walking alone

[Bryan Lim]

Hi people, uuhhmm.......I am just wondering if any feel jealous when you see people toting their boyfriend/girlfriend, walking the aisle together and gaze romantically into each other'e eyes, have romantic dinner etc? I would be lying to you if i say i don't. Still, i am just wondering if this is normal and others feel the same.
one more question, which one you believe?
a) that getting married and having children is prove that the rule 'survival of the fittest' exist in which those that do not have the chance to get married will not be able to pass down its gene. (One person I know said 'Some never find their soulmate so that others can get on with life'.)
b) that God has planned a life partner for you.
I choose a). Sad eh?

 

[jenptcfan]

I don't believe that singleness has anything to do with survival of the fittest. Let's face it, lots of people who do get married and have children don't have the greatest genes/morals, etc. to pass on to their children.

I hope that God has planned a life partner for me, but I know that if God knows that I can serve him better as a single person than a married person, there's a chance that he hasn't planned a life partner for me at all. I just have faith that He knows what He's doing, and though I do want a husband and children one day, I'm open to not having that.

 

[songz777]

I dont feel jealous, and I know all thinhs happen in Gods time, also there is no one that can says "Im destined to be single" it is God who makes us attractive to other people, if we believed that it was chance and only goodlooking people found soul mates, well God wouldnt be God would He? Thank goodness He is in control...John

 

[Tihana]

I choose b). However, I'm not sure you can be certain to ever find that "special someone". Maybe he/she gets married to someone else, maybe one or both of you makes a "wrong" choice some time in life, so that you don't meet that person. Many things can happen, but I think God has planned a life partner for you. I must say, if I didn't believe that, I would find it much more difficult to be 26 and single...

 

[Blank123]

I usually don't get jealous by stuff like that, but I will admit that there are times I do.

To answer your second question I'm going to with b. I believe that God is in control, and He has someone set aside for me, and when the timing is right, God will aloww us to get together.

 

[jay_swift]

I feel that way alot of times, what helps is NOT looking at cute couples! OR you can use that frustrated energy in ways that can improve your health, like working out, or improve your spiritual life, reading the Bible or praying.

About the second question, people who believe A probably have a harder time when they break up with someone. That is something you might want to think about if you do end up finding a relationship.

 

[bkg]

I do get jealous now... I didn't before I was married because I knew that it would happen someday. Being single again and not wanting to be makes it hard to see couples so happy. I'm very happy for them! I truly am! But I'm admittedly sad for me...

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I get jealous every now and then. Depends on how I'm dealing with my singleness at that time. Other times I thank God that I am still single.

The couple that I get most jealous of is that really old couple you see. They are probably pushing 80 and yet they are hobbling along, still holding hands. THAT right there gets me every time. Yet you can't help to smile. Because no matter that you're longing for that, it gives you warm fuzzies to think about the two of them, still holding hands after all of those years.

 

[rainbowprism]

I admit I get jealous sometimes. Especially when I'm at church, sitting by myself and I look around and see all these couples my age worshipping together and listening to the sermon holding hands.... I tell myself that I'm alone right now because perhaps GOd wants me to focus on Him but sometimes it does get really tough, I'm not gonna lie...here's to the future!

 

[desi]

Bryan, I sometimes feel jealous when I see people walking alone. You have all the choice in the world who you take as a bride. As a Godly man you have the pick of the litter. All you have to do is ask and God will provide. Of course you may have to meet God half way by talking to some girls.

 

[oldrooster]

I don't get jealous, I used to be married, but now am not. I will find someone, now with the God providing bit, he hasn't done much for me in that area, but I am patient.

 

[wvmtnkid]

I hope that God has planned a life partner for me, but I know that if God knows that I can serve him better as a single person than a married person, there's a chance that he hasn't planned a life partner for me at all. I just have faith that He knows what He's doing, and though I do want a husband and children one day, I'm open to not having that.

What she said!

As for the jealously part, I am not sure that it's jealously, but I guess I have feelings of wondering what they are doing right and what I am doing wrong. Have I not pleased God, have I not asked correctly or enough. I know it's silly, but those thoughts go through my head.

 

[LadyDJ]

Seeing couples used to bother me a lot...I can't say that occasional bouts of wishful thinking about being in a relationship don't slip in. For the most part, I'm usually too caught up in whatever I'm involved in at the moment (i.e., kids, Mass, hobby, etc.) to pay that much attention to the couples around me.

As for the second question...I'll have to pass on 'a' and trust to 'b'....

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

As for the jealously part, I am not sure that it's jealously, but I guess I have feelings of wondering what they are doing right and what I am doing wrong. Have I not pleased God, have I not asked correctly or enough.

I am similar.

 

[Lia]

I get envious every now and then, I admit it. But whenever the thought comes up, I try to stop myself not thinking about it so I won't indulge in pity-party. I have been learning that I need to be happy without anyone beside me in any circumstances. I have to make myself happy and content.

I trust God and I know He is still writing my story. I hope that someday he will bring someone Godly to spend the rest of my life with. I still haven't at the point where I can say it's ok if God doesn't give me a family I can call my own. It will be very sad for me truthfully. But I think if that situation really happens, God will change and prepare my heart. Then I'll be fine with that hopefully.