I've decided to save myself for marriage even though I'm not a virgin. Since I've made this decision I've found alot of guys that I would like to date that were smart and funny and all that and seemed to be good. When I told each of my attitude towards sex they all seemed to have more respect for me but then they stopped calling. This has happened with three guys so far and I find it very discouraging...Are any guys interested in ANything but sex???
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Waiting for Marriage-is anyone doing it anymore??
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There is a course at Setting Captives FRee called Purity Challenge I think. Other young people are saving sex for marriage, it's a matter of finding a group that supports your beliefs, whether in your church or somewhere the group is being offered.
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I am, also, waiting until marriage in my current relationship. I've had enough experience with what the world has to offer to know that it's completely negative.
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A lot of guys aren't but don't let that deter you from the standard you have set for yourself.
You are better off without a guy than having one who relates to you as an opportunity for sexual exploration. You wnat someone who wants you, not just your body.
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You are better off without a guy than having one who relates to you as an opportunity for sexual exploration. You wnat someone who wants you, not just your body.
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As a matter of fact, there are a few of us out there, but even in "christian" circles, we're a dying breed.
Keep looking, and don't settle for less - you will find the one that God has for you eventually!
Keep looking, and don't settle for less - you will find the one that God has for you eventually!
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I saw your post and thought I ought to reply. Yes actually, I'm 18 and have grown so very sick of the whole dating/sex nonsense here at my college. I've been disenchanted for a long time, but the verse "all things work out for teh best for them that love God and are called according to His purpose" has meant so much to me whenever I've been lonely or realize that a relationship is pretty rotten. Another verse to "seek ye first the kingdom of God" is I think pretty important. Ever since I moved to college, I've been struggling with reevaluating a lot of things in my life that haven't been given up to God entirely and it seems like the doors have opened for a closer relationship w/ Him. I've felt like He's been working in this area of my life and it's been getting easier to give over things I refused to consider in the context of His word for a long time. So many hard changes, but the freedom and the blessings He gives are truly amazing as I get better at living for Him.
Then not very long ago at all, God blessed me with the most wonderful Christian girlfriend I could hope for, dropping her into my life in a way entirely out of my plan or suspicion. This has kinda reaffirmed once and again to me that as long as I put Him #1 that He will provide in His own time what is truly best for us.
Fight the good fight my friend, God will provide whatever is best is His time.
Regards.
Then not very long ago at all, God blessed me with the most wonderful Christian girlfriend I could hope for, dropping her into my life in a way entirely out of my plan or suspicion. This has kinda reaffirmed once and again to me that as long as I put Him #1 that He will provide in His own time what is truly best for us.
Fight the good fight my friend, God will provide whatever is best is His time.
Regards.
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Aside from the Biblical and health benefits to purity, and the fact that it helps you focus on what really matters in a future spouse, it's also a great repellent to guys who are 'users'. The man who really loves you, and wants *you* rather than ready sex, will love you all the more for your purity and will be happy to love you in a celibate way until you can marry each other.
God bless you!
God bless you!
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I, too, am waiting until marriage and I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I think having sex before marriage can cause far too much confusion, besides it being against what the Bible says. Yet, God forgives, as long as we are truly repentant. Over the past few years, I've read some good books, like Wait for Me by Rebecca St. James, Passion & Purity by Elisabeth Elliot, and just reading what the Bible has to say on the subject. Physicality in a relationship can be a struggle sometimes, but God will give you the strength in the midst of it all as long as your trust that He knows what is best.
My boyfriend holds the same views as I do. There are guys who don't, but at 18 or so, people are still learning who they are and many are wanting to try new things and not limit themselves. As you grow older and are in a Christian circle, you'll find more Christian guys who share the same views of purity as you do. Take care.
My boyfriend holds the same views as I do. There are guys who don't, but at 18 or so, people are still learning who they are and many are wanting to try new things and not limit themselves. As you grow older and are in a Christian circle, you'll find more Christian guys who share the same views of purity as you do. Take care.
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My husband and I dated for three years before getting married -- he was 25 and I was 24 when we married, and we married as virgins. It can be done. In fact, if you both have your minds made up that sex is not an option, that is most of the battle won. I reccommend a beautiful book that helped me keep my eyes focused on what my priorities were, as well as what "love" between a man and a woman should be. It's called "I Loved A Girl," by Walter Trobisch. If you look it up on Amazon, it will let you read the first few pages. These are some of the most beautiful passages from the book and I hope you will take new strength. Waiting eliminates so many potential problems and it is definitely worth it. People are actually jealous of you when they find out you waited-- either that or they think you must be lying, but God knows the truth!
I'll pray that God sends you the desires of your heart.
I'll pray that God sends you the desires of your heart.
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