unconditional love

[iron4life]

I was a little undecided about were to put this but I decided to put it in this section because I would like to here the view point point of people in a christian relationship.
Over the past 4-5 years I have had real problems which have largely been taken out on my youth group and I mean problems for instance taken drugs in the church wasn’t unusual (just so u know the sort of thing I mean)and I was generally just a complete idiot .While all this was going on I liked this girl and with there being a thin line between love and hate I took a lot out on her as well as her knowing about everything else .So about 6 weeks ago god spoke to me about responsibilty and influence and has changed my life around so much that my youth pastor honoured me in front of our whole church. I have since found out that during all my hate and rebellion when my pastors and my cell leader struggled to see me changing this girl only saw the real me she only saw who I could be and would be in god. The night before I found this out I asked for a sign that this relationship was right.
How easy is it to have that kinda of love and can u have it for someone u don’t truly love?

 

[Briseis]

The night before I found this out I asked for a sign that this relationship was right.
How easy is it to have that kinda of love and can u have it for someone u don’t truly love?

I would love to help. If you could clear up the questiona bit. I am unsure of what you are asking

 

[Arclight610]

Yes, I loved my current girlfriend even before she knew who I was.

 

[iron4life]

what i mean is that i want to know
1.if this girl feeling this way thinking of me in a changed way as if i was already that new person allthrough this time if she could do that in her own strength or whether it would be god?

2.if you could feel that way about someone u didnt truly love because i know that i couldnt i dont want to talk to her about a relationship unless im certain she feels the same and i just wanted to see if people thought that kinda of love was possible with no attachment to the other person

 

[AnaSnow]

Ok, here are a few things.

1. My mother is one of the most difficult people to like. She has serious control issues and her image comes before a lot of other things in her life. If need mentioning, she is not a Christian. My boyfriend has seen quite a few sides of my mom. He often doesn't like the things she says or does to me, but he loves the person she could be if she had God. I can understand why you may be surprised by this girl's ability to see who you could be, but remember that she sees you with Christ in her. This changes everything. God's love is unconditional and He gives us many things we don't deserve, gifts. Sometimes we can just sit back and enjoy them, remembering to always thank Him.

2. It is possible to love someone before knowing them. My boyfriend had/has a list of qualities and traits that he wants his significant other to posess. He has told me several times that he loves the person who he wrote about. He also says he loves me because I fit most of his desires and that the physical aspect of me is just a bonus. He loved the person I am before he knew who I was.

 

[Inperfected]

It's possible, but i what do suggest is time. Time is an invaluable thing... Firstly it shows true and lasting change... Secondly, true feelings have a habit of presenting themselves with time.

Love is possible, but going from a friendship to a relationship is a much ssafer way of developing it... Mostly because if, and only if, it doesn't reach marriage, then you can build a friendship from the ruins... I am only good friends with one of my ex's and it's only the one who was my best friend for a year first.

She also could do that in her own strength i think ...