Perhaps I used the incorrect phrase. Sorry. I simply met that you assign thoughts and values to me which are not my own but rather your own impression of what you think I think. If that makes any sense at all. In any case I'm sorry for the confusion. I don't really keep up with much psychology even poor psychology. Really it is amazing how many people one can hold a conversation with when one is civil. I don't particularly think I'm an exception black woman who can carry on a converstaion.
I may believe in equal rights but there are others who don't and there are times when it needs defending. Laws are subject to change and simply obeying without undersatnding and reasoning the logic or lack thereof behind them is a dangerous things because when your rights are challenged you can not defend them. Believe it or not but I have had discussions with people who think I should go back to my country of origin despite being born here. People who think I should not have gone to university, should be having babies now, should be married to a different husband because he is white. They have no authority legally but that does not stop me wanting to discuss the ethics of their questions. Does this make sense? I apologise if it does not.
I said it because I believe it. Maybe because later in my teens I travelled to the middle east with my parents and saw a reality where women truly could be forced into gender roles. Maybe because there are Christian men and women who advocate such things. Maybe because I also thought it was related to the topic at hand.
If I truly wanted to find out what single feminists wanted I would ask in the singles forum but maybe that is just me. Asking about people is hardly ever as useful as asking them themselves which I hoped I pointed out somewhat lightheartedly in my answer. I apologise to the op for trying and failing to use my sense of humour.
I'm glad to hear that. It might be wise to make sure you know what the person with whom you are discussing actually thinks. For all you know it may not be a form of which you dissaprove. But a discussion forum is there so we can discuss things and see other ideas/opinions. There will be people who think they are just as correct as you are with different ideas. Being civil and reasonable may help one understand the argument more. I hope the same is true for yourself. Tell me, what forms of feminism do you hold animosity to and why?
Has nothing to do with being an exceptional black woman, or woman of any color or race. It has to do, as McScribe indicates, with here, if you had some history here (begs the question why we subject ourselves to it) by now, in these 3 exchanges of ideas, we'd be experiencing venom and vitriol OR we'd be off on one of 3 or 4 tangents that they seem wedded to.
Again, do not mistake me for wanting to be right. I can see how that would come across with new and limited exposure, but stick around long enough and you will learn that its not about being right at all. its about the very simple human desire to discuss what is being said about the topic at hand.
All we want is to have our own words reflected back in responses, as you are doing, as we figure this out, as we suggest then modify understandings, and we figure what we meant.....by asking and clarifying. It truly is amazing for me, like a back lit 50's technicolor movie with the "aaahhhhhhhh" music, that someone who I may disagree with is not accusing me of the most outlandish beliefs, assuming the absolute worst, and wrecking any timy chance of having a conversation.
Yea, the middle east, good example, I travel a lot in SE Asia, some there too, I dont know where you or your family are from but maybe there too, absolutely granted, and therefore I afford you a massive amount of leeway and credibility when you raise these important issues.
I wish I could explain more, but I dont want to risk making that what the thread becomes. Id ask maybe that, if you think you have a reasonable idea whats being said here, and please accept at face value it isnt about being right, but simply being heard as intended, then when you see (and you will see, be sure) how it goes, speak up. There are some who think threads go sideways because of simple incivility, but that's too simple, as you will see with a few weeks.