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Wild_Fan4Christ said:
Yes i am 16 and he is 19. I am so not ready for sex and I think I will only be ready when I am married.
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Just keep prayingchristiangirrl said:
- try to say the rosary daily asking for the grace of chastity (this is great to do after marriage as well to strengthen one's ability to remain faithful to one's spouse)- and stay close to the sacraments, particularly confession and the Eucharist- as the confer the grace (to be read POWER) to overcome temptation!!
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Don't forget that the Bible assures us that no temptation shall befall us, except thatwhich is allowed by God-- and we have His assurance that with that temptation we will also be given the means of escaping the temptation. I'll see if I can find the chapter and verse for that quote! It really helped me when I was trying to quit smoking and to overcome sexual impurity.christiangirrl said:thank you Shannon. Temptation is difficult to fight but I believe it can be overcome!
Remember that one of the best ways to fight temptation is to AVOID NEAR OCCASSIONS OF SIN!!
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Here's the Scripture- thanks to some of our Protestant brethren!!
"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." - 1 Corinthians 10:13
"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." - 1 Corinthians 10:13
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As someone who is faithful to remaining "pure" until marriage, I am a little confused by that above Bible reference.
What does God mean by we won't be tempted beyond what we can handle etc? Does that mean our brethren that give in to sexual temptations do so because God has allowed it? I don't understand...
I know no guys who are into God and even a lot who are have definitely I'd say be having sex in past relationships etc...It's very uncommon here for a guy to be a Virgin or a devout Christian so I know it will prolly be up to me to ensure whoever I date and I don't have pre-marital sex. I am Praying to meet the right person that respects my decision if he isn't into that himself. I've told God to make me happy just being alone rather than in Love with someone who isn;t right for me I really hope that happens.
What does God mean by we won't be tempted beyond what we can handle etc? Does that mean our brethren that give in to sexual temptations do so because God has allowed it? I don't understand...
I know no guys who are into God and even a lot who are have definitely I'd say be having sex in past relationships etc...It's very uncommon here for a guy to be a Virgin or a devout Christian so I know it will prolly be up to me to ensure whoever I date and I don't have pre-marital sex. I am Praying to meet the right person that respects my decision if he isn't into that himself. I've told God to make me happy just being alone rather than in Love with someone who isn;t right for me I really hope that happens.
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I think he was saying that he won't let us be tempted by a temptation that we can't resist.
Sometimes it takes really intense prayer to resist temptation.
Sometimes time as well, but, once resisted, it causes us to grow in virtue.
I heard that "I kissed dating goodbye" was an excellent book as well. I have not read it myself yet though.
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Sometimes it takes really intense prayer to resist temptation.
Sometimes time as well, but, once resisted, it causes us to grow in virtue.
I heard that "I kissed dating goodbye" was an excellent book as well. I have not read it myself yet though.
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As a former protestor, heard a sermon with an interesting take on the "wages of Sin" being death theme. The emphasis was not only the break (death) in our relationship with God created when we sin, but also that something else always dies too. And maybe many things die, things you may never get back and a direct result of your actions. When we sin by lying for example, your reputation can die or a relationship can end over it. Something always dies. In the Old Testament David satisfied his lust and got another mans wife by having her husband killed. Forgiven by God, he still paid dearly for that sin. As several have suggested here, you must never forget that there will always be consequences for sin and not just between God and you. It is not just about whether you get caught, pregnant, disease
though those things are certainly possible and would represent a death. If nothing else as someone already noted, such a compromise means your conscience will suffer the rest of your life. Something will die.
We often do not think of these things in moments of passion, especially at your age and with his hormones raging. Which is why people wisely suggest you avoid putting yourself in those moments. Very hard to cross the line if you are never alone in private together. And if you start playing with fire by drawing lines in the sand for private encounters you will only start redrawing the lines and then end up going where you do not want to go. And from my perspective you cannot trust a young man to honor any such line once you invite him to come up to it by drawing one.
Our beautiful sacrament of reconciliation addresses the damage sin can cause both in this world and in our relationship with God. It includes repairing not only the broken relationship with God, but also our whole Church community. Pray and confess your thoughts. May God bless you and keep you safe in His arms!
We often do not think of these things in moments of passion, especially at your age and with his hormones raging. Which is why people wisely suggest you avoid putting yourself in those moments. Very hard to cross the line if you are never alone in private together. And if you start playing with fire by drawing lines in the sand for private encounters you will only start redrawing the lines and then end up going where you do not want to go. And from my perspective you cannot trust a young man to honor any such line once you invite him to come up to it by drawing one.
Our beautiful sacrament of reconciliation addresses the damage sin can cause both in this world and in our relationship with God. It includes repairing not only the broken relationship with God, but also our whole Church community. Pray and confess your thoughts. May God bless you and keep you safe in His arms!
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Remember those scenes where the girl looks at the guy and says "will you respect me in the morning?"
Forget that and remember that it truly doesn't matter if he respects her or not. Our question should be "Will I respect me in the morning?" or "Can I look at myself in the mirror, into my own eyes, and ask God to love me?"
Forget that and remember that it truly doesn't matter if he respects her or not. Our question should be "Will I respect me in the morning?" or "Can I look at myself in the mirror, into my own eyes, and ask God to love me?"
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In case it hasn't been suggested yet, please read:
Pure Love by: Catholic Answers. Also, take some time to check out the rest of the Catholic Answers Chastity Page.
May the love of Jesus Christ be with you!
JMJ
Pure Love by: Catholic Answers. Also, take some time to check out the rest of the Catholic Answers Chastity Page.
May the love of Jesus Christ be with you!
JMJ
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I posted Part 1 earlier and can't remember what page it was on in this thread. But it is about "Sex and Holy Purity" by Barbara Kralis with inspiration from Archbishop Sheen.
It sends a strong message to both girls and boys out there. Part 1 is at the bottom of this article.
http://www.renewamerica.us/columns/kralis/041101
It sends a strong message to both girls and boys out there. Part 1 is at the bottom of this article.
http://www.renewamerica.us/columns/kralis/041101
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faerieevaH
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As to good books to recommend, I favoured Rebecca St James: letters to my future husband.
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Wiffey
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Actually, I LIKE the chaperone idea...I'll have to remember it for when my daughter is old enough to date!Ann M said:And have you organized a chaperone yet?
Something to ponder: I know NO women who, after marrying the love of their life, wish they had slept around MORE.
Personally, after marrying my husband I really wished that I had waited to share myself with ONLY him. Most women come to deeply regret any pre-marital indiscretions...
Good luck and may God bless you,
Wiffey
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