What Can I Do While Im Single?

[songz777]

This is how I think one should treat being single whilst longing for a spouse.


1. Learn about the Lord Jesus, His character His love and fullness.
2. Seek the Lord so deeply that you will be able to enjoy very intimate and precious times of fellowship with Him as if you were in heaven already.
3. When pain comes for the deep longing, bow your face to the ground and worship Him. tell Him you love Him and seek His deliverance.
4. Serve the Lord with all your heart in the church you are at.
5. Help other people, seek their well being and comfort even when you hurt.
6. Make the most of being single because at the very least your prayer life will have to be less in marriage (if your used to 4 hours a day)
7. Take time to give thanks to God for all the good things.
8. Delelope your gifts natural and spiritual coz you wont have so much time in marriage.
9. Enjoy the freedon of doing what you like when you like.
10. Allow God to use time without a spouse to refine you and change or redirect misconceptions about life and marriage.
11. PRAY for yur future spouse every day.
12. Hope in the Lords mercy and dont be pulled down in despaire by people who say "ahh youir destined to be single may as well get use to it" Develope pray and hope in line with scripture and never give up on your dreams.

 

[Iggster]

BINGO! Right on Brawh!

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

I'd like to see #6, #8 and #9 expanded a little, if that's okay!

1. Develop a hobby. What do you enjoy? Is it rockclimbing, kickboxing, reading, netball, soccer? Get involved in a club that offers that activity - even if it's a book club!

2. Develop your career. Work out your career goals, and how to achieve them. Talk to your manager/team leader, whoever, and get someone alongside you to help make your goals a reality. So many people let career goals slide once they find 'the one', and this can often breed resentment. Always have a backup!

3. Move into your own place. Enjoy the ability to set up a house the EXACT way YOU want it - you'll never have this chance again! Find out your good and bad traits this way. Ie - how do you spend money? What are you like at cooking? How do you approach cleaning (ie the bathroom HAS to be cleaned EVERY week v oh was that a mouse? )? The best way to discover this kind of thing is when the responsibility for bills, cooking and cleaning all falls on you!

4. Start a savings plan. Try and put away at least 10% of your wage every pay, and into a high interest account. This way you may have enough money for that european trip you've always wanted to take, a new car, or even a house deposit. So many times dreams like travelling to Europe or a new car get shoved away once you find 'the one' - ensure you've fulfilled those slightly-more-selfish goals before you get married. For example, I'm going to Europe this December, which I've wanted to do for years. I have a serious boyfriend, but there's no way I could do it if I was planning a wedding at the same time...

5. Discover your ministry in church. Discover how you like to serve people. What special gifts has God given you? It's best to discover this before you get involved with someone, so that you can work out best if your ministry can be carried out after marriage. I can personally speak from experience of not knowing what I REALLY wanted to do for God, and feeling 'engulfed' by my ex-fiance's ministry. Once you've discovered how you best want to serve God - STAY STRONG! Do not let your feelings on your calling be swayed because of a love interest, or get ignored because it doesn't quite align with his/her calling...

The most important thing to do whilst being single, I believe, is to really discover who you are, and what you want out of life. Too often I've seen (and seen in myself) a trait of just letting the other persons goals and desires overshadow my own, out of a fear of losing them if I stayed firm to my desires and goals. Never be ashamed of who you are and never be afraid to share what it is YOU want to get out of life, or what you want to achieve.

There are so many blessings from being single, and so many people fritter this time away due to the deep desire to be with someone else. Never abandon this time in your life as 'horrible', instead, use it to your advantage!

God bless you all!

Sasch

 

[JPPT1974]

1. Learn about the Lord through His death & resurrection on and from the cross.
2. Serve the Lord with actions & words.
3. Seek friendship and fellowship with your brothers and sisters in Christ.
4. Do something with kids/youth.
5. Read your Bible and Devotions.
6. Get to know your family a lot more better.

 

[Heel2Heaven]

NIce posts from everyone.

 

[JPPT1974]

We can still be busy in the Lord despite whatever our maritial status may be single or married and to be able to be His servants in the Lord. Great posts indeed!!

 

[vinc]

Nice posts and nice replies.

 

[JPPT1974]

Also pray and let the Lord lead us into doing what is right for Him as well as the whole entire world!!

 

[mixiejoeusa]

We can still be busy in the Lord despite whatever our maritial status may be single or married and to be able to be His servants in the Lord. Great posts indeed!!

I agree!!