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I was a pastor a little over a year ago in another state that I am living in at the present time. Our congregational song leader would always start the service with announcements and then some singing. He would always dress very casually with usually either jeans or something very casual (never shorts, though some in the congregation did). It always bugged me that the first person the congregation saw in the pulpit was a man wearing jeans or looking like he just got done mowing the lawn. He owns a car garage and I don't think he owned but maybe one or two ties at best.
I never did say anything to him about this though our relationship lasted 2 years and 3 months. But, it always bugged me. I thought we weren't making the best first impression to guests that we could. I guess my question to you is:
1. Did I have the right to request him to dress up more?
2. Is it important at all to dress up or to (if your a man) wear a coat and tie if your the song leader? (I am speaking about a rural church that is fairly traditional).
I will say that recently it has come to my attention that I avoid conflict at all costs and this has often caused more problems that solved. I am trying to change my behavior and taking a look back at past mistakes and times when I think perhaps I should have spoke up and didn't. I normally always wore a coat and tie on Sunday mornings, but dressed more casually myself on Sunday nights and Wednesdays.
I never did say anything to him about this though our relationship lasted 2 years and 3 months. But, it always bugged me. I thought we weren't making the best first impression to guests that we could. I guess my question to you is:
1. Did I have the right to request him to dress up more?
2. Is it important at all to dress up or to (if your a man) wear a coat and tie if your the song leader? (I am speaking about a rural church that is fairly traditional).
I will say that recently it has come to my attention that I avoid conflict at all costs and this has often caused more problems that solved. I am trying to change my behavior and taking a look back at past mistakes and times when I think perhaps I should have spoke up and didn't. I normally always wore a coat and tie on Sunday mornings, but dressed more casually myself on Sunday nights and Wednesdays.