime you remarry..

The problem is, is that men and woman today are marrying people that they are not compatible with. They need to wait and make sure that they are the one. Too many people marry someone that has an alterior motive(money, status, job, etc) and are not marrying for the real reasons(love, children and God). Lotsa women, espesially when they are young, gravitate towards guys who are jerks, marry them, and then they wonder what happened when it dosen't work out.

A marriage without love, children and God is already in trouble because there is no moral structure. A true married couple works out their problems with each other, no matter what, both for themselves and for their children. Divorce is a permanent solution for a temporary problem, it is for people who are weak and cannot work out their problems.

Divorce is a sign that we have matured as a society

What? Leaving your husband/wife because you cannot handle the problems is mature? Leaving your wife/husband and children for someone else is mature?? Do you know how much divorce hurts children these days??

 

[Allister]

What? Leaving your husband/wife because you cannot handle the problems is mature? Leaving your wife/husband and children for someone else is mature?? Do you know how much divorce hurts children these days??

Yes I do and it's not as much as you would seem to believe. I was a child from divorced parents and I know many people who are in the same situation as me. Everything turned out fine, better than the original scenario of parents staying together and hating each other.

My Grandmother was heavily abused by her husband but this was in a time where it was frowned upon to divorce. A society I see you want back. Today she would have left him alone. She would not have had to endure years and years of abuse, both physical and mental. It was only after his death that she is now free from his patriarchal reign of terror.

Any society that condones such behaviour and allows the abused partner to leave is a sign of maturity.

 

[quatona]

What do homosexuals think of divorce? Is it wrong or not? Is it even an issue worth consideration?

I´m not gay, but I guess they have as diverse opinions about it as heterosexuals have.

 

[Stinker]

What do homosexuals think of divorce?

Is it wrong or not? Is it even an issue worth consideration?

Well, the Christian homosexual would think it acceptable if it was for fornication (Mt.19:9) or their non-believing spouse divorces/abandons them (1Cor.7:15).


The non-believing homosexual might believe that marriage itself came to us today from ancient Egypt over 5000 years ago, so divorce would just be society's way of a couple's ending their contract with each other.

 

[bammertheblue]

I wish my parents would divorce. They have a totally disfunctional relationship; my father is irresponsible and emotionally abusive. (Example: once when I was about 13 I got mad at my brother because he hit me, and my father screamed "Why do you always have to be such a b-tch, just like your mother?") My parents are emotionally divorced, yet still live together, and I wish my mom would just pack up her stuff and leave the jerk.
Sometimes divorce really is a better solution. Sometimes it's not. It has nothing to do with gay or straight-ness.

 

[TeddyKGB]

Homosexuality and Divorce are both equally bad. If a woman divorces and remarrys another man(and vice-versa) they become an adulterer..

Only by some definition that only you are likely to acknowledge.

The problem is, is that men and woman today are marrying people that they are not compatible with.

As opposed to men and women of 300 years ago who were married by fiscal and political arrangement.

They need to wait and make sure that they are the one. Too many people marry someone that has an alterior motive(money, status, job, etc) and are not marrying for the real reasons(love, children and God).

How long do you think "love" has been a primary reason to marry?

Lotsa women, espesially when they are young, gravitate towards guys who are jerks, marry them, and then they wonder what happened when it dosen't work out.

Where did you happen upon this comprehensive understanding of "lotsa women"?

A marriage without love, children and God is already in trouble because there is no moral structure.

It's pretty silly to make sweeping statements like this that can be falsified by a single counterexample.

 

[SimplyMe]

Homosexuality and Divorce are both equally bad. If a woman divorces and remarrys another man(and vice-versa) they become an adulterer..

2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages. And the chances of divorce keep doubling everytime you remarry..

The problem is, is that men and woman today are marrying people that they are not compatible with. They need to wait and make sure that they are the one. Too many people marry someone that has an alterior motive(money, status, job, etc) and are not marrying for the real reasons(love, children and God). Lotsa women, espesially when they are young, gravitate towards guys who are jerks, marry them, and then they wonder what happened when it dosen't work out.

A marriage without love, children and God is already in trouble because there is no moral structure. A true married couple works out their problems with each other, no matter what, both for themselves and for their children. Divorce is a permanent solution for a temporary problem, it is for people who are weak and cannot work out their problems.




What? Leaving your husband/wife because you cannot handle the problems is mature? Leaving your wife/husband and children for someone else is mature?? Do you know how much divorce hurts children these days??

Renton,

I never realized you are a homosexual (looks at OP).

 

[IzzyPop]

2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages. And the chances of divorce keep doubling everytime you remarry..

So if first marriages end in divorce 50% of the time, than second marriages end in divorce 100% of the time, and a third marriage will end in divorce 200% of the time?

 

[Cian]

I'm gay and if I ever marry and the relationship goes sour, I have nothing against getting a divorce. It's as plain and simple as that.

 

[wanderingone]

Is it wrong or not? Is it even an issue worth consideration?

I'm pretty sure you'd find a variety of opinions, why don't you ask your gay friends.

 

[Mling]

I'm pretty sure you'd find a variety of opinions, why don't you ask your gay friends.

That's funny, wandering...

 

[selfinflikted]

I'm gay, and my opinion on divorce is that in some cases (maybe most), it's warranted. That is all.