"Unworthiness"

[junezephyr]

Any of you feel like you want to leave depression behind, yet somehow you're hindered by a vague feeling of being "unworthy" of happiness, or fearing the change? I know this is not from God, but sometimes I struggle with this.

 

[ciiijayyy]

hello there yu will be fine, yu need to identify what depresses yu, what is upsetting yu at the moment and then you should be fine. If you could highlight whats wrong i may be able to offer soem advice. yu could pm or visit www.whatsonyourmind.org.uk
what yu really need is identify the problems and address it ok.

God bless

 

[HannahBanana]

Any of you feel like you want to leave depression behind, yet somehow you're hindered by a vague feeling of being "unworthy" of happiness, or fearing the change? I know this is not from God, but sometimes I struggle with this.

Yup, that's a huge struggle of mine. Depression has become so comfortably familiar to me that I'm actually afraid of being happy. That's one of the main things that I'm working with my therapist on, actually.

So, no, you're not alone in feeling that way.

 

[pockleberry]

I think alot of people feel like that cause although depression can hurt alot you know how it feels and it's safe. It sounds stupid to be scared of being happy to someone who hasn't gone through it but I know I fell the same sometimes...

 

[cinnabunch]

it used to be for me...when things were settled and I was beginning to feel happy, i got nervous and scared and couldn't even enjoy it because I was so used to bad things happening...feeling like somehow I didn't deserve it so something was gonna bite me in the behind and spoil it.

cindy

 

[junezephyr]

it used to be for me...when things were settled and I was beginning to feel happy, i got nervous and scared and couldn't even enjoy it because I was so used to bad things happening...feeling like somehow I didn't deserve it so something was gonna bite me in the behind and spoil it.

cindy

Yeah, that's how I feel. Like if I allow myself to enjoy life, something's going to come and catch me off guard. It's actually seems like a pretty silly philosophy when I actually read what I write.

 

[.chrys.]

Life is going to always be a challenge for us. Whether we face it being depressed or happy is (in some cases) entirely up to us.

God desires that each of us be happy humans! He created us for happiness, not depression. Sometimes I think I'm doing myself a disservice being "comfortable" in my depression; and being a disappointment to God--in not seeking to be happy as He desires!

Just my thoughts.

~Witness

 

[pockleberry]

Do you ever find that being depressed has almost become part of your personality? I'm really struggling right now because practically all the people I know now have only known me depressed. I don't know what sort of person I would be if I wasn't depressed and it scares me that people might stop being my friends because i'll change...

 

[junezephyr]

Do you ever find that being depressed has almost become part of your personality? I'm really struggling right now because practically all the people I know now have only known me depressed. I don't know what sort of person I would be if I wasn't depressed and it scares me that people might stop being my friends because i'll change...

Yes, I know how you feel about it being "part of your personality". Sometimes I feel like I'm being untruthful to people if I don't tell them exactly how I'm feeling, and it's hard for me to distract myself from my feelings.
But, I do believe that God created us to experience happiness, and although we may feel depressed, we do have shimmering personalities outside and apart from it. It shouldn't have to be "who" we are, just something to overcome. And if you change, I think your friends will only appreciate it- they probably like you for who you are, definitely not because you're depressed.

Sounds like you've had it rough You can always PM me if you need someone who understands.

 

[UnitynLove]

Christ said "I have come that you may have life more exeedingly and abudantly." He also said "Peace my peace I leave with you." God wants you to be happy it is the will of God.

 

[zefora]

I feel unworthy all the time..

I know in God's eyes I have all the worth.. But I have to live in THIS world, where you are judged every day (what you look like, what you say, even by strangers [has happened to me.. !!!]).. It's too hard for me to sometimes live here..

And if people have made you feel unworthy in the past a lot (especially men), it's hard to let go of that belief..

 

[junezephyr]

I feel unworthy all the time..

I know in God's eyes I have all the worth.. But I have to live in THIS world, where you are judged every day (what you look like, what you say, even by strangers [has happened to me.. !!!]).. It's too hard for me to sometimes live here..

And if people have made you feel unworthy in the past a lot (especially men), it's hard to let go of that belief..

This is how I feel as well. And yes, a man has recently made me feel "unworthy" in a way. Not intentionally, but through what he didn't say to me. I guess it wouldn't be as bad if I didn't allow myself to be affected by his attitude, but I do anyway.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Any of you feel like you want to leave depression behind, yet somehow you're hindered by a vague feeling of being "unworthy" of happiness, or fearing the change? I know this is not from God, but sometimes I struggle with this.

Yeah, mainly due to old sin that made me feel unworthy of god's blessing. Constant feeling that I need to prove my worth by solving my sin on my own.

My Preacher and some post here kept talking about how God is everloving god. Talking about Rituals, rules and regulations are all garbage. Just have faith and realize god loves you, that's it. Once I made the decission to ask and accept help from god, that I started stop my old sin.

Point is depression is deceitful and meant to keep you from god imo. Listen to the truth and accept it, god loves you. Also look at Paul, persecuted(stoned and jailed) god's people but he was forgiven.

 

[junezephyr]

Yeah, mainly due to old sin that made me feel unworthy of god's blessing. Constant feeling that I need to prove my worth by solving my sin on my own.

My Preacher and some post here kept talking about how God is everloving god. Talking about Rituals, rules and regulations are all garbage. Just have faith and realize god loves you, that's it. Once I made the decission to ask and accept help from god, that I started stop my old sin.

Point is depression is deceitful and meant to keep you from god imo. Listen to the truth and accept it, god loves you. Also look at Paul, persecuted(stoned and jailed) god's people but he was forgiven.

Those are some good points . I think that is one of the main themes in the New Testament - forgiveness.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Indeed sister!

Sister I implore you to read 2 Corinthians 2:5, All of Galatians, and Ephesians 2. Also skim thru Philippians for Paul talks about Joy in Christ(stuff my Preacher went into details on).

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage

God bless you sister!

 

[zefora]

AWorkInProgress: I love your hair!!!

 

[AWorkInProgress]

AWorkInProgress: I love your hair!!!

Thank you sister =)

Old school mates used to call me Shaggy cause I was too lazy get a hair cut. lol not the case now, just letting it grow over the winter.

How are you holding up Sister?

 

[thenewageriseth]

Any of you feel like you want to leave depression behind, yet somehow you're hindered by a vague feeling of being "unworthy" of happiness, or fearing the change? I know this is not from God, but sometimes I struggle with this.

Yes. Sometimes, like lately, I've been feeling somewhat unworthy to kinda "blah". I don't know about unworthy of happiness, but sometimes I'd rather be someone else.
Sometimes I have sort of a bad time dealing with confrontation, maybe seeing someone successful, dealing with demands and deadlines, etc. Other times I'm happy. Sometimes, I even want to "check out of here", (if yall know what I mean) but that may be the Devil trying to influence me, I dunno...
I used to be much happier and even kinda ditzy in HS, but now I'm more serious and sober and morose. It could be worse I suppose...

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Yes. Sometimes, like lately, I've been feeling somewhat unworthy to kinda "blah". I don't know about unworthy of happiness, but sometimes I'd rather be someone else.
Sometimes I have sort of a bad time dealing with confrontation, maybe seeing someone successful, dealing with demands and deadlines, etc. Other times I'm happy. Sometimes, I even want to "check out of here", (if yall know what I mean) but that may be the Devil trying to influence me, I dunno...
I used to be much happier and even kinda ditzy in HS, but now I'm more serious and sober and morose. It could be worse I suppose...

hmm..

I encourage you to read Phillipians, specially chapter 4. Paul teaches about finding joy in the lord and thous who seek to take it away. Also in Chapter 4 he goes into details about how Worry is a sin and we all need to learn content. Content is path of finding inner peace.

One of my favorite passages in it is:

"And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." -Paul Philippians 4:8

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=57&chapter=4&version=51

Hope that helps.

 

[thenewageriseth]

hmm..

I encourage you to read Phillipians, specially chapter 4. Paul teaches about finding joy in the lord and thous who seek to take it away. Also in Chapter 4 he goes into details about how Worry is a sin and we all need to learn content. Content is path of finding inner peace.

One of my favorite passages in it is:

"And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." -Paul Philippians 4:8

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=57&chapter=4&version=51

Hope that helps.

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