Hi...I am new to CF....I have been in a serious commited relationship for almost one year. My boyfriend and I have come to the point in our relationship that we know that we love one another and we know that God put us together for a reason. We just aren't sure what the reason is. We don't know if we were put together for just a short time to give us life lessons for the future or if we were put here to be together for the long haul. Has anyone else come to this point in their relationship recently...and/or recently passed the point where they received their answer and would like to share their thoughts?
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abrown625 said:
I'm at that point right now. It'll be a year for us next month as well. It's starting to annoy me that I don't know because if he's not the one, then I don't see a reason to continue with a romantic relationship. I feel that I'm too young to know and I plan to wait till I'm at least 21 to marry anyway, but I still keep thinking about it. I asked my bf how he felt about it and he said that he's a 100% sure I'm the one for him. So when/how will I know?? (Sorry, I know that question has been asked a hundred times before here).
I didn't mean to hijack your thread or anything, its just that this has been on my mind a lot lately...
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Hmm... it's a great question actually. For me, i knew he was the one... Um good question as to when, i wanted to marry him before we got engaged, but just after I got back from my 3 month trip overseas (we'd been going out 10 months when I returned, engaged for 7 ish..) I KNEW it. But don't do it that way, i'd been so messed up in the past that it took me a while. Assess his character and then decide what to do./..
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Um...
I'm going out on a limb here, and I may be completely wrong, but I don't think this is the right way to be thinking about your relationship. I mean, if you know God has brought you two together, you should just enjoy it. I'm not saying go get married or anything, but don't treat the relationship differently just because you have an inkling you were just brought together to be "taught something" and it's not here to stay.
Just let life run its course. If you break up you break up, and you probably have learned something. If you end up together for the rest of your lives, great! But don't go looking for things that might not be there. Keep talking to and listening for God, and if there's something you need to know, he'll let you know. Don't overanaylze a God-given relationship.
Just my two cents, anyway. As for me and my boyfriend, I'd have it no other way. As far as I'm concerned God worked in my life and my boy is answered prayer, and I'm just along for the ride, strenghting and enjoying the relationship to the best of my abiltiy.
I'm going out on a limb here, and I may be completely wrong, but I don't think this is the right way to be thinking about your relationship. I mean, if you know God has brought you two together, you should just enjoy it. I'm not saying go get married or anything, but don't treat the relationship differently just because you have an inkling you were just brought together to be "taught something" and it's not here to stay.
Just let life run its course. If you break up you break up, and you probably have learned something. If you end up together for the rest of your lives, great! But don't go looking for things that might not be there. Keep talking to and listening for God, and if there's something you need to know, he'll let you know. Don't overanaylze a God-given relationship.
Just my two cents, anyway. As for me and my boyfriend, I'd have it no other way. As far as I'm concerned God worked in my life and my boy is answered prayer, and I'm just along for the ride, strenghting and enjoying the relationship to the best of my abiltiy.
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BlackLamb said:
You know, that is really good advice. It's not that relationships should be taken lightly, but if it's God's will for someone to be in a relationship, then they ought to just accept what has been revealed for the moment and not worry about what may come down the road. Thinking the relationship isn't heading anywhere is just setting oneself up for wanting out.
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You know most people aren't going to get a clear word of knowledge about who they should marry. But, you should have peace with the relationship and want to be married to the person. You should pray for guidance and pay attention to red flags that come up.
We have to be careful about our feelings. I was positive that God had brought my ex-bf and I together to be married. Maybe he did and the ex just got scared, or I was wrong and there was some other reason for it all.
We have to be careful about our feelings. I was positive that God had brought my ex-bf and I together to be married. Maybe he did and the ex just got scared, or I was wrong and there was some other reason for it all.
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How old are you? And how do you feel about him?abrown625 said:
You don't have to worry about a reason. Sometimes what it all boils down to is just attraction. Mindlessly obsessing over every inkling will boggle you. Just enjoy what you have, you know?
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I am 22 and he is 29....I feel very strongly about him. I am about 95% sure that he is the one for me. I have never felt this way about any other person ever in my life. Every time I think about him I smile. All I can think about it how happy my life is now that he is in it. What is holding me back from the other 5% I think is the fact that I wonder if it is him that makes me a happy person or if being with him just accents the happieness that I already have. I want to make sure that I am happy and content with my life as an individual first, and that him being in my life is just accents it. It is very hard to explain. Everyone has given great advice. Thanks!!
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I would say so long as you dont see any warning signs, to continue getting to know him better. God doesnt always build things at the rate WE think He should. 
Also, honestly ask yourself this question:
Could I live the rest of my life WITHOUT him?
Perhaps in that, you will find your answer.
Also, honestly ask yourself this question:
Could I live the rest of my life WITHOUT him?
Perhaps in that, you will find your answer.
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