What causes you to have low self esteem?

[ChrisCountryGirl]

I have low self-esteem because the way I felt I was raised by my parents. I never really had any close friends. I had a few childhood friends but we drifted apart once we got older.
School was tough because I was bullied by some classmates, even on the school bus.

 

[Surviving]

People. I always compare myself to others. I know that I shouldn't, but it's hard not to. I also worry alot about what others think of me.

 

[EmberFae]

Abuse, parents, home, background, state opf the house, looks, depression.

 

[INFJ]

• An alcoholic mother
• A brother who teased me cause he was a jock and I was not popular in HS
• and friends who ditched me just like I was scrap paper!
• and getting put down for my looks!

 

[reverie_maiden]

I would have to say my family constantly downgrading me. It hurts when it is the people closest to you.

 

[thenewageriseth]

1. When people judge harshly.

2. When people think I am childish, when I am really a spacy person. I like to stay in my own lil world sometimes (in my head, I mean-daydreaming, etc).

3. If I'm compared to others (overachievers, etc).

4. When others get more attention.

 

[Surviving]

Alcohol!

 

[inHisgripkim]

I think we develop our low self-esteem during our formative childhood years. As children, we are not equipped mentally and emotionally with tools to deal with tragedy, torment, pain, and suffereing. Bad experiences and the lack of our ability to process them causes low self-esteem. However, as adult's, once we realize we have low self-esteem, the reason becomes ourselves if we do not move forward to change what the past has created.

I saw Joyce Meyer's give a sermon on "Grace" yesterday. Her sermon spoke much truth. Many of us cry unto the Lord for help and then sit and do nothing as we expect God to do all the work. God can intervene at anytime, but what good does it do us if He does everything for us? He, instead, gives us the power to conquer our strongholds through His grace. He gives us the strength to battle on and conquer our foes. In Him we can do anything. Depend on the Lord to give you the strength to move forward to victory. Victory comes to us if we believe and through our own hard work. Reminds me of the the pearl that an oyster makes after being injured. Amen.

May we all press forward in His truth, love, and awesome Grace.

If a thought can bind, a thought can also free.
lol. . . kim

 

[Amin]

I think i set my goals to high. Then when i don't meet them, I feel as tho I've failed. I also compare myself to other people to often. When i can't do what they do, I feel defeated too.

 

[INFJ]

I think i set my goals to high. Then when i don't meet them, I feel as tho I've failed. I also compare myself to other people to often. When i can't do what they do, I feel defeated too.

Totally know what you me dear brother!!!!... I sometimes will compare myself too....LIKE if there is a guy that I think is attractive and he likes girls that I look NOTHING that I look like I feel down on myself.