Virginity

[Thusia Zao]

Wait for marriage. But if you fall short of it, don't sweat, repent.

God's not gonna just smite you for having sex early. Jesus already did the work for us.

It basically comes down to your relationship with God. If you really love God to the point of following this command, then you'd have the power of the Holy Spirit to resist temptation.

I like this verse: "Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." Matt 6:21

You need to be strong in spirit, filled by the spirit. Good luck. God bless.

 

[NewUser777]

Amber, I'm not going to address the underlying issue here, as you know my feelings about that already. I'm also not going to address your main question, as it seems someone else has already answered you satisfactorily.

What I will address is what this thread has morphed into ... sex before marriage ... is it ok?

Well, the Bible says it isn't. And why is that? Because you will go to hell for it? No. Because the person who pays for it is ultimately YOU, here on Earth, in this life.

Whenever two people have sex before marriage, the first thing that happens is respect goes right out the door. But, no one wants to talk about that.

Yes, your bodies feel good afterward, but something has changed inside your heart. Sometimes, this is not apparent until way later. But, it is there nonetheless.

You both know you did something you should not have, but let's just have sex again, or talk about this or that, so that we don't have to listen to our consciences.

I can't count the number of times I've read on these boards and in real life, where someone has said "I had sex before marriage. I sure wish I had waited!" I've lost count. But, I have NEVER heard someone say "My wife/husband and I waited until we got married to have sex, and gee I wish I hadn't." Never heard that.

Some of you evidently haven't read these boards well enough. There is thread after thread of someone who had sex before marriage, and now they are paying for it, and they're looking for help. And sometimes a child is involved.

If you are thinking about having sex before marriage, you need to think with your head, not with your hormones. The Word of God has warned us.

 

[Amber the Duskbringer]

Hun, I can't have babies.

 

[jsimms615]

Yeah and anyone can find a answer to anything here on google. I would prefer to ask here. Specifically I have a odd question and I needed help with it. God forbid I ask it. Sorry but that irks me to no end and here's why. Theoretically anyone with any question can google it. So any thread here made by you me or otherwise is a waste of time. But I specifically asked it here because I find myself more comfortable here.

You don't burn in hell because you have sex before marriage or you don't. You go to hell for rejecting Christ as your Savior. I would encourage you to meditate on Romans 8:1.

 

[MasterpieceMesias]

why can't you have kids, mind me asking??

 

[Amber the Duskbringer]

No sweetie, I do have a face the board thread in singles that explains it

 

[Ash Crimson]

You don't burn in hell because you have sex before marriage or you don't. You go to hell for rejecting Christ as your Savior. I would encourage you to meditate on Romans 8:1.

Exactly. I agree with this answer! Except maybe replace word "Savior" with "Lord".

 

[Bella Vita]

Pray for God to change your heart and change your thoughts. Turn to him he is the answer if you are worried about this giving it over to him is your best bet. Staying a virgin until marriage is important but the state of your heart is also important. This is one you need to work out with prayer and God.

 

[briareos]

Ok here is my question. Aside from what happened to me as a kid I am a virgin in the eyes of God. Now that said I had intended on having sex before marriage but I would prefer to wait. It's complicated and I know the previous sentence contradicts itself. I do wonder that if I died, would I be judged for my intent or my virginity? I would prefer to stay a virgin until marriage but if it came down to it I am not sure I could resist temptation. With that mindset will I get burned if I died a virgin?

And I know it sounds like lust but really lust is the last thing on my mind, it sounds strange but I am not one who thinks about it. Should the moment come though I am not sure I could resist the temptation. Not just a random fling but with the person I love.

If you a heart for sin then that is something you need to go to God to reconcile, I am not sure how God would deal with that but it can't be way for a christian to consistently live. If you have a desire to and intend to commit sin, then sin is in your heart and you need to make that right with God... in the very least.