I'm military stationed overseas and my girl is back home. I just found out her grandfather is close to dying. Pretty much, they're just waiting. I have no idea what I can do from here. I'm trying to figure out how to be there for her, and I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say to her. If I was there, I could at least be there physically for her (i.e. a shoulder to cry on). From here, I don't know what to do. She called and told me, but she didn't stay on the phone long. I think she was starting to cry and didn't want me to hear her, even though I told her that I'm here if she needs to cry. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks. Times like this are when I especially hate being away from her.
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What can I do to help?
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AbidingInHim
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I am sorry for your circumstances, although I'm not sure I have any good advice I can offer my prayers for both of you.
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Honestly it's a hard one. Being a girl myself, i'd probly like someone to talk to, so ring when you can, or somehow get some money to her (for her to ring you). If you can, get a card, and something sweet and small, and try to send it to her..
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It's tough. I have the mindset of protecting my loved ones and fixing whatever's wrong and in this case, I can't fix it and I hate knowing that she's in pain. I'm not sure if she wants to talk right now. Today was the first time in a long time that she didn't call me or send me a text message the entire day I was at work. I'm hoping she'll call me. I told her to call me. I don't care if she wakes me up or not. This is more important than sleep. I just don't know what to do. Her grandfather and her whole family have been in my thoughts and prayers the entire day. I just want to be there for her, whatever she needs.
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Hmmmm..... Thinking about if it was me and my guy......
I think that part of it would just be wanting to hear his (your) voice - personally, I find that reassuring (maybe your girl does too?????)
Anyways if this is the case, maybe you could make her a tape - tell her that your thinking about her and praying for her and her family at this time, tell her how wonderful you think she is and all that stuff she loves to hear. Then mail it to her - that way she has your voice (and the sentiment behind it) whenever she needs to hear it.
Just an idea....
I think that part of it would just be wanting to hear his (your) voice - personally, I find that reassuring (maybe your girl does too?????)
Anyways if this is the case, maybe you could make her a tape - tell her that your thinking about her and praying for her and her family at this time, tell her how wonderful you think she is and all that stuff she loves to hear. Then mail it to her - that way she has your voice (and the sentiment behind it) whenever she needs to hear it.
Just an idea....
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I have been calling her. She's not answering or calling back. I'm not sure why, but I can imagine. I just leave her short voice mails telling her I love her and I'm praying for her grandfather and her family. I hope it's helping.
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