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Video Games and You

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Many people struggle with addiction of some kind. Smoking, sex, alcohol, pornography, you name it. However, over the years I've struggled with an addiction that will receive more attention in the coming years: video games.

I've been playing them ever since I was 3, when my dad picked up a NES with Super Mario Bros. and started stomping on Goombas. I wasn't drawn to them at first, but over time I began to play myself. That Christmas, my dad got me Super Mario Bros. 2, and from then on it was over. I did other things, but I enjoyed my time in front of the NES the most. This grew until I was known by both friends and family for my fondness of games.

Lots of things appealed to me. I wasn't a very physically talented kid, so playing something that I was good at was good for my self-esteem. You didn't need to have anyone else around to enjoy playing. They were (at the time) mentally challenging. And once you got bored of playing a game, you just pick up another one, and all of the rules, setting, and experience changed to where it was fun again. This allowed me to sit in front of a TV or computer for hours and hours, which I gladly did.

This addiction went on well into adulthood. As before, I was known among my friends and family for my love of video games. However, something changed over time. Newer games, while updated with better graphics and more varied gameplay, still followed basic gaming concepts from the older days, and so much of the challenge was gone. Each new game that I would buy or borrow was less satisfying than the last, until I would play a game simply to keep from feeling miserable. As soon as I had achieved whatever goal the game had, that lonely feeling would return immediately, and so I would find another game just to stave it off a little bit more. I also had few interests outside of video games. No sports, no instruments, and few friends. I was the guy who would ace every test he was handed in school, but only get a B or C because he never did the homework. This actually led to me getting a 24% in my Freshman English class in high school for the last semester! I'm sure you can figure out why.

Recently, the Lord has come back into my life in a big way. Video games stood in opposition to this, as they used up energy that could be poured into studying and witnessing. So I'm here to say today that the Lord has done for me what only he can do: free me. I've de-installed every game on my computer that I would play and plan to sell off my collection. All the new batch of systems are out, but I have no plans to buy a single one. He has filled my life with other, more worthwhile things: a girlfriend who I adore, new interests, a purpose in life, and most importantly Jesus.

Don't get me wrong; it's perfectly possible to play games without falling into addiction like I did. There are also benefits, such as improved reflexes and hand-eye coordination. There are good reasons not to play, however.

1.) Money. I would not be surprised if I spent over $10,000 on games, systems, arcades, and internet cafes over the years. There are a lot of things that that cash could have gone towards.

2.) Opportunity Cost. The cost of not doing something else. If I had to guess how much time I spent playing games over the years, a conservative estimate would be over 4 years worth of time spent playing. Years. That's a lot of time to spend doing what pretty much amounts to nothing.

3.) Bad Emotions. Anyone who watches a Counterstrike or Halo match will know this one. The competitiveness fosters some horrible feelings for people simply because they were better/worse at something than you were.

4.) Separation from God.

Hebrews 12:1 Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Again, it's perfectly possible to play responsibly. Just know what you are getting into.
 

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Wow..it's scary how well this describes me. Almost every detail except that I'm able to go back to some of the same old games without getting too bored with them. Other that that you described me just about perfect. I got started on the original Mario for NES when I was 2 and I haven't stopped yet. My grades suffer slightly but I score the highest on most tests. I was homeschooled for 7 years so I had that much more spare time to get better at the games I collected. So much so that I actually broke a few world records that nobody really cares about.

I was just thinking today how insane it is that my total time on Call of Duty 4 online is up to 3 days. This doesn't include time in between matches (you spend a good chunk of time waiting for games to start and going through various menus and statistics) or single player modes. So that would be closer to 5 days if I had to guess and I've only had the game for 3 months. And I can go back to several of my other games and find statistics from 100 hours up to 600+. That accounts for entire weeks and months of my life. :(

You kind of get the idea that something isn't right when your high rank on Rock Band for guitar is in the top 400. But I haven't actually sat and thought about how much time I'm actually wasting. :doh:

I should find a gamers anonymous support group, lol. My conservative estimate is closer to 2 years.
 
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More power to you bro. I think we all have some sort of vice over us. A good exercise to do is fasting from something that you spend a lot of time doing and dedicating that to God.
 
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Just curious, but how do you decide if it's an addiction or not? I've played games since I was 5- being a smart guy (ace the test, forget the homework as well here) games were often the only place I could find any challenge. Without them I probabyl would have gone insane during high school, I NEEDED that outlet. I still play them often, but they do not interfere in my life. Is this still an addiction, or would you call it responsible use?

I'm curious, because a lot of the "video games are EEEVIIILLL!!! tehy are ADDICTIVE EWWWW!!!!" people don't tend to actually think of the postivie uses they can have. Moderation unto all things; alcohol, sex, pornography, fast food, whatever it is, somone has called it addictive and blown it out of proportion because a few people don't know how to hold back when it's appropriate. The same rules don't necessarily apply to everyone. Anyone have comments to share? I'm curious what this crowd thinks.
 
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Just curious, but how do you decide if it's an addiction or not? I've played games since I was 5- being a smart guy (ace the test, forget the homework as well here) games were often the only place I could find any challenge. Without them I probabyl would have gone insane during high school, I NEEDED that outlet. I still play them often, but they do not interfere in my life. Is this still an addiction, or would you call it responsible use?

I'm curious, because a lot of the "video games are EEEVIIILLL!!! tehy are ADDICTIVE EWWWW!!!!" people don't tend to actually think of the postivie uses they can have. Moderation unto all things; alcohol, sex, pornography, fast food, whatever it is, somone has called it addictive and blown it out of proportion because a few people don't know how to hold back when it's appropriate. The same rules don't necessarily apply to everyone. Anyone have comments to share? I'm curious what this crowd thinks.

An addiction is technically defined as an activity that is so important to someone that it harms other aspects of their lives. Their professional career, their relationships with other people, financially, other activities that they might have enjoyed.

So I guess its up to you to determine if it harms other aspects of your life.

Personally I used to play Video Games a lot more but I've just lost a lot of desire to play them within the last year or so. I still do, but not near as much.

Although I did realize that on CF we don't always follow that definition when referring to people's "addictions". We often say people are addicted to something simpily because they participate in an activity with which we hold moral opposition.
 
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If you just see a game as a game and nothing more, if you moderately play the game after everything you need to do thats more important is done. Honestly, there really isn't a problem there. I wouldn't go soo far to say that if you played a game too long and you didn't get something done, that, that means your addicted to video games. Its like a way to unwine for me, yes it takes concentration but it keeps the mind healthy, same concept with watching a movie or reading a book.

At least thats the way I view it.
 
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If you just see a game as a game and nothing more, if you moderately play the game after everything you need to do thats more important is done. Honestly, there really isn't a problem there. I wouldn't go soo far to say that if you played a game too long and you didn't get something done, that, that means your addicted to video games. Its like a way to unwine for me, yes it takes concentration but it keeps the mind healthy, same concept with watching a movie or reading a book.

At least thats the way I view it.
That sums up how I feel pretty nicely. I just couldn't control myself. When my car broke down a month or so back, I didn't bother looking for a new one for about 2 weeks because I was too busy playing Civilization IV. For the time being, I think it's much much better if I just lay off cold turkey.

I would advise any game-players to be discerning about what you play. Most first-person shooters (indiscriminate slaughter) or JRPG's ("Hey guys, let's go kill 'God'!" If you think I'm kidding go play Star Ocean 3) seem inappropriate for anyone who takes the Bible seriously.
 
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If you just see a game as a game and nothing more, if you moderately play the game after everything you need to do thats more important is done. Honestly, there really isn't a problem there. I wouldn't go soo far to say that if you played a game too long and you didn't get something done, that, that means your addicted to video games. Its like a way to unwine for me, yes it takes concentration but it keeps the mind healthy, same concept with watching a movie or reading a book.

At least thats the way I view it.

I have pressure sores on me bum from too much time on the computer.

That's addiction that I've finally broken.
 
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