How so?
Just cos I don't hug someone means I'm divisive? PLEASE! That's laughable...
But I think I understand what you're talking about - the last part, right?
Unity to me is when we band together to seek a solution. Whether that's a global thing like injustice, or something more local like 'there's a homeless lady on our street, what can we do to help' - that's unity to me.
If I'm not being affectionate with someone brings into question my desire for unity in the church, then I'd be having serious issues with what the church thought unity was!
(If you want to see my desire for unity, just have a look on some of the more controversial topics to do with Christianity on the forum - I believe that some of us get our knickers in knots over things that are more divisive than unifying in the church)...
JMHO!
Sasch