walking in guilt

[dklee]

I said some mean terrible things to my wife . And it really hurt her and our relationship. She since has told me she is angry and hurt (which is ok) but I need to find a way to get her to forgive me. I really am feeling terrible about the whole incident. please pray for us.

 

[Why?]

I am praying for you and your wife.

 

[herev]

praying for both, be patient, be kind, forgiving yourself will actually help her forgive you. I also have to say this--I have to say it to my congregation members on at least a weekly basis. If you are in Christ Jesus, you have no right to feel guilt. Guilt always comes from the devil--only conviction comes from the holy spirit. Guilt keeps us down and makes us self-hate. Reject any guilt. If you are feeling convicted of your actions, give in and repent, but never accept the guilt the devil is giving you--never.

 

[selune]

Praying for you

 

[alaskamolly]

One big thing won't do it--we gals don't work like that--but lots of little things, continually--little "gifts" and little efforts to help out and be sweet...

We women respond well to that!

Men often think in terms of doing "one big thing," simply because men are wired that way. But we gals are a different sort (as you well know), and respond differently.

To most of us, a bouquet of flowers and a new car and a backrub and a date to our favorite resteraunt and a sweet compliment with a kiss, etc... Well, they all mean about the same thing--a lot!

We appreciate your thoughtfulness and your care in all the ways you show it...and when it's shown consistantly, in little ways as well as big, that tells us that you really mean it.




Her forgiveness needs to be based on your apology, not on you doing something for you... (though it's up to her to choose to forgive, and there's not much you can do about that)....

But her TRUST, which you do need to win back, will be slowly rebuilt as she sees you doing all sorts of sweet little things here and there.

Women need to know they are SAFE with their man. That's why angry words can be so damaging. So your acts of kindness, in all sorts of little ways, will go a long way in showing her that you really do love and care for her...


Warm Regards,
Molly

 

[bliz]

You need to have repented before God and sought His forgivness.

You need to have apologized to your wife.

You need to have changed your actions and keep them changed. You are not only seeking your wife's forgivness, you are seeking to have her re-trust you. That will take some time. Especially if something like this has happened before.

If you have previously used your words as a weapon agaiinst her, you need to be getting some help for your problem. You might start with an accountability group or a church pastor.

 

[NoneyaBiznezz]

Sounds like you need to go buy some flowers....Maybe read her some poetry, better yet, write some yourself!!

Make sure you tell her that your a dumb @$$ (This may be a repeated event) and that you should have never said what you did.

 

[GirlieGirl]

One big thing won't do it--we gals don't work like that--but lots of little things, continually--little "gifts" and little efforts to help out and be sweet...

We women respond well to that!

Men often think in terms of doing "one big thing," simply because men are wired that way. But we gals are a different sort (as you well know), and respond differently.

To most of us, a bouquet of flowers and a new car and a backrub and a date to our favorite resteraunt and a sweet compliment with a kiss, etc... Well, they all mean about the same thing--a lot!

We appreciate your thoughtfulness and your care in all the ways you show it...and when it's shown consistantly, in little ways as well as big, that tells us that you really mean it.




Her forgiveness needs to be based on your apology, not on you doing something for you... (though it's up to her to choose to forgive, and there's not much you can do about that)....

But her TRUST, which you do need to win back, will be slowly rebuilt as she sees you doing all sorts of sweet little things here and there.

Women need to know they are SAFE with their man. That's why angry words can be so damaging. So your acts of kindness, in all sorts of little ways, will go a long way in showing her that you really do love and care for her...


Warm Regards,
Molly

Word.

 

[cjba]

It may take some time for her heart to heal. When one is hurt by the person they love they lose a little of that comfort or security or whatever it is that makes you two connect. It will take time, as long as you continually show her what she means to you she will come around. Be patient and pray to the Lord to help you in the future with the might tongue that can get us in trouble.

Praying for the both of you.