upset tonight.

[alonenhurt]

Tonight is just like any other night except i can't stop thinking about a sexual assault that occured a while ago. Everyone reccomends a counselor. I just can't make myself go.

Today I got a letter from my attacker and he apologized but in the very next breath he said that he didn't want me to tell anyone.Now, im scared that he is going to do something else to me. i am afraid to walk out to my car alone. How can i stop these feelings of fear? should i forgive my attacker? I know God says that you should forgive, it's so hard. I have so much pain that i can't even handle it anymore, let alone trying to forgive the person who caused this.

any advice?

 

[goldenviolet]

*big hug* a counselor can help you sort out what you should do. and help you manage and overcome your fears.

are you going to turn him in?

sweetheart, you've been through a trauma. it's quite normal to think about it. the part of our body and brain that needs to heal, also needs to sort/think it all out. getting support is a very good step. a therepist would get to know you individually and help you help yourself.

continue to share and fellowship with us as you are able to. take your time. your own pace.
love and blessings! ~ dee

 

[BigToe]

Forgiveness isn't something we can do at the drop of a hat. For some it takes a few weeks, others may take years, and some people may never be ready to forgive their attackers. And that is ok. It doesn't reflect badly on you at all so please don't pressure yourself or worry about forgiving anyone.

Right now you have to do whatever it takes to take care of yourself and protect yourself. Yes, a counselor may be helpful but if you don't feel ready for that yet, that's ok too. You are on your own timescale and no one can tell you when you should do what in your process of healing.

If you ever need to talk, my PM box is always open.

 

[Johnnz]

He is scared, because he knows he has done wrong and could get into trouble. That's his problem, not yours. Don't feel intimidated. If you do, then you must talk to someone and seek their help.

Many abused people fear telling anyone. So the idea of a counsellor is pretty scary too. It is best to front up to what happened and learn how to move on. Don't become imprisoned by your past.

Bless you
John
NZ

 

[Jessica Lauren]

Like a previous poster said, don't let him scare you into backing down.

You should turn that letter into the authorities.

As for counseling.... it is up to you. You have to be ready to help yourself, otherwise it won't work.

Good luck!

 

[Murmur]

Turn him in, sweetie... he doesn't deserve to be on the streets where he can hurt others.

The authorities need to be notified so they can do their proper job.

Good luck.

 

[UnitynLove]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQtfgVWngWc Messages 1-7

 

[BigToe]

How are you doing?

I'm not going to tell you to report anything, I know it isn't that easy. Only you know what you need to do for you to feel better. And whatever you do, tell the story or not, report the crime or not, talk to a counselor or not, I'm here to support you if you want it.

 

[painangel]

i cant really help you. if i tell you that you should go to conciling..i would be a hypocrite because i didnt go myself. and i dont think i will. you have to make that choice. but just know that whatever choice you make...were all here for you.

 

[JolieHeart]

Reporting a crime is the right thing to do but it is not easy. For myself, reporting has helped with the forgiveness aspect. Please feel free to PM me if you want to talk hun. Hugsss and prayers

 

[Johnnz]

I am corresponding with a young woman who has just completed her statements to the police. It was very hard, very unsettling but was another big step in working towards resolution and healing. She has great support around her too, and you can't ever underestimate just how important that is.

But it's a very scary notion too isn't it?

Remember, Jesus offers you a new birth, a re-creation into all that God wants you to be. You, loving people and Jesus make a great team.

Bless you
John