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Unfortunately, that is true. Most churches are pretty much segregated in the South. Although that has changed some in recent years.I see, I never been in a South US church before. Only church I been to in US is in LA and that was a long time ago. I been in the southern states but feel awkward there, the churches are either all blacks or all whites.
Why not call her up and see if she would like to go to lunch one day since she studies in your city. That way, you can see if she is interested or not.
Unfortunately, that is true. Most churches are pretty much segregated in the South. Although that has changed some in recent years.
Thanks for simplifying it! I think he should go for option #2 as well.I agree with Galatea; you have 3 options:
1) You keep thinking and thinking could it mean anything until it drives you crazy
2) You ask her out and see how it goes - find out whether you wish to pursue it further or not
3) Break things off and go separate ways
If you're interested, I recommend #2 !
egalitarianism and flirtiness are just a prevalent in the states as anywhere else.Just a cultural sidenote: You're probably an American, and the OP is from Scandinavia, which is the most egalitarian region in the world, so it doesn't really work like that here. Not even in the churches, unless it's some super-mega-conservative sect.
Oh, absolutely! I've never seen anyone not welcome in either type of church. It's segregation by choice. My mother (who is very pale and blonde) went to a Christmas program at her coworker's church a couple of years ago. She was welcomed with a lot of warmth.Out of interest, are both Churches still open to all ethnicities visiting them? If I ever travel to the US, I would be interested to see what some of the African-American churches are like.
The flaking out when he invited her to go to church made me think she might not be into him. That's more significant than the hugging.there's more than hugging going on here.
she was with two other guys that she knew when she saw the OP and only talked to him. then she saw him again while walking around and gave him hug. that would have been ok but then the third time she gives this guy a long tender embrace, gazes into his eyes, and then starts cuddling with him. then she shows up by herself with another guy who's in a relationship.
this chic is just a flirt. couple that with her flaking out when the OP tried to see if there was another opportunity when they could meet up at some church event.
egalitarianism and flirtiness are just a prevalent in the states as anywhere else.
I have never been to states personally so I can't argue. But based on what I have read on CF, the difference between conservative Christians in the US and conservative Christians over here is pretty huge, when it comes to gender roles.
Just an example, the line you just used there "but it's part of being a man in that you need to be willing to venture out and take the lead" - I can't even recall when I have last heard someone saying anything like that here. The idea of a leading man and a submissive woman doesn't really exist here anywhere in the mainstream, and Sweden (the country of the OP) is even more secular than Finland (my place) is.
Out of interest, are both Churches still open to all ethnicities visiting them? If I ever travel to the US, I would be interested to see what some of the African-American churches are like.
that line isn't accepted in the mainstream here either. neither is 'conservative christianity'(whatever that even means nowadays).I have never been to states personally so I can't argue. But based on what I have read on CF, the difference between conservative Christians in the US and conservative Christians over here is pretty huge, when it comes to gender roles.
Just an example, the line you just used there "but it's part of being a man in that you need to be willing to venture out and take the lead" - I can't even recall when I have last heard someone saying anything like that here. The idea of a leading man and a submissive woman doesn't really exist here anywhere in the mainstream, and Sweden (the country of the OP) is even more secular than Finland (my place) is.
that line isn't accepted in the mainstream here either. neither is 'conservative christianity'(whatever that even means nowadays).
She has no problems with touching you, but she has problems making time for you. I would advise detaching from her.
I don't know her, personally. So, I do not mean to speak for her, here.why'd she brush her head against my chest, moaning?
Like I offer > if you don't trust her, and if God is not encouraging you and making you creative to communicate with her, this is all you need to know. Enjoy sharing with different ladies, so you can get more experience of how the really Christian women are, but while learning how to share with and offer help to the ones who are not for real or not so mature. Take a personal interest in every woman, because Jesus cares for every one. And please keep in you, how every truly Christian lady is your own sister. This is so more valuable than having a romance and the more outward things of marriage.but I fear rejection. I will think about it.
The only way you will know FOR SURE if she likes you is to ask her, unless she volunteers the information. I know being rejected is awful,
Ok . . . so, if we are family, we can talk with someone about something like this. But if you don't feel like you and she are brother and sister, for some reason you might not be ready to look into things with her. Pray and trust God to rule you in your heart about this. If we are family, she is your Jesus sister, first, so it does not matter if she wants to get romantic or married with you; because we so value being brother and sister, that personal details are too less important. So, appreciate any sharing you have with her > even a few minutes is plenty, in God's love. This is a new meaning I have learned from >we should treat our fellow Christ followers as we would a member of our immediate family.
rejection stinks,
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