Unsolicitated Parenting Advice

[HeKnowsMyName]

Anyone get tired of it? DS (2 yrs. 1 month) stinkied the other day in his pull-ups. He told a friend of mine as I was taking him to change him that he stinkied. She proceeded to tell me that I needed to get busy training him.

We did start trying to train him before his surgery. We quickly learned that it wasn't possible to do so. He couldn't empty his bladder and he was peeing just a bit every 10-15 minutes when he had to get some relief. So we waited until his procedure was over and started again. But if I want to wait until he's 9, what business is it of hers? And what irks me more is I felt like I had to explain myself to her.

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

Geez. It would still be none of her business if your son was 9 and not potty trained but come on! Your son just turned 2 and she is getting on your case for him not being trained??? That would make me mad

 

[Hadassah]

A lot of boys are not trained until kindergarten! Personally, were it me, I would have said "Well, he did just have X surgery, I don't think you'd know this -- but sometimes you just can't help someone learn HOW to potty effectively if their parts are not working 100%.." and walk off.

 

[katelyn]

Yeah...I get annoyed by people saying stuff like that, but I've learned that a lot of times people don't really mean anything by it, it's like saying stuff like that is just something to talk about.

My oldest wasn't potty trained until a few months after her third birthday...I would have liked her to be trained before then, but it was when SHE was ready. She also didn't give up her paci until about a month before her 3rd birthday...so I definitely know about people making comments about my parenting. :o

It's hard to not let other people's comments get to you, but you just have to remember that you know your kids best and you have your reasons for doing things the way you do. And I do try to have an open mind about what other people say, but when it's more of a judgment statement than advice I just try to ignore it. As far as the potty training...my response was that we were "working on it" for about a year or so. The people asking didn't need to know how seriously we were working on it.

 

[Leanna]

What a weirdo. I trained David past 2 and he was the earliest of his friends to be successful at it. Most were trained at about 3.

 

[Robinsegg]

I've learned to say "thanks" and leave it at that a lot of times. My son is 5.5, and still not consistently potty-trained.
Rachel

 

[GolfingMom]

I agree with Robinsegg. Say thanks and leave it at that. I got comments b/c I PT early...I guess you can't make everyone happy