Weak in the flesh.

[kdb890]

I've been in love with a non-Christian since I was 15 years old. He is two years younger than me and lives with a family who moves constantly, therefore our on/off relationship has always been long-distance. Because this guy has ADHD, he has a hard time staying focused/interested in things for very long, including relationships that aren't physical (and I'm not talking about sex). He doesn't do well with long-distance relationships and, because of this, we have had many problems and broken up many times. We've dated a few times in the past, and most recently broke up once again after we got back together in February.

Here's my little secret, a secret that I've only told one person, my great aunt, and that I am now telling you all. There have been several times in the past when I prayed for me and this guy to work out and become stronger, but every time I prayed for this our relationship only weakened. So I stopped praying about it. Recently, before he broke up with me last week, I was praying for him and for things to become better between us but instead of things becoming better he ended up leaving me. I must say that this isn't a coincidence.

My prayer was being answered correctly, I was simply ignoring it because I wasn't ready for it and I didn't realize that it was exactly what I was praying for. I was weak in the flesh and I still am. I always will be. What I'm here asking is how do I deal with loving someone whom God doesn't want me to be with right now, or maybe even ever?

 

[LifebyChrist]

Mark 14:38 "Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak."

Luke 22:42 "Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done."

 

[kdb890]

Thank you for those.

 

[If Not For Grace]

We are not robots & God is not a magic genie. People need to Chose to be in
relationship with one another not be forced or "prayed" into it. Love is a two-way
street which invloves a decision followed by committment. This is one reason we
are warned about becoming un-equally yoked.

A person with a mental illness at such a young age may is not likely to be ready for the pressures of a mature relationship; much less a christian one. By your description this relationship sounds more abusive than loving. Take Time & ask for discernement here. Christians must consider their inner circle carefully and that is one reason why we are directed to fast & pray before marriage.

Many people hook up w/the wrong person (for them) & then ask God to bless the mess they have made. Be careful in your relationships so that you don't wind up a statistic of abuse or divorce.

Prayers
Grace

 

[Jazer]

What I'm here asking is how do I deal with loving someone whom God doesn't want me to be with right now, or maybe even ever?

You can still be friends, just don't get involved. What a gift to find out this is not the right person for you. There are a lot of people in other forums where their life is a real tragady because they got involved with the wrong person and it is a real disaster. I loved my first wife very much and it took me a long time to get over it when she ran off and left me. It took me about 12 years to get over loving her. But it was a human love and that does not last forever. Esp when they are doing to you what she was doing to me. It's the grace of God that I was able to forgive her and get over it. Actually what happened was she changed so much that she became a different person. So the person I was in love with is just a memory and does not really exist anymore for me.