We Signed the Papers Today :(

[Brotherfromanothermother]

*It's final. After months/years trying to keep it from happening.
It took LESS than a week for it to be final. The papers actually arrived in the mail on Thursday. She saw me on TH and Fri and didn't say anything till today.
The bad part (at least in my mind) I'm relieved and kinda glad at this point. I don't see the girl I fell in love with and dreamed of making a life with. It turned to survival mode shortly after we got married. Pray for me please. I just don't know what to feel. So many mixed emotions.*





Like the title says....

I barely looked at her the entire time.
The Notary is a friend of hers from work
and a Believer.
After we were done signing
everything she started crying.
I could only say two things to her

1. I was as unhappy doing what we were doing
as I was happy when we married.

2. Because there was no Biblical basis for
her decision - she was in effect making both
of us adulterers if/when we meet someone else.

Now all that's left is to file and wait. It was
her decision so she can pay to file. Sorry if it
sounds like I've got a bad attitude.

 

[free4all]

I'm sorry, Brother.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

Praying for you both

 

[dbhost]

I am so sorry. Nothing I can say will make you feel better now. But it does get better, just keep praying, and keep following Gods will.

 

[Godisgr8r]

I'm sorry too. I know from experience, divorce is not easy.

 

[zoila]

I am sorry for you, I know that this is a very hard time. Praying peace and healing is comming your way.

 

[Gimpy]

This is just too sad. I pray you both reconcile.

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Thanks all.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Sorry man. We'll be going to see a lawyer next week, and probably filing soon. I hope you and her can reconcile as well.

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Unfortunately there won't be any reconciliation. Her mind has been made up for some time. After multiple opportunities to change her mind it's obvious her heart is hardened. Even well meaning Christians have told her "God will forgive you for this" which has allowed her to rationalize to the point where she feels in some respect that God is cool with it.

 

[super mom]

the only grounds in my understanding for divorce is unfaithfulness in some sort of form not just physical but emotional as well. which there has been that in my marriage and we are looking at a possible separation to fix things because we can't fix the while living together. i am praying for you

 

[covenantwmn]

My heart goes out to you. Went thru divorce not of my choosing many, many years ago. I pray the Lord will minister to you both. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me.

 

[cjba]

I am so sorry you are going through this.

Praying for you two.

God Bless

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

She's going to file tomorrow.
I guess you can't disuade a hard heart. In some respects I'm glad it's finally going to be over (it's been an ongoing process for far too long) but that doesn't change (for me) the fact that it's such a personally afflicting action. It's so surreal when someone who vowed... betrays another like this.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

It is difficult to remember those vows you took together at a time like this. Remember that you are in His hands and allow Him to mold you for whatever He has planned next for you. I pray that God watches over you right now.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Sorry, man. My wife is probably going to file next week. I'm meeting with a lawyer today.

God bless, and crawl up into Daddy God's lap when you need to - He's there, and His heart is breaking just as yours is over your pain.

 

[Positivethinking]

I feel for you! My husband and I just separated and I feel like you do. I truly believe he's going through a mid life crisis but...it doesn't matter. He thinks this is the way.
I will pray for you. It hurts and will for some time but if you can focus on being happy regardless, you will feel happy. Do you dance? If not, what do you like to do that will make you happy? Do it.
God has wonderful things for those who love Him. Believe it and Feel it.
Carla

 

[pordrep]

divorce...I am in the process about 2 months of a six month deal. lots of biblical questions...

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Yeah.... I posted an update instead of starting another thread.
Page 1 above the original post.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

I'm entering and leaving survival mode - it's like there's a revolving door beween survival and wishing for change?