Vacation

[v_grace]

Should a Christian couple who have been courting for over two years go on vacation together (no sex)? My friend believes that they should travel with me when I go on vacation or to visit family.

 

[iambren]

Wow, I've struggled with this one too. I haven't gone on a vacation in 2-3 years but traveling alone would be a drag. I take the risk and wait for a girlfriend to appear in my life.

BUT, don't kid yourself, the time relaxed in romantic surroundings WILL lead you to let your guard down. You feel so strong now but when you can have all that time cozy and alone.....

I wouldn't take a third wheel either. (Do they have chastity belts anymore?)lol

No big wise advice pops in my head except this----If you two can go on a vacation together and are TOTALLY nonsexual while on it I doubt you are marriage material anyway. Just me.

 

[Gibsonian]

Being on vacation is no less challenging for a couple imo than an evening alone watching a movie. You are either committed or not, and know what things you have to avoid to avoid. I don't think if you abstain from sex on a vacation, or any other time you are not marriage material, many marriages that started with premarital sex (that's like 99% of them) fail.

 

[dayhiker]

Hi v_grace,
Welcome to CF and your 1st post is here ... kewl.

I go on vacation with my GF all the time. No problem for me ... but then I'm a heretic, believing that the Bible doesn't condemn sex before marriage. Jesus did say do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.

dayhiker

 

[Inkachu]

If they're willing to stay in separate rooms at night, and behave themselves, I think it's fine.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

If they're willing to stay in separate rooms at night, and behave themselves, I think it's fine.

I agree with this. If it were me, I would discuss the particulars before going on the trip so there were no misconstrued notions or expectations. Only you know if you and they can handle it, or if you even want them to go.

 

[iambren]

This seems a double edged sword. If you go and there is NO inclination/temptation to be involved sexually that would be a hint of a lack of passion in the relationship. God did not design us to be so intimately involved without SOME heat of passion. To discover this would be a bit of a downer.

On the other hand if you go and the moonlight gleams at that perfect angle, she looks so fair and appealing and you've had so much fun on the beach wooo, that's heady stuff! If you get the urge to merge your guilt could later be a downer too.

I've "been there done that" when in my early 30s I took a trip with my strong Christian girlfriend. It was wondereful but we definitely went beyond our limits.

Better have a room waaaay down the hall from each other if you decide to go. Yes, some may have an iron will but those are the MINORITY!

 

[bliz]

Grace -

If your friend thinks he should travel with you, then he should inviite you on a vacation.

 

[monograso]

If you are trying to stay "pure" then i would say don't do it. Too much temptation. I think it's a lot different than an evening at home but that's just me.

 

[dayhiker]

Well, as iambren says been there done that
but being the contrarian that I am it was great and I can hardly wait till we get the time and money to go on another vacation.