Hello, I am new here.. But I have something I would like to discuss.
I am Courting a girl for 18 months now. She is very beautiful and very caring most of the time. We have run into a dilemma and I would like some Christian input from married couples and courting couples. I would like you to state if you are married or courting.
We recently inscribed into a gym. Some of the men in this gym have been a little cozy. Which is okay we are there together and she is a woman who can take care of herself and there is no issue. But she says one of the other men one of the regulars went to touch her in her face, this I did not see but seems strange to me.
Anyways to make a long story short, I have been to sore to go back, I told her that I would like to take a day off, she said it was fine and was still going to go to the gym.
I expressed my concerns about her going and said I would prefer that she did not go to the gym. It is 90% men there with only a couple girls. I don't see any of the men treating the other girls how they treat mine. She is the more beautiful one there.
I told her I would prefer if she did not go alone and that we went together.
As an alternative I suggested we went Jogging instead of lifting weights just for the one day that I wont be around.
I would feel bad if she went to the gym alone and one of these guys tried to hit or flirt on her. She says I am being jealous and have no reason for concern because she wont do anything. I have no concern for her, I don't feel or think she will do anything, she is very honest and does not play around.
But she got angry and said I am jealous and that I have no other reason.
To keep the record straight I have never once asked her to not go some where for any reason, this is the first time, I want to be respected on this, but she is passionate about the gym and wants to exercise and make good on her inscription to the gym. So do I. I am just not comfortable with her going alone.
What do other couple do when one is not comfortable with the other doing something or hanging around the opposite sex for one reason or another.
As a side note she asked me to stop calling a female work acquaintance for work purposes because she was uncomfortable with it. So I stopped right away. I feel it is my place to be responsible with the woman I love if she requests something like this.
But when I ask her she fights it. She says its different that the phone call is a action, and that going to the gym is working out and nothing more.
btw she did not take my offer to go jogging, says that if she cant go to gym alone then she wont go jogging either.
She also says its okay if men flirt on her because its not her doing it.
I surely would not willingly want to go somewhere women would flirt on me and put her in that position.
Why does she think its okay to willingly do it?
Or am I crazy like she says I am.
Guess this was not so short a story.. HELP..
I am Courting a girl for 18 months now. She is very beautiful and very caring most of the time. We have run into a dilemma and I would like some Christian input from married couples and courting couples. I would like you to state if you are married or courting.
We recently inscribed into a gym. Some of the men in this gym have been a little cozy. Which is okay we are there together and she is a woman who can take care of herself and there is no issue. But she says one of the other men one of the regulars went to touch her in her face, this I did not see but seems strange to me.
Anyways to make a long story short, I have been to sore to go back, I told her that I would like to take a day off, she said it was fine and was still going to go to the gym.
I expressed my concerns about her going and said I would prefer that she did not go to the gym. It is 90% men there with only a couple girls. I don't see any of the men treating the other girls how they treat mine. She is the more beautiful one there.
I told her I would prefer if she did not go alone and that we went together.
As an alternative I suggested we went Jogging instead of lifting weights just for the one day that I wont be around.
I would feel bad if she went to the gym alone and one of these guys tried to hit or flirt on her. She says I am being jealous and have no reason for concern because she wont do anything. I have no concern for her, I don't feel or think she will do anything, she is very honest and does not play around.
But she got angry and said I am jealous and that I have no other reason.
To keep the record straight I have never once asked her to not go some where for any reason, this is the first time, I want to be respected on this, but she is passionate about the gym and wants to exercise and make good on her inscription to the gym. So do I. I am just not comfortable with her going alone.
What do other couple do when one is not comfortable with the other doing something or hanging around the opposite sex for one reason or another.
As a side note she asked me to stop calling a female work acquaintance for work purposes because she was uncomfortable with it. So I stopped right away. I feel it is my place to be responsible with the woman I love if she requests something like this.
But when I ask her she fights it. She says its different that the phone call is a action, and that going to the gym is working out and nothing more.
btw she did not take my offer to go jogging, says that if she cant go to gym alone then she wont go jogging either.
She also says its okay if men flirt on her because its not her doing it.
I surely would not willingly want to go somewhere women would flirt on me and put her in that position.
Why does she think its okay to willingly do it?
Or am I crazy like she says I am.
Guess this was not so short a story.. HELP..
