Unresolved anger...dangerous!

[JuJube]

I was raped 40 years ago! Yep, just now learning how to deal with it. I medicated myself starting at the age of 13 (when it happened) with drugs first, then with alcohol. Within the last 8yrs. I have had Jesus in my life and since I'm not medicating the anger and hurt anymore, I had become claustrophobic and afraid of heights. Never had that problem, but the Lord started showing me that there were things that I really needed to face, forgive, and let them go. I still have some hang ups, but God is working these things out. I'm no longer afraid of heights, but still a little clastrophobic. I heard a pastor say that the day a person chooses to rely on drugs and alcohol for a coping mechanism, that they actually quit growing emotionally at that point. I am a 53 yr. old that is probably now about 25, and feeling good about that. I enjoy now being able to face things, and not run away all the time. I am having to deal a non christian husband who is an alcoholic...and an also has an assortment of other problems, but I am learning to cope with that. I'm writing this for someone who maybe just doesn't think that it will get better. It will, if you seek God and His solutions with HIS grace.

 

[lavenderskies]

Praise God my sister. I know the Lord will use this story for his glory in a mighty way.

 

[pennsyginny]

I am 54. I was molested by my Dad for years and never did confront him about it. I have a lot of buried anger.
Two failed marriages, one very abusive. I was raped when I was 28 and never told anyone until last summer. Now I am in individual counseling and in a group for sexual assaut victims. The group is wonderful because we all support one another. I have chronic depression and am on meds for it and they help a lot. I also have faith in Jesus Christ and that helps a lot. If you would like to email me, I will send you my email address.
Hang in there and God bless.

 

[UnitynLove]

Thanks sis this will help someone.

 

[hollystar20]

Yeah i think people who are raped never forget it and i hate when people want you to get over it so fast i herd it takes 20 years to complatly recover. But giving this to the lord takes the emotional hurt away my mom was molasted when she was 4 and i know it still hurts her but she over came and shes so happy shes a christain shes the best person i know. My mom is also around the same age as you it hurts probably more if you where raped at 13 am so sorry that happened to you and i don't blame you for hating that person. To it would be very hard for me and i would probably never get over it but am gald you over came!!!! but its really good to give it to God becuase he takes all are emotional pain away and its wonderful God Bless sister!!!

 

[Nobility]

It is so hard to forgive, but I do know it's possible. I was abused once, somewhere between 3-7 years old, and whilst I still remember every moment of it that i ever have (some bits are missing due to my age then) it doesn't hurt and no longer affects me.

I'd really suggest counselling to help for anyone who's been struggling with anything in this area as it can really help you.

 

[pennsyginny]

I was raped 40 years ago! Yep, just now learning how to deal with it. I medicated myself starting at the age of 13 (when it happened) with drugs first, then with alcohol. Within the last 8yrs. I have had Jesus in my life and since I'm not medicating the anger and hurt anymore, I had become claustrophobic and afraid of heights. Never had that problem, but the Lord started showing me that there were things that I really needed to face, forgive, and let them go. I still have some hang ups, but God is working these things out. I'm no longer afraid of heights, but still a little clastrophobic. I heard a pastor say that the day a person chooses to rely on drugs and alcohol for a coping mechanism, that they actually quit growing emotionally at that point. I am a 53 yr. old that is probably now about 25, and feeling good about that. I enjoy now being able to face things, and not run away all the time. I am having to deal a non christian husband who is an alcoholic...and an also has an assortment of other problems, but I am learning to cope with that. I'm writing this for someone who maybe just doesn't think that it will get better. It will, if you seek God and His solutions with HIS grace.

Hi. I a, 54 and I was raped when I was 28 and never told anyone until last August. I had grown up in a sexually abusive home and had a very poor self-image even before the rape. If I had admitted it to any, I would have had to admit it to myself. But I am now in individual therapy and group therapy to deal with both issues. I have been an active Christian for many years and that is what ultimately gets me through.
Let me know if I can help lift you up.
We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us, right?
Pennsyginny