Want a child but don't want to pass my bad genes

[changewithgrace]

I have thought about this from time to time. I was born with bad genes, 5 '7" and premature balding at the age of 18. It is likely if I do find a wife that she will be shorter than me and means kids would be short and if had male would have to go through life like I did. I know it is kind of silly but those affect a man so much to where it is hard to have any confidence.

 

[Going Merry]

You just need a woman with genes so good it makes even those bad genes stylish

 

[Frater Chad]

Adopt?

 

[Sketcher]

You just need a woman with genes so good it makes even those bad genes stylish

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[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

I have thought about this from time to time. I was born with bad genes, 5 '7" and premature balding at the age of 18. It is likely if I do find a wife that she will be shorter than me and means kids would be short and if had male would have to go through life like I did. I know it is kind of silly but those affect a man so much to where it is hard to have any confidence.

I've seen men shorter then 5'3, They have kids and wives. Also many men shave their heads. I wouldn't worry about it.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

You just need a woman with genes so good it makes even those bad genes stylish

I love this.

 

[Keri]

I have thought about this from time to time. I was born with bad genes, 5 '7" and premature balding at the age of 18. It is likely if I do find a wife that she will be shorter than me and means kids would be short and if had male would have to go through life like I did. I know it is kind of silly but those affect a man so much to where it is hard to have any confidence.

Well the hair loss gene is passed along more on the mother's side. My grandfather has a full head of hair at 85 years old and 4 out of the 5 sons are bald.
As for the height you never know what genes you could be carrying that you still could pass on. My SO's immediate family are all short (under 5'7") and she's nearly 6 foot.
Genetics are tricky.

I don't think 5'7" is that short anyway. Even for a guy.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

Adopt?

I love this even more.

 

[fdsfndls]

Pray. Genetics are interesting things.

 

[MehGuy]

Yeah I'm short too. Although if I do have kids, I do think I have good genetics for raising girls. Plenty of hair, naturally thin, and we do have plenty of good looking people in the family. Also, for some reason many of the people in my family and extended family mainly only birth girls. It's actually quite rare for a boy to pop up in my family.

 

[ninzae]

I have thought about this from time to time. I was born with bad genes, 5 '7" and premature balding at the age of 18. It is likely if I do find a wife that she will be shorter than me and means kids would be short and if had male would have to go through life like I did. I know it is kind of silly but those affect a man so much to where it is hard to have any confidence.

I am not sure exactly what bad genes you are talking about. Majority of filipino men are 5'7" in height. They have good thick hair but then again they cut it short or shave it because it is too warm. I think you don't have "bad genes" after all.

Unlikely to find a wife because of height? This concerns a lot of christian guys immaterial of the height. Read some of the threads here in *singles and you will see it.

I agree to what was previously posted here. Genetics is a tricky thing. Do not despair. Pray and have confidence in the LORD.

 

[SnowyMacie]

God designed genetics in a way where some are more dominant that others, so hopefully your wife's genes are more dominant than yours. If it is just the baldness, that gene is passed through the woman. You could just adopt.

 

[trentlogain2]

i thought that particular gene was passed on thru the woman?

 

[changewithgrace]

I see, so some agree that it would be better to adopt. I want my own child I just don't want him to have those crappy genes. I think the whole baldness thing is BS because my dad was prematurely bald and no one else in his family or on my mom side was bald..some are balding in their 50's but I consider that normal..not at 18 like me. As for the height, common as a white guy I am below average, even nice sweet christian girls want a tall dude. I have a deceant amount of things going for me, am in great shape but don't want a male child of mine to have to go through this. I notice that Latin women like me , which is great because I like them too.. so maybe I will end up with one. The height is not bad just for attraction, but in everyday life how you are treated. I got a double whammy with my height and premature baldness and also that I am not that smart, I am a very hard worker and have good ethics, but that is about it. I feel like it would be selfish of me to have a son, if I knew that I would have a girl then it would be ok. I don't know maybe god doesn't want me to have kids or even a wife.

 

[SnowyMacie]

bro, I'm also 5'7"...nobody gives me crap about my height. Most of my friends are taller than me, two of my exes were taller than me. I've learned that if a girls care that much about height, she's not worth it.

 

[Keri]

bro, I'm also 5'7"...nobody gives me crap about my height. Most of my friends are taller than me, two of my exes were taller than me. I've learned that if a girls care that much about height, she's not worth it.

Thank you. This is the truth.

I've never cared about height, in either guys or girls.
Shorter than me? Cool. Same height as me? Cool. Taller than me? Cool.

 

[MehGuy]

bro, I'm also 5'7"...nobody gives me crap about my height. Most of my friends are taller than me, two of my exes were taller than me. I've learned that if a girls care that much about height, she's not worth it.

I'm 5'7" as well. It's not the worst height to be, but it's still short. At least you can salvage the fact that you're at least tall or a little taller than the majority of women.

I do believe my height hurts me, but it's considerably better than being 5"2, or something like that.

I do have no problem with a woman who rejects me because of my height. Sure it will hurt, and most likely anger me. But I'd be a hypocrite to denounce it. Since there are body types and heights I wouldn't tolerate dating another person.

 

[Spunkn]

If you think 5'7" and balding are bad genes in today's world I think your definition is incorrect. There are much worse things than those.

 

[Maka]

I have thought about this from time to time. I was born with bad genes, 5 '7" and premature balding at the age of 18. It is likely if I do find a wife that she will be shorter than me and means kids would be short and if had male would have to go through life like I did. I know it is kind of silly but those affect a man so much to where it is hard to have any confidence.

If its something that bothers you then I don't think it's silly. I do think you are being too hard on yourself though. A guy being 5'7" and premature balding isn't something I'd consider bad genes.

 

[Saucy]

My father was 5'7'' and started balding at 20. I'm six foot and the tallest in the family, near 30 with a full head of hair with no sign of it receding yet. Not that it won't, but it hasn't. Sometimes certain genes skip generations. You shouldn't have anything to worry about.

Heck, even weird things happened. My grandparents had five kids. All had dark hair, brown eyes. All of us grandchildren, dark hair, brown eyes. Except one. My uncle has blonde hair, blue eyes. The family jokes that grandma got knocked up by the mail man lol. I have hazel/green eyes, which is an oddity from either side of the family. So there are weird things in every gene selection you just can't predict. Your kid may not look like you. I've seen pictures of two black people having a white child and vice versa.

Just because you have self-esteem issues doesn't mean you're a bad person who won't find a mate or that your kids will be ugly and unsuccessful, etc like you THINK you are.