Well, yes..I do love him. I'm IN love with him. However, if our relationship is not of God's will then moving on would be my next step.
I would not hurry into anything more (like engagement or marriage) with him at present. But I wouldn't break up with him either. You can't save him, only Jesus can do that. It sounds like he is sympathetic to the gospel and believes it in his mind, but not yet prepared to make a heart commitment to you. But think about this. You may be the only person in his life who is praying for him. If he is close to the kingdom of God, you don't want to cut that little cord and allow him to drift away from Christ.
Also, I wonder if you are regularly reminding him that he needs to make a commitment to Christ? The fact that he is making excuses causes me to think that you are doing a bit of preaching to him at times, and he is making excuses or saying that he will do it to stop the preaching. I wonder what would happen if you stopped the preaching and reminding, and just allowed him to have his own space, and just concentrated on your relationship, spend time enjoying each others company outside of church. There's nothing to stop you going to church without him, then you can just relax and enjoy your faith and growth in grace.
If your testimony and life shows that you love Jesus, and that love flows out of you (without the preaching or lectures) for him just as he is, he is more likely to be convinced to make a firm commitment much more than any words or Scripture quotes you can throw at him. Making becoming a Christian a requirement for the continuance of the relationship would be a real turn off for him, because he would feel threatened by that, and he might feel that you don't love him for the person who he is right now.
If you cannot accept him as the man he is right now, you might as well break it off right now and get out there and find the "right" man for you. But you might have to accept the circumstances that he might end up lost to Christ, when he could have been saved if you were to exercise a little more patience with him.
I got married to a Catholic educated wife who doesn't come to church with me, and she is not very interested in theological conversations. She believes that she is a Christian and has no objection to being involved in the social side of the church. I never preach at her, because I accept her as she is and we have been happily married for 26 years. She has never stopped me ministering for the Lord, and I am the senior elder in my church plus the treasurer, and I preach on a regular basis. I have bookcases full of Christian books and she is right beside me while I am on this forum. She knows what my faith is all about and respects it, but it is not her cup of tea. I was married before to the most "spiritual" person in the church and after 8 years she deserted me because she saw me as an uncultured "Philistine" and didn't see a future in our marriage. Such much for being yoked together with a believer! But my present wife of 26 years is happily married to me and we enjoy each other's company. Having said that, in the times she has attended my church when I have been preaching, I made sure that I preached the gospel with clarity and passion, hoping that some of God's Word would get through her shell-like ears!
If he really loves you, he will not have any issues with your Christian faith because he will see that as an integral part of your life. If he wants to share his life with you, then he will have to share you with Jesus whom you will put before him. Jesus comes first in my life, then my wife and daughter, then my employment, and only then the church. My wife and daughter know that and respect my faith. I can talk about my faith with them (without lecturing, nagging, or preaching) and they happily acknowledge that this is the way I am, but it doesn't stop them being happy with me and I with them.
My 26 year old daughter accepted Christ when she was around 10 years old in the Sunday school I ran at church at that time. She hasn't gone on to live a completely holy life and she has a non-Christian fiance. But we can have Christian conversations, and she respects my faith. Her fiance is a very good natured man who is totally devoted to her and treats her like a princess. But he doesn't know that his prospective father-in-law has a God whose eye is upon him and His ears are open to his prayers. He doesn't know what he is coming into when he becomes part of my family! I believe that my prayers for them are much more powerful than anything I could say to them about the Christian faith and the need to receive Christ.
I hope this is helpful. I know that others will have a slightly different opinion, and that is okay too, but I think at 70 years of age, I have some experience and wisdom behind what I am saying.
