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What did you give up?

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After you became a Christian, what things did you feel you had to stop doing?

Mine would be unethical computer hacking. For the past few months, all my time was spent learning how to hack computers. After I got saved, I gave that up and helped the people that computers were infected. This was the only thing that I thought gave me worth because I liked bragging and teaching others how to hack computers.

At first, I was contemplating whether it was a sin or not. Of course I knew deep down it was. I prayed about it and the next day my "hacker friends" betrayed me and kicked me from their group. I don't know why they did but I'm so glad they did. At first I was mad but I realized that it was an opportunity for me to give up what I was doing. I believe God helped me out in that situation.

I know I'll never be perfect but I think I'll continue trying to improve myself. Since we should all be trying to live like Christ. Not that I judge you if you aren't.
 
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Yeah I had to give up a few of those as well. I guess giving up my favorite hobby was the hardest though.

I understand trust me, the thing that we love is what we always have to give up for Christ so that we can know true love in Him.
 
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This is a good question. I am just recently a Christian, and I have been posting on another thread about issues I am having when reading through the Gospels, seeking clarification and guidance.

The other day I was reading the Gospel of Luke and in chapter 14:33, Jesus says, ''Whomsoever he be of you that does not forsake all that he owns cannot be my disciple''. When I read it, I was like...dang!! That's tough. It's interesting that this thread then came about. Perhaps God is confirming the truth in what Jesus said by the coincidence of this thread? Some above said that the things we love the most, are the things God will ask us to let go of. I have noted in myself that I have to be really honest about what I love. Perhaps Jesus knows that all of our possessions are what we love, and he wants us to let go of all of those things in order to show him we love him, and to receive his love, and to be his disciple? What should I do? It makes sense. I mean, you can't get much clearer statement than that one from Luke. Yet at the same time, I don't see others doing it, which makes me think perhaps I am wrong in my understanding of it. Well, any thoughts from others would be very helpful.

In Christ's love and light, Ciel.
 
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I think the big thing for me to have given up (and still have to be careful I remember to do this) is overattachment to the things of this world..like some ungodly and materialistic ambitions..so to become more and more attached to the things of God.

Am ever grateful I have made this choice; but still remains a daily challenge to get priorities first.
 
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This is a good question. I am just recently a Christian, and I have been posting on another thread about issues I am having when reading through the Gospels, seeking clarification and guidance.

The other day I was reading the Gospel of Luke and in chapter 14:33, Jesus says, ''Whomsoever he be of you that does not forsake all that he owns cannot be my disciple''. When I read it, I was like...dang!! That's tough. It's interesting that this thread then came about. Perhaps God is confirming the truth in what Jesus said by the coincidence of this thread? Some above said that the things we love the most, are the things God will ask us to let go of. I have noted in myself that I have to be really honest about what I love. Perhaps Jesus knows that all of our possessions are what we love, and he wants us to let go of all of those things in order to show him we love him, and to receive his love, and to be his disciple? What should I do? It makes sense. I mean, you can't get much clearer statement than that one from Luke. Yet at the same time, I don't see others doing it, which makes me think perhaps I am wrong in my understanding of it. Well, any thoughts from others would be very helpful.

In Christ's love and light, Ciel.

Maybe the people you are observing are the ones who are misunderstanding?
 
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This is a good question. I am just recently a Christian, and I have been posting on another thread about issues I am having when reading through the Gospels, seeking clarification and guidance.

The other day I was reading the Gospel of Luke and in chapter 14:33, Jesus says, ''Whomsoever he be of you that does not forsake all that he owns cannot be my disciple''. When I read it, I was like...dang!! That's tough. It's interesting that this thread then came about. Perhaps God is confirming the truth in what Jesus said by the coincidence of this thread? Some above said that the things we love the most, are the things God will ask us to let go of. I have noted in myself that I have to be really honest about what I love. Perhaps Jesus knows that all of our possessions are what we love, and he wants us to let go of all of those things in order to show him we love him, and to receive his love, and to be his disciple? What should I do? It makes sense. I mean, you can't get much clearer statement than that one from Luke. Yet at the same time, I don't see others doing it, which makes me think perhaps I am wrong in my understanding of it. Well, any thoughts from others would be very helpful.

In Christ's love and light, Ciel.

If anything in your life comes before your relationship with God in Christ, you need to get rid of it or stop doing it. God is to be the most important Person in your life, nothing should be placed in your heart above God.

Jesus said you cannot serve two masters, because you will only come to hate one and love the other, He says you cannot love God and money (or replace money with anything you love other than God).
 
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Maybe the people you are observing are the ones who are misunderstanding?

Thanks for that thought, NB.

Yesterday I was reading the first few chapter of the book of Acts. It was really inspiring to think how the spirit was moving back then because of people's acceptance of the teachings of Jesus! And I was pleasantly surprised to read at the end of Acts 2 and 4, that people actually DID sell their possessions and lands. So perhaps I have not misunderstood this verse?

I think I will need to do more reading of the Gospel. Surely, if Jesus meant for people to do this from teaching from Luke 14:33, then there must be more evidence from it. Wow! it's really exciting when I think about it. God knows, through out my life I have felt a prisoner because there are all these 'strings' (possessions) holding me down, I don't feel free. Though my initial thought about this verse was ''Dang!! man, that's tough''. what dawned on me today is that Jesus loves us, and he said his yoke is easy and his burden light, and that he want us to have life in all it's fullness. Surely he knows what is best for me (us), and this command is for our own good?

Anyway, I'm gonna go hunt around a bit :wave:
 
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If anything in your life comes before your relationship with God in Christ, you need to get rid of it or stop doing it. God is to be the most important Person in your life, nothing should be placed in your heart above God.

Jesus said you cannot serve two masters, because you will only come to hate one and love the other, He says you cannot love God and money (or replace money with anything you love other than God).

Thanks SOS, what you say speaks to me.

Like I shared before, I notice it's very easy for me to not be honest with myself about what I really love. That's why I am liking these verses from Jesus in Matthew 6:24 and Luke 14:33, because it's like Jesus seems to be saying, ''look I already know what you love, if you love me and want to follow me, then give up these things, forsake them all''. I know that to actually take him at his word, i.e. simply obey him in these things, is mighty challenging, and I notice within myself, that my thoughts say things like, ''yeah, but you don't love money, it's OK to work for it, as long as you don't love it more than God'', and ''all your possessions are really stopping you from following God, they not tying you down, you are free to just move when God says so'' etc. Basically, I notice my thoughts are in defense of not actually simply doing what it seems Jesus is saying, and I wonder why that is? The only honest answer I can come up with is, that I do have a problem with these things, and Jesus knew that, which is why he said,
''whomsoever of you that does not forsake all that he own cannot be my disciple''. It's almost like, the only way that we can prove to ourselves and to God that these things aren't more important to us that Him, is to actually forsake them?

I am feeling very challenged, may God give me wisdom.
 
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I want to thank all of you for sharing.
I was introduced to God as a young boy but my path in life has not always kept me near Him. I have wandered and been lost but I have a great shepherd. There are things I have felt I needed to remove from my life because I felt they were hurting me or simply getting between me and God. I have turned away from alcohol, sports, tv, toxic people, and many other snares of this world set to distract or destroy. I find that I have an easier time dealing with the outside things than some of the inside things. I continue to work every day on my pride, lust, anger, and over all self. I am in the Word every day and by God’s grace I will grow closer to Him with each passing day. I love God with all my heart, mind, and soul. Being with Him is all that I desire.
Best wishes to you and yours.
 
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Amen Onmywalk, we have died to live, Jesus sees our struggles and He sympathizes with us, even in our struggles with sin. Jesus desires that we hold onto Him no matter what, even when our sin blinds us to His love we must always remember the price He payed for us. Sin, in the era we live in is more rampant and available then ever, even in the convenient solitude of your home. Sin is so easy to say yes to now days, but even in the dark times we live in Jesus is still the light to lead us out of the destructive and deceptive power of sin. God will lead us to holiness in ever part of our lives, in Jesus name, God bless brother.
 
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The occult (horoscopes, psychic readings, numerology, etc...), intimate activities with the boyfriend and certain types of movies and shows. I'm currently working on being more forgiving and less hateful.

Amen, people usually don't escape that kind of deep deception. Praise God.
 
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This show, Celebrity Apprentice. The centerpiece of the show, Donald Trump, is exactly the opposite of what God wants us to be: greedy, flashy, arrogant, and boastful. I feel good about having it out of my life.

Is that a political statement or a spiritual one? :)
 
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Cutting myself and bulimia. Hurting myself and the people around me. I am Gods creation, and I understood it was wrong to destroy my body and even try to kill myself.
I struggle with them time to time still, but I am getting better at giving up with my bad habits.
 
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Yeah I had to give up a few of those as well. I guess giving up my favorite hobby was the hardest though.

Downloading err slightly pirated stuff would be one of mine. I had to get my first christian mp3s that way - as I couldnt find them anywhere legit (and when I found one on iTunes which i installed just to download this band, the horrible nasty software took my $$ and failed half way thru the download and then would not redownload as it thought i hd the song, I am now considering seriously, pirating the songs I want, then going and 'paying' for them via iTunes, without the hassle of actually downloading them from there.
On that note anyone who has good links to download from a wide range of contemporary christian artists feel free to send me them :) - by that i mean places where i can pay for the music and then know i can actually download it, or where it is a free legal download. I have also brought 4 CDs inthe last 3 or so weeks (which is more than i brought in the last 10+ years prior - still at a loss for christian karaoke/singstar stuff though - as there is not much i can find to actually pay for

I still drink what i suspect is far too much wine (when the bible says a drunk - what do they mean? I believe Jesus drank real wine, and probably more than a glass on some occasions - i realise some people dont, not withing to debate that so much as ask the christians who also believe that jesus did on occasion drink wine and did turn the water into wine about the definition and discussions around alcohol consumption in the bible).

All the definitions of a drunk in the bible seem to involve lewd thoughts and all sorts of other stuff that seem to me, to mean a person who is either not in control of their physical actions and what they say, and/or is liable to make decisions they would not sober -ie sleep with people they would not when sober, that sort of thing - the really obvious drunk stuff.
So its obvious if a person drinks till they are slurring or falling over/throwing up. or if they drink and then are either thinking about or actually doing, sinful things, that this is a sin - and its easy to determine that because a person will know what the likely outcome will be for them if they drink a certain amount of alcohol (or take certain drugs etc). And obviously if a person is drinking in a way that has an impact on someone else negatively, then it is a sin
What about people who drink a reasonable amount of alcohol (more than a glass or two) but who do not get 'drunk' ie are never in any doubt about their moral and ethical standards, never in danger of falling over, being sick, slurring etc. I may be reading these topics with a subconscious bias (i probably am!) but i have not found anything in the bible that does say whether it is wrong to drink alcohol 'heavily' if it is not having any of the impacts of drunkeness that are described I have prayed about this and not had an answer (or if i have i have not been able to hear/discern it)
And what about the drinkers that feel closer to god sometimes after a few, or the people who 'converted' when drunk (I was not drinking when I accepted christ - but i have heard stories of people who have opened up to god when drunk, who by the sounds of it would not have if they were sober)
On one side drugs and alcohol are a doorway for satan i am told, other christians have said that drugs and alcohol are not specifically a door for satan, but simply open ppl up to the spiritual world and therefore the bad side of that.

Anyway im rambling on, the other things i have given up are swearing (for the most part) I now find i dont like to hear it, and try and avoid saying it except when really p-ssed off. Also the way I speak to people, and treat them I think (hope) has changed and my reaction to people being abusive toward each other (people i dont know i mean like maybe seeing a couple having a big argument) upsets me when before it was like oh year shuddup ... and i didnt really care or think about what was happening any more than that.
I dont think any of the last paragraph is 'giving up' though - I dont miss any of the attitudes i have changed and feel the new attitudes are a real gift

OH yeah, I am single right now, and often thankful of that - because if i were not single, well the whole no sex till marriage thing, I am sure that would be a major struggle for me. I also think that must be hard for new christians who are in a sexual relationship - especially if only one becomes a christian. I think that must be much harder to deal with giving up than any of the things I need to sort out.

Have others found that with a lot of sins, that when you stopped or repented, that the way god kinda puts it on you, it does not feel at all like a telling off or a lecture? Its more like your (cliche as it sounds) eyes are opened, and you can just see what is so wrong about that thing, and you are honestly thankful that you have been shown this? I had a number of things where that happened (and I am the most self righteous stubborn, unresponsive and unable to take criticism person me and most people I know, know. So thats one thing that amazes me about god, how he can disclipline me and make my sins so clear to me, but in such a way that there is no lecture, no telling off. While most people would find no matter how they tried to tell me something i was doing was wrong, I would probably get defensive and not want to accept it. yet when god does it, it is like a gift of understanding, that he gives not a lecture, and my own mind connects the dots and realises why something is wrong...
Have any other new christians had this experience?
 
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