I have taken all the wonderful advice you guys have given me and tried to be there for my friend. It is hard, because they seemed to be the perfect couple and if they cannot stay married, how will there be any hope for the rest of us. My friend has decided to focus on herself and not be with either guy at the moment. She told me if she focuses on God maybe he will give her an answer. She said it is just hard because the guy who is her husband says he is a Christian but does not show it by his actions and her first true love that is a humanist acts more Christian than many who profess that they know Christ. I admit it confuses me because would not the husband who has the Holy Spirit be more convicted and how can someone who does not have Christ have more conviction, how does that work ?