Romans 8:29 says >
"For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren." (Romans 8:29)
So, from this I see how predestination is not mainly about who goes where, but how we become if we are predestined to spend eternity with Jesus as His "brethren".
So, if we are predestined to be with Jesus, what matters is not only what label and beliefs we have, but how we are becoming in our character. But it seems to me that a number of people only talk about who makes the choice, who is in control. They do not talk about how we now are becoming and need to become because we are predestined.
To me, it seems how certain ones can make a major thing out of their free wills making their choice . . . of Heaven or hell . . . yet, they are not choosing to be and to love like Jesus. Meanwhile, others can say they are the "elect", but they are not being and loving like Jesus.
In any case, I am satisfied that God is in control of what becomes of each person. And each person does not control . . . much, to say the least. And in case anyone does claim to have choice . . . what really do they choose? Where are they choosing to give their attention, if they have so much control??
We need to submit to God, so He is guiding our attention, in His peace ruling us. Or else, we are not choosing what is His will >
"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)
I would say I have known people who are free will people and others who are predestination people, and both are not doing this . . . right while they can argue themselves right about which belief is correct.