Unknown Cause

[MC0]

Hello Everyone,

So my bf and I have been courting for nearly two years. Its been an ok for the most part. He is not so bad, he is actually a great guy. Its been both a mixture of Long distance and proximal distance as my church volunteer work and paid work gets me in and out of the state where he lives. I'm in Nevada and He is in California, so the distance is not not that far apart. We do see each other a few times in the month. Its just that since the 6th month mark or even way earlier in the relationship, I find myself getting easily snappy with him. Its gotten to the point where I can not just wait to drop the phone after a conversation, and when the phone cuts off unexpectedly, I catch myself saying "Thank God". Really, 98% of the time, there is no reason to be irritated at what he is saying or doing, but for some reason, I just get so sour. While he is talking on the phone, I find myself rolling my eyes, sighing deeply, and just being sharp and snappy. Sometimes, the most innocent conversation where he is calmly expressing his thoughts about something gets me rolling my eyes. He is soft spoken, gentle, and takes his time when speaking. This last part gets soo MUCH on my nerves that when he saying something, I think to myself "why can't you just talk quickly and smoothly? Why stall?" For some reason, that gets me soo mad, then I start getting more and more snappy and I just want to get off the phone. At the end, he doesn't know what he did wrong, I don't know what he did wrong, I just don't wanna hear him talk...

I'm not sure what this is. I'm sure it sounds horrible but, I am acknowleding the fact that something is wrong and thats no way nice to him. And we do see at least twice a month, so I don't think its the long distance thing. When I see him physically, I don't get snappy. I'm excited and happy and elated. But after we go our separate ways and we get talking on the phone 30 minutes, 1 hour, 2 hours after we just saw, I start to get snappy with him. We are both committed and faithful, I just don't know what the issue is...

Thoughts?

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[iambren]

You sound bored with him. Say goodbye.

 

[Missangela]

I would consider if you're actually attracted to this boy- nOt physically but personality wise. It sounds to me like your personalities do not mesh well- can you see yourself marrying this boy? Waking up to him in the morning? Really think about this and pray about it. He deserves someone who is a better fit and so do you. You need someone who does not irritate you so much. Maybe a break in speaking to each other will help you decide f he's really the one god has chosen to be in your life. But don't pretend that nothing is wrong, it's not fair to either of you. I you want the relationship to work at all it starts with being open with each other and that has to start very soon. Tell him how you feel, let him know you need some time or maybe a better fit.
I wish the best