What am I supposed to do?

[seremela06]

I was chatting with this guy the other day and he was really nice. I really liked him. Anyway, after four hours of chatting, he told me he was from Pakistan and he was a Muslim! So I talked to him for a few more minutes and left. Then the next day my cousin talked to him and he said that I was his girlfriend! I never said this! I talked to him and told him that it couldn't work, but he won't give up! He said that I had accepted him and now I'm rejecting him. I never would've told someone that I wanted to be in a relationship with them after talking one time! Especially someone somewhere where I'll never even meet him! And he's Muslim and that will never work b/c I'm a Christian! What am I supposed to do?

 

[Tumbleweed64]

I was chatting with this guy the other day and he was really nice. I really liked him. Anyway, after four hours of chatting, he told me he was from Pakistan and he was a Muslim! So I talked to him for a few more minutes and left. Then the next day my cousin talked to him and he said that I was his girlfriend! I never said this! I talked to him and told him that it couldn't work, but he won't give up! He said that I had accepted him and now I'm rejecting him. I never would've told someone that I wanted to be in a relationship with them after talking one time! Especially someone somewhere where I'll never even meet him! And he's Muslim and that will never work b/c I'm a Christian! What am I supposed to do?

if this guy cannot take the hint that there is nothing between you two, STOP communicating with him~ I know this may sound harsh but sometimes it's the only way to get through

 

[Kristin06]

I agree...you need to be firm with him and tell him that you were just talking as friends and that you can never be more than that...if he doesn't take the hint, they stop all communication with him!!

 

[treerootbill]

Just say no.

No point carrying on.

 

[NicelyAged]

He lives in a very different culture than ours. Maybe that's just the way things work there. Anyway, you'll have to put him on your block list.

 

[Linnis]

He could just be some weird internet guy. I'd stop speaking with him and if he can't take the hint, I'd block him and put an end to it. You really have no way of knowing anything about a person online, he could be fron across the street and you'd never *really* know, better to air on the side of causion.

 

[fishstix]

Seeing as how you've already made it clear to him that there is and was nothing between you and he insists that there was, it would probably be best to put him on your block list and stop talking with him before he decides to start stalking you or something.

 

[septemberskies]

You have no idea how many messages I get from pakistani people asking me to be their girlfriend (both in the past, and the PRESENT). I severely think there is a huge amount of people who want to immigrate and are trying to latch onto desperate people who will agree to marry them fairly quickly so they can come into the countries over here.

Run away, stop communicating with him.

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Exactly.... just cut the connection and don't give it second thought, it happens all the time.

 

[Tenorvoice]

My advice is like others here, if they are not a Christian......







































RUN!

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Seremela,

Ignore him.

Diane

 

[Babymine]

put him on your block list. Cut all communication since he can't take a flat out refusal.

 

[JPPT1974]

If he keeps bothering you, call the police.
Or use the call blocking system.

 

[christdriven]

Most likely its a culture thing. I was in Mexico three times already for missions trips and we were told not to talk with Mexican boys or men outside the group, because even taking a necklace from them could mean engagement in their culture. It sounds as though he doesnt understand the reasons why you are upset that he assumed you two were dating, just keep explaining but if he is set in his traditional ways he may not understand. I suggest not speaking with him any longer.
Just be loving and ask God to change his heart!

 

[seremela06]

Thanks for everyone's comments! I haven't heard from him since the day before yesterday.

 

[Inne]

I've had that a lot, mmmmm....I know this may sound harsh, but I stop communicating with them...I block them from my IMs and emails, etc.

I was chatting with this guy the other day and he was really nice. I really liked him. Anyway, after four hours of chatting, he told me he was from Pakistan and he was a Muslim! So I talked to him for a few more minutes and left. Then the next day my cousin talked to him and he said that I was his girlfriend! I never said this! I talked to him and told him that it couldn't work, but he won't give up! He said that I had accepted him and now I'm rejecting him. I never would've told someone that I wanted to be in a relationship with them after talking one time! Especially someone somewhere where I'll never even meet him! And he's Muslim and that will never work b/c I'm a Christian! What am I supposed to do?

 

[JPPT1974]

Good for you my friend!
Good for you indeed!

 

[Erinwilcox]

I was chatting with this guy the other day and he was really nice. I really liked him. Anyway, after four hours of chatting, he told me he was from Pakistan and he was a Muslim! So I talked to him for a few more minutes and left. Then the next day my cousin talked to him and he said that I was his girlfriend! I never said this! I talked to him and told him that it couldn't work, but he won't give up! He said that I had accepted him and now I'm rejecting him. I never would've told someone that I wanted to be in a relationship with them after talking one time! Especially someone somewhere where I'll never even meet him! And he's Muslim and that will never work b/c I'm a Christian! What am I supposed to do?

have you ever read "Not without my Daughter"? Interesting. . .

 

[_Paladin_]

I think even in another culture it would be a little quick to officially be bf/gf after just one chat. If you did unwittingly accept some invitation of his, it would been a little early for him to offer such an invitation, so the best advice would probably be dont' talk ot him again, if he continues to be a problem go to some authorities.

 

[Alejandro]

Most likely its a culture thing. I was in Mexico three times already for missions trips and we were told not to talk with Mexican boys or men outside the group, because even taking a necklace from them could mean engagement in their culture. QUOTE]

Where in Mexico did you go? I'm from Mexico.. and a necklace is far away from meaning engagement. You go to missions and outcast from the people you're trying to help?

Back to topic.. if the guy freaks you out.. cut the communications. Be careful and don't give out any personal info to strangers!