Wanting advice

[Grafted In]

Folks, I'm reaching out to the membership about a situation I'm in. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

My mother lives about 2 1/2 - 3 hours away. I'm on the road right now to get her and bring her to my home where me, my wife, our 3 kids and their families, 8 grandkids. All but 1 brother has moved away from the area we grew up in so I try to include my mom in as many gatherings as I can. She is 94 and lives alone. Her health us beginning to fail and so taking her places is becoming more and more difficult.
Here's the spot I'm in. I called her about a week ago.about driving down and bringing her up for our gathering today. She always wants to wait and see how she feels and how the weather is. So, I called her yesterday to see if she had decide and she seemed very happy about coming
As I left the house an hour ago my wife said" I suppose you know you are going to have 3 angry kids when they show up and she's there and that I didn't give them a chance to shop for her. I explained that my mom wasn't sure and that I waited until yesterday to call her back.
I assumed she had mentioned to our 2 daughters who live nearby of the posibility of her being here. They just don't communicate with me on that level. But, yes, I should have told them myself. My son on the other hand lives 7 or 8 hours away and he is the only one who stays in close contact with my mom so I figured he knew.
I'm looking at a somber situation that will take some of the joy out of our grandkids, and my mom having hurt feelings. My wife on the other hand seemed to be pleased by my situation and that I'm not getting off the hook on this.

What should I do? I'm a hour from home and since I stopped to write this my car has started running very rough so I need to get back on the road.

 

[Grafted In]

Well, now the situation has gone from bad to worse. My car can hardly pull itself and the check engine light is on.

 

[Grafted In]

Please pray about my situation. I have been praying but God's will has yet to be revealed to me.
I'm asking for suggestions from anyone who will write. Thank you

 

[Grafted In]

Is anybody there?

 

[Tigger45]

Wow sounds like you're having a bad day. Its not your fault your mother didn't know if she would come nor is,it her's. Maybe when the others figure out its not easy being 94 they'll understand. Praying your car will run well for you.

 

[Grafted In]

Thank you. It got me back home but didn't make it down to get my mom.

Merry Christmas Tigger45

 

[Goodbook]

I hope you ok
From what you wrote I dont understand the three angry kids why would they be angry? Anyway..i hope they werent and they were understanding. Besides the whole point of boxing day sales is thats when you buy the gifts if you really wanted them.

 

[Grafted In]

I think my wife was overreacting. She knows my mom likes to wait to the last minute because of health issues and she worries about traveling in bad weather. And my wife knew I had called my mom a week prior to the day I tried to go get her. As it was my car quit on me. I has,been having intermittent electrical.problems that have only caused a check engine light twice. My mechanic says he can't know what's wrong without a light. But by the time I get it to his shop the light has already gone off..
We had a good time anyway and my mom was fine with me not making it down. It was in the 30s and that would have been bad if the car quit altogether with her with me.
Thank you folks for the support. It meant a lot to me.