Waiting is Good.

[iloveringyou]

So some of you may have seen posts by me were I have talked a little bit about a boy named Aaron. (profile photo, girl=me, guy=him) but we have been establishing a relationship. However he has not officially asked me to be his girlfriend because he wants to wait for Gods approval type of thing. And he said that I am the first girl that has ever been willing to wait for him. In which I know he is the right one for me simply because we were brought together by God. Week before I really got to know him at camp(reason I say really is because I had noticed him before at camp years ago) I prayed to God that I would meet a Christian guy, someone that would help me out, simply because I was choosing the completely wrong guys...they were actually pulling me more and more into my sin. And he told me that he prayed before camp too that God would help him find a girl that would not only wait for him but to motivate him to grow a stronger bond with God. And he said I am the biggest motivation he has had. Which comforts me to know. And he has helped me out so much, I have never been this close to God in my life. And since we were starting to get a little off track what with confessing our feelings for each other we decided to go on a fast. A fast from each other to help remind us of the person that really brought us together, God. And from then on we will talk of our devotions and teach each other things we have learned...or even experiences we had during this week(6 days). So pretty much we are close friends that say I love you. And I think that is definitely a good start for something that will flourish as long as we keep our eyes set on God. I would appreciate it if any of you could post any verses you know that have to do with waiting. So once we get to talking(tomorrows the last day and then Saturday we will talk) I have some verses to help encourage the both of us when we start feeling like waiting is getting to difficult. Because we have complained so many times before to each other that waiting sucks, but the other one will always be like "ahha Yeah it sucks but waiting is good." lol We figure its the way God wants it to be done, it will make us ultimately closer(what with respecting each other), and when everything does happen-we would have wanted it for so long it will just make everything that much more special. Thanks for reading, and hope I see some verses from you people.

 

[Shadolus]

I don't know the exact scripture but the Bible says something to the likes of we must build our foundation and business before we build our house (I'm sure that's quite off but it has the same meaning lol) So basically my point is, is that's it's God's will for us to establish our job, schooling, growth in God, and the learning of what it means to be a good husband/wife before we pursue our spouse. Sorry to break it to you but the chances God wants you to be together at such a young age (your profile says you're 17) is unlikely. But I'm not in here to judge that matter, however to just caution you .

 

[ceh85]

Sorry to break it to you but the chances God wants you to be together at such a young age (your profile says you're 17) is unlikely. But I'm not in here to judge that matter, however to just caution you .

17 is young but not necessarily too young to embark upon a meaningful relationship. By waiting and forming a deeper bond I think you have more chance of it lasting.

I found this verse which I thought might be useful for a couple:

"Now may the God who gives comfort and strength in waiting make you of the same mind with one another in harmony with Christ Jesus…" Romans 15:5

Another one I like is:

"When I was waiting quietly for the Lord, His heart was turned to me, and He gave ear to my cry." Psalms 40:1


Most of the Bible verses I found on waiting are concerned with waiting for God, not for another person. It sounds like you are already putting him at the centre of your relationship, which seems to be what is necessary from the verses I found. I wish you well and hope your fast from each other proves rewarding.

 

[Shadolus]

17 is young but not necessarily too young to embark upon a meaningful relationship. By waiting and forming a deeper bond I think you have more chance of it lasting.

People get married at all different ages and as long as they've done it responsibly then their's no harm, my point simply was just to be cautious of the proponents of being so young. If they want to deepen their relationship by being together all the time it will increase the temptation to have pre-marital sex, and if they were to succumb, only to find out that they weren't ment for eachother; where does that leave them? I just ask to evaluate the situation before God.

 

[donb1959]

From your posts it appears that you are wise for your age, make sure Aaron is as well.

Shalom,
DonB

 

[AmeriLovesJesus]

Well first Id like to say I am very happy for you & that so much more happy you are waiting on God to answer... I like ceh85 post. I promise you though from personal experience that waiting is VERY good. He will answer & guide you though it can be hard those challenges are there for a reason.

 

[ninalabelle007]

Well first Id like to say I am very happy for you & that so much more happy you are waiting on God to answer... I like ceh85 post. I promise you though from personal experience that waiting is VERY good. He will answer & guide you though it can be hard those challenges are there for a reason.

It's nice to hear cause i really needed to hear that. I myself am waiting and lately i have been thinking maybe its going against my advantage. But long and behold this thread sent me back on track. I'm not as young as the original poster and some people might think its lame for someone my age to still be a virgin. But I will continue to wait.

 

[GaryP]

Forget about it. Your young, concentrate on finishing School, Camp romances, brings me
back to 1974. Just have fun. So lets test it. This boy brings you closer to God????

Jesus takes you to the Father, not a boy. You are either with the Father or not.

As young female creation, you have a desire to mate, well not just yet.

Focus instead on the Father First, You, Second, Your Family, potential non committal
boyfriend, last.

it would be hard to do this, I could not, when I was your age. All the girls I liked
at church and camp. I ended up marrying a woman, I met in College, We have been
married 28 years.

And of Course I remember the emotional frenzy, I had with the Church and Camp girls.

Big waste of time and energy.

 

[iloveringyou]

Well it also helps that he is about 40 minutes to an hour away. So when we want to hang out its a big ordeal. ahaha And plus I know there is temptation but I and he wants to make a point to wait till marriage.

But I appreciate your guys posts.

And we are trying not to rush into anything what with waiting and stuff.

And thanks for the verse. I did look up on my own that most verses on waiting have to do with waiting for God. Which is fine. Because in a sense that is what we are doing.

And yes I will be cautious and hope that neither of us will give into temptation.

 

[ceh85]

People get married at all different ages and as long as they've done it responsibly then their's no harm, my point simply was just to be cautious of the proponents of being so young. If they want to deepen their relationship by being together all the time it will increase the temptation to have pre-marital sex, and if they were to succumb, only to find out that they weren't ment for eachother; where does that leave them? I just ask to evaluate the situation before God.

Hi Jake,
I agree it is important to be cautious, and of course lots of relationships don't work out at this age, which is probably a good thing! This couple seem to be actually taking breaks from each other though as opposed to spending all their time together, which seems mature. I hope it will allow them to hear what God is saying about their situation, and to evaluate it like you said.

iloveringyou - i wish you all the best for today, will be praying for you

 

[iloveringyou]

Forget about it. Your young, concentrate on finishing School, Camp romances, brings me
back to 1974. Just have fun. So lets test it. This boy brings you closer to God????

Jesus takes you to the Father, not a boy. You are either with the Father or not.

As young female creation, you have a desire to mate, well not just yet.

Focus instead on the Father First, You, Second, Your Family, potential non committal
boyfriend, last.

it would be hard to do this, I could not, when I was your age. All the girls I liked
at church and camp. I ended up marrying a woman, I met in College, We have been
married 28 years.

And of Course I remember the emotional frenzy, I had with the Church and Camp girls.

Big waste of time and energy.

My main focus is on God...not only does that show in stop talking to him for the past 6 days so I make sure that I don't stray from God. But God introduced me to Aaron, the first person, GUY that has actually brought me back to God. We are mere tools and God uses us for his grand plan. He used Aaron to bring me back to him. So I look at Aaron as a blessing...or else I would still be going to guys that dont respect me, I would be cussing up a storm, and drinking.

And I have graduated highschool at 16...

And with the whole you are with the father or not....it just doesn't stop there, which I am sure you know. Faith isn't a one time thing its a lifestyle. I want to surround myself with people that will encourage me to improve myself in the Lord. Because I like alot of teens are very impressionable. And Aaron and possibly my friend Logan are the only good christian influences I have...I mean when it comes to friendship.

And yes I want children. But I am not willing to just hand out my virginity on a platter because I eventually want children. Not only do I know I don't have the financial support but until I get a husband I am not going to break my Gods law nor bring the shame of pre-martial sex upon me. I mean temptation might take over me if I set myself up for such situation but my right mind tells me waiting is good.

I dont think this is a waste of time or energy. Finally found someone that wants to wait, has God in his heart, has only tried to help me, is in it for the long run...I fail to see how that is a waste of time.

A waste of time its going for other guys that are not like that and getting a big slap in the face when they turn out to just be normal perverted guys.(Referring to the guys in the past that are not followers of God)

And we are taking things slow so that we can create a strong bond...and we have prayed for it to only happen if its in Gods will. He hasn't stopped us yet(not meaning we can go and start making out) as in we haven't found any reason as to why we should not be together....I dont know.

Went on to a rant. Grr

And I think its good that your marriage has lasted. You must have had God in your heart and he has been very gracious to you so far. I hope it continues.