=( wat to do?

[~smilley~]

A Christian friend of mine told me that she likes me, as in a boy would falls for a girl. Btw, i am a girl. I don't know what to do or say. What can i do to help her and also to help myself so that i won't feel so ackward whenever i see her - as to not avoiding her in the future. She asked me to keep it as a secret but i know that by my strength n ability, i cannot handle this alone. But i don't know who to go to bcoz i'm afraid that things will spread if i consult the wrong person n the "trust" bond between us will break. i've just shifted to a new place wiith a new church - really don't know enough ppl to know who is the right person to go to.

 

[futuresoldier]

Praying, this is a hard one.

 

[Didymus]

ok 1--tell her you are not interested iin the type of relationship she is suggesting.
2--tell your mom !!
3--if you don t have a mom talk to an older female relative--aunt grandma sister cousin
4--pray pray pray. it is not a sin to be tempted. not that you will be I think.
5--if all else fails avoid this girl as much as possible BUT tell her why. i see her telling you as either a call for help or she is trying to shock you as a joke.
good luck

 

[OldBadfish]

Welome to Christian Forums Smiley!

I must be forward, if you do not share this interest like she does, then you must be forward with her and tell her how it is, you must, because beating around the bush and waiting will only delay the inevitable and may bring on unwanted advances, if you let her know now how you feel your friendship will have a much greater chance of remaining just that, "a friendship".

Avoid any more uncomfortableness by being forward.

And....Pray!

I will also say a prayer for you and your friend!

I will also pray specifically that you will be given the wisdom to choose the right way to tell her without hurting her.

 

[Brother_Joey_Gowdy]

you will be in my prayers

please keep us updated on this situation

 

[amie]

Hi Smilley ,
I have been in your exact situation before...one of my college roomates told me out of the blue that she was in love with me, it was an incredibly awkward situation for me, initially I avoided her to all extent, but she was one of my roomates so that wasn't working...I had to sit down with her and tell her while her life is hers, my life is very different and I am never going to be in a relationship with a female not like that (only friendships) she did become angry and she eventually moved out, but it was more awkward because I was living in the same house...so glad thats over with, but I know how you are feeling because she also was a dear friend...you must be honest and open, I realized by ignoring her and avoiding her, I was hurting her and I never wanted to hurt anybody, but I am sure not going against my beliefs by giving in to her. I have never in my life been sexually attracted to another female...so she realized it would never work. Stand by your convictions and pray alot, that will give you some clarity and strength and I am praying for you and for your friend as well! Much love and many blessings to you...
Amie

 

[~smilley~]

thanks a lot for all the encouragement. I really appreciated all that. At least i can smile a little now, and i know that i'm not alone in this.

She told me all that with a good intention - not to ask me to agree with her in this relationship but to be careful when i'm around her next time. She also know that i'll never get myself involved in this kind of thing. i'm perfectly straight. So, the part of telling her "off" in a nice way was done coz both of us understand each other up to this point.

The problem is i want to help as a friend to get her out of this whole mess. I know it is going to be tough but i can't pretend that everything is normal again even if she doesn't have feelings for me - though i guess it will take quite some time before it goes away. May be some of u will advice me not to help her directly bcoz she already had feelings for me, but i felt that if i don't do something about it, i'm responsible of what's going to happen to her in the future. I know yet i didn't do the thing i'm suppose to do. i really genuinely want to help. even if i don't help, my heart is not at ease n it will probably go on bugging me for the rest of my life. i want her to be normal again.

i really don't know what to do and who to tell. plz pray for me bcoz this situation came to me at the wrong timing. i'm having exams now and i need a lot of strength to study and not to think about this for the momment. I need wisdom from God to do the right thing.

i hope in a matter of few weeks, i'll have good news to post up here regarding this. THanks a lot ppl.....may God bless all of u~!!

 

[Mandy]

I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[ZiSunka]

Originally posted by Didymus
ok 1--tell her you are not interested iin the type of relationship she is suggesting.
2--tell your mom !!
3--if you don t have a mom talk to an older female relative--aunt grandma sister cousin
4--pray pray pray. it is not a sin to be tempted. not that you will be I think.
5--if all else fails avoid this girl as much as possible BUT tell her why. i see her telling you as either a call for help or she is trying to shock you as a joke.
good luck

Amen and amen! I totally agree with this advice.

Your biggest responsibility is to keep yourself holy, so if you think there is the least bit of danger that you might respond immorally to this girl's advances, you must avoid her, for your good, and for her's, too. If you help her sin against God this way, you will answer for her sin as well as your own.

Go immediately to tell your mom or some other adult relative that you know you can trust, if your mom isn't available. She is your best ally in problems like this.

I'll be praying that your friend comes to her senses and turns away from her evil desires!