We are struggling

[Bumble Bee]

We had a baby boy in December. He was a preemie and had to spend a couple weeks in the NICU. That was hard, but we went back to normal. I had some separation issues from him and a little post partum depression, but everything was under control. Then he got seriously ill and we almost lost him. He was in the hospital for another couple weeks. I had to be sedated while he was in the PICU and am still not very stable, so I started therapy. My first session was Monday, after which he spiked a fever. I took him to the clinic, and they sent him to the hospital, where they said it’s likely another virus. His follow up was today and they diagnosed him with an ear infection.

Both my husband and I are really struggling emotionally with all of this. We are buckling under the stress. Both of us withdraw under stress, and we have been barely communicating on a personal level. We recognized it and we are working on making sure we don’t lose each other to the stress. We are making sure to voice what we are going through when the anxiety sets in and listen to each other rather than offer solutions. We are also taking time together after the boys are in bed to read a devotional together and read one of our favorite book series together. I feel like we are coming closer together in doing so, but it is hard! I cant speak for him, but I go through times when I feel just frozen and I can’t move, can’t speak, just almost catatonic. I also have times when I feel like all I can do is just lay down and sleep, I can’t cope with functioning through the normal actions of the day. Thank the Lord for giving me a supportive husband and set of in laws to help us through this difficult season!

 

[Llleopard]

Wow you have so many challenges at the moment! You know, it would be more unusual if you DIDN'T buckle under those conditions! Sounds like you are working as a team to get through this, which is so important. Keep praying together and taking that time to rest. Let non essential things slide. When you're in this kind of situation, each day you get out of bed, do the things that HAVE to be done, and hopefully have your pants on the right way round is a win. The catatonic thing is normal too when your poor self is overwhelmed. It will pass, and things will get better, and you will be okay. Hang in there, keep loving each other, and grab tiny moments of happiness and beauty whenever you can. Xxx

 

[HannahT]

It sounds like you are doing the best you can! We will be praying for you and your family!

 

[Tigger45]

God’s blessings upon your whole household BB

 

[MarkSB]

Sorry to hear this BB. Prayers will be with you.