What are some things/traits you value in someone you're looking to date?

[Macchiato]

For me after being around different people/ guys... I feel I've seen both good and bad examples and I'm grateful for the terrible examples because they make me appreciate goodmen even more.

For me..
* I love confidence- I think it'd so beautiful when a guy is sure of himself. Not in a cocky ,self absorbed way...but just trusts himself...

* I love kindness...guys that are considerate and slow to anger are amazing to me.

* Lastly, a guy that has his stuff together... A guy that's already "assembled" is very alluring.

What about you.

 

[Go Braves]

She has to love the Atlanta Braves, thick or thin. Lol.
She has to be Christ-focused
She's got to have a job, a way to spend her days with purpose
She can't be a vegetarian, or if she is can't mind that I'm not


My girl meets all the criteria! We've been happy for three and a half years now.

 

[Macchiato]

She has to love the Atlanta Braves, thick or thin. Lol.
She has to be Christ-focused
She's got to have a job, a way to spend her days with purpose
She can't be a vegetarian, or if she is can't mind that I'm not


My girl meets all the criteria! We've been happy for three and a half years now.

Are those all the criteria or is there more?

 

[Rigatoni]

I've learned to keep an open mind regarding what I'm looking for. But some traits I keep an eye out for are:

• Sensitivity, Compassion and Gentleness
  
• Willingness to Give (i.e. time, guidance, etc.) and Affection
• Selflessness: i.e. focused on what they can bring to a relationship, rather than what they expect from it. I think guys should have this focus as well.
  
• Communication Skills: good communication can make or break a relationship.
• Sense of Humor and Great Personality
  
• Intelligence
• Diligence: doesn't need to have a profession, but rather uses her free time wisely.
  
• Spiritual Maturity: the most important thing I look for is maturity in their walk with God. A relationship should be Christ-focused and centered around Him.

And willingness to put up with my goofy sense of humor, lol.

 

[Go Braves]

Are those all the criteria or is there more?

Those are the most important ones!

My girl has also got a great sense of humor, sweet heart, is smart as a whip, loves to travel, loves to fish, loves to serve others. She started college at 16, doing a dual enrollment program. She got a full scholarship. She's in the choir & plays the harp.

She can write with both hands.

 

[sunshine100]

That is a tough one
I would have to say,
he has to be kind,caring,consederiate,care about people and care about people's feelings,has to be a good listener,good communication skills,a man of his word,honest,loyal,loving

 

[Macchiato]

Those are the most important ones!

My girl has also got a great sense of humor, sweet heart, is smart as a whip, loves to travel, loves to fish, loves to serve others. She started college at 16, doing a dual enrollment program. She got a full scholarship. She's in the choir & plays the harp.

She can write with both hands.

Oh wow she's a catch

 

[Lost4words]

For me its these;

Clean fur.
Not taller than me
Nice smelling
Short 'sexy' legs
Doesnt molt
Doesnt drool
No designer collars!

 

[Noxot]

all the qualities that relate to God's femininity are a good merely-abstract start but when we come into specifics of actual existing humans which are realer than ideas of people because human beings are spirits made in Gods image...

i'm pretty much lost and have to depend on Gods providence to eventually guide me to the holy land. but nearness to my own spirit is key since all in heaven and hell are near those that are like themselves.

usually I find it hard to list what I look for but I was actually able to think of many things that are favorable this time:

Spoiler: it's kind of long?

openness, kindness, awkwardness, desire for eternal relationships rather than the transient spirit of the world, creativity and love for creative things, desire for spiritual development and life in the spirit in general,

the making of peace of many opposing sides (synthesis), shyness, introversion, innocence, closeness, rebellion, passion, insatiable, comforting,

love of nature, desires for simpler ways of life as opposed to being tangled up in the systems of the world, christian anarchist, not afraid of emotions even negative ones, adventurous,

philosopher, loves to learn, childish, sharp, contemplative, suffers from anxiety, trust issues, or troubled with some kind of interesting flaw as that makes things more interesting,

the desire to be themselves to the utmost and to not accept to be X except when they realize the truth and goodness of it, serious about religion as in going into the depths of it rather than just the surface of things, close to God, interest in sociology, or psychology, or mythology, or theology,

or biology, or some other interest that she can share with me and that we would both enjoy together, loves plants, appreciates many kinds of music ( lol who does not like music),

likes cartoons, or likes anime, understands that there is real wisdom in many things in the world, can get into a game ( not so much a gamer as can become very interested in a game we might one day feel we want to play together),

has an imagination, hates evil, hates lies, can see the goodness or truth even in two things that oppose one another, notices the grace and providence of God, can help keep me in the right path, will let me help her stay on right path, loyal, zealous for our relationship to work, likes to explore the world...

i'm sure there is more but I guess that is enough for now.

 

[MotherFirefly]

I went on a date this past week with a gorgeous guy, who has a seemingly stable life, but bless his soul if I couldn't have more stimulating conversation with a bucket of rocks.

I don't often pursue what doesn't hold my interest.

 

[Niels]

- Bright
- Feminine
- Compassionate
- Sensible
- Appreciates the arts

I may add more later, but that's a good place to start.

 

[Macchiato]

I went on a date this past week with a gorgeous guy, who has a seemingly stable life, but bless his soul if I couldn't have more stimulating conversation with a bucket of rocks.

I don't often pursue what doesn't hold my interest.

Same. Guy was goregous but he was just trouble...he was terrible in every sense of the word.

 

[CodyFaith]

Loves God with all her heart, mind and soul, saved, is wise, knows scripture well/spiritual truths, is genuinely waiting till marriage for sex (past sins prior to Christ or sins new in Christ don't matter to me, but "mistakes" while claiming to be a saved, mature Christian have to be took into consideration), attractive in my eyes, loving above others around her, wants children at some point, stands out from the crowd, not superficial or typical, doesn't get drunk, doesn't do drugs/weed, doesn't smoke, faithful to her boyfriend physically, mentally and emotionally, happy, joyful, has the peace that surpasses all understanding. Strong (not talking physical strength), meek spirit, gets my humour, is laid back when it calls for it but serious when it calls for it.

I'm sure there's others, but that's good for now.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I went on a date this past week with a gorgeous guy, who has a seemingly stable life, but bless his soul if I couldn't have more stimulating conversation with a bucket of rocks.

I don't often pursue what doesn't hold my interest.

Go easy on him, Miss Brianna. He was probably just nervous being out with that pretty a lady and could not find a way of smooth conversation flow. ^-^

 

[MotherFirefly]

Go easy on him, Miss Brianna. He was probably just nervous being out with that pretty a lady and could not find a way of smooth conversation flow. ^-^

Smooth, SK. but that wasn't it. lol

 

[sunshine100]

and he has to be patient with me

 

[MotherFirefly]

Same. Guy was goregous but he was just trouble...he was terrible in every sense of the word.

I'm curious what a thread asking about the flaws we are willing to look past in a potential partner would be like. As opposed to this thread, where we have created the perfect human being.

Of course, this could require us to accept that we ourselves are far from an 'ideal potential partner', and Im not sure I am ready to accept that nonsense.

 

[Niels]

I'm curious what a thread asking about the flaws we are willing to look past in a potential partner would be like. As opposed to this thread, where we have created the perfect human being.

Of course, this could require us to accept that we ourselves are far from an 'ideal potential partner', and Im not sure I am ready to accept that nonsense.

That's one way of looking at it.

I just figured it was about traits that we like, and didn't try to create a perfect person. The things I listed don't imply perfection. At least not to me. A perfect person wouldn't be a good match for me anyway, as I'm certainly not perfect myself.

Deal-breakers are easy to think of, but flaws that we're willing to look past? Those would depend on the individual. Also, how are we defining flaws? What some people might see as a flaw, others might see as endearing or attractive.

 

[MotherFirefly]

Deal-breakers are easy to think of, but flaws that we're willing to look past? Those would depend on the individual. Also, how are we defining flaws? What some people might see as a flaw, others might see as endearing or attractive.

You explain a lot of reasons why it could pose as an interesting thread, compared to us just listing good, if generic, human qualities.

 

[CodyFaith]

I'm curious what a thread asking about the flaws we are willing to look past in a potential partner would be like. As opposed to this thread, where we have created the perfect human being.

Of course, this could require us to accept that we ourselves are far from an 'ideal potential partner', and Im not sure I am ready to accept that nonsense.

Yeah I suppose this thread could be interpretted a few ways; seperated by needs or wants in a partner. Would be interesting to see what are (absolute) deal breakers for people, and what would have leg room.

Besides maybe being chill on the whole "standing out from the crowd" thing, I myself listed needs more then wants. Of course, for example when I wrote loving God with all their heart, naturally even the most dedicated Christian falls there. Nobody is perfect... we are all far, far from perfection. So likewise when I wrote being faithful mentally, emotionally, etc... I of course know whoever I date/marry will glance here or there or be a little bit too nice to someone of the opposite sex. And I know I will be far from perfect in these and other areas. But I think the principles I wrote still stand and I myself don't feel it's a stretch, because I aim for similar things.