update on my situation

[Amandine]

I did it. Thanks a lot to further desire to follow God's will, and a push from the emphatic posts at the forums I visit, I'm finally breaking a dangerous cycle of lust and sin with my boyfriend. Although it was hard, I think he'll be fine. However, I still feel uneasy because he doesn't really believe my faith. He's accepting of it at least, but deep down he doesn't understand. What should I do? I don't want to leave him, especially when he's trying so hard to be respectful, but I'm worried that he'll never really become interested in the Church. I need a husband that will be the spiritual head of the family! Please, your prayers and advice.

 

[Ceris]

You have my prayers. I am just sorry that I can't give you any good advice.

 

[Kepa]

I did it. Thanks a lot to further desire to follow God's will, and a push from the emphatic posts at the forums I visit, I'm finally breaking a dangerous cycle of lust and sin with my boyfriend. Although it was hard, I think he'll be fine. However, I still feel uneasy because he doesn't really believe my faith. He's accepting of it at least, but deep down he doesn't understand. What should I do? I don't want to leave him, especially when he's trying so hard to be respectful, but I'm worried that he'll never really become interested in the Church. I need a husband that will be the spiritual head of the family! Please, your prayers and advice.

I'm taking it you haven't broken up yet?
I'll summarise my previous statements
1) Don't be yoked together with an unbeliever
2) He lead you into sin, you need to cut him off

You need to know you DON'T need to be in a relationship with him to witness to him. So their goes the guilt of that. And it's NOT your responsibility to save him. That is God's work.
If you want to know what God says on the subject 2Cor6:14!!!
Simple as that.
And Matthew 5:29

If you have broken up, and I got it wrong, congratulations.
And remember, it's not your job to save him. Witness to him, share the gospel, that is what we are all called to do. But God is the only person who can save him. If he doesn't want anything to do with you, then there's nothing you can do about that. If he wants to get back together with you, repremand him.

 

[jenptcfan]

I did it. Thanks a lot to further desire to follow God's will, and a push from the emphatic posts at the forums I visit, I'm finally breaking a dangerous cycle of lust and sin with my boyfriend. Although it was hard, I think he'll be fine. However, I still feel uneasy because he doesn't really believe my faith. He's accepting of it at least, but deep down he doesn't understand. What should I do? I don't want to leave him, especially when he's trying so hard to be respectful, but I'm worried that he'll never really become interested in the Church. I need a husband that will be the spiritual head of the family! Please, your prayers and advice.

First of all . Congratulations on making a very difficult decision. Going from a cycle of lust and sin to NOT a cycle of lust and sin will likely be difficult for both of you even in the days to come. Stay strong and know that God will honor your commitment to follow His will.

My advice is for you to break it off with your boyfriend since he's an unbeliever and it's important for you to have a spiritual head of the family. It's unfair to go into a relationship expecting the other person to change. I hope that at some point in his life he does become interested in a relationship with Christ, but we're called to not be yoked with unbelievers. It's not your responsibility to change him. It IS your responsibility to set an example of someone who follows God's word (even if that means that you have to break up with him).

Good luck to you as you seek God's will in this matter!
J

 

[sowellfan]

You've got to dump him. You shouldn't have dated him in the first place, because dating non-Christians gets people into a spot like you've gotten into. Yeah, it'll be painful, because pain comes with doing stupid things, but you'll feel better after a while, and God will send you someone better who *is* a Christian. Let me repeat...God *will* send you somebody better who is a Christian...it just might take some time, so you have to be patient. Maybe this guy will eventually become a Christian, but you probably aren't a very effective missionary when his tongue is down your throat. Also, if you were to have kids with him by chance, you don't want to chance your kids busting hells gates wide open along with their dad because they didn't have a Christian father.

Also, you may think that you've broken the cycle of lust & sin, etc., but I doubt that you'll be able to keep it up. Yeah, you've got resolve right now, but give it a few weeks for your hormones to build up again, and you'll most likely give in. In this case, most likely means 99.999% sure. Be honest with yourself and you'll know I'm telling the truth.

Of course, if you're like most other folks who get into relationships with non-Christians on this forum, you'll ignore people's advice to break up with him. Just call me Cassandra, I guess.

 

[Kepa]

Also, you may think that you've broken the cycle of lust & sin, etc., but I doubt that you'll be able to keep it up. Yeah, you've got resolve right now, but give it a few weeks for your hormones to build up again, and you'll most likely give in. In this case, most likely means 99.999% sure. Be honest with yourself and you'll know I'm telling the truth.

Just like to re-iterate this

Of course, if you're like most other folks who get into relationships with non-Christians on this forum, you'll ignore people's advice to break up with him. Just call me Cassandra, I guess

And this is why the above is likely to happen.

I was pretty much in the same position as you about a year ago cbrickell, except we were both christian. I thought I could just remove the lust and sin etc, but once your relationship has gone down there, it's hard to come back to a Christ centered relationship... and this was supposed to be a Christian relationship! I had to break it off. Even if your boyfriend did get saved, it's likely the relationship could be so off the focus of Christ that you would need to break it off anyway. Remember Christ is supposed to be first in our lives, and if we're not following Christ, we must get back on track, and if that means removing all ties with someone who causes you to sin, it MUST be done.

 

[MetalBlade]

It's always good to avoid sin! Good choice. If your boyfriend doesn't feel the need to "settle down" then he isn't right for you. If you don't want to do something then dont do it.