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[Taylor43]

Sorry to complain. last night I stayed home from Biblestudy. Last month i lost my online friend to Suicide. I am missing her allot and really feel isolated.

I have this friend who does care about me. But at time it stings to hear her words. I am in a pity party and i need to start listening to my counsellor, doctor. I know in my heart i am listening to what professional advice i am given. Life just aches right now and i am truly trying my best. This friend does not know the whole story. What bugs me is she calls me every few days and claims i am in a pity party for a year i have told her the truth and she thinks i am feeling sorry for myself and need to get my act together.

I keep telling her it is not her problem and we should break for a time but she does push me too much. I love her but I do not understand why she has to push me all the time. I have other friends who are good and healthy for me.

My problem is i do not want her to be hurt but i want in a loving way to let her know the friendship was ok but with life and her advice it is best to let our friendship rest til i get stronger.

Sorry for going on and on but this has been on my mind for months and i need support, encouragement.

I do have depression life right now is not going well and i feel so lost. If i had a choice i would take happy but unfortantly i am not.
Love
Taylor

 

[spoiltbrat2003]

My best friend called Emma is exactly the same, She calls a spade a spade and will not hold back when you need telling off lol
She often said the same about pity parties and asked why I thought the world owed me a living get on with it etc etc.

But My point is, good friends don't always tell us what we want to hear, It sounds to me like she wants to motivate you to start fighting again.
Which isn't a bad thing really, perhaps shes just clumsy with words but I certainly think she has your best interests at heart. And it sounds like she can help. being alone with depression isnt the best option at all you need to get out and about even if its a few hours i am sure she can help your organise something

 

[rocklife]

praying for you

I encourage you to continue with your own bible times too, personal daily bible time helps me a lot, like bible on walkmen tapes, and bible reading. and then be a doer of Jesus' will.

if this friend is pushy in unhealthy way, and it really bothers you, what I would do (I have had this problem) is tell them (in person, phone, e-mail, whichever you are most comfortable), and if they continue to push, tell them more clearly, you may have to be willing to give up the whole friendship if they just don't want to respect you.