Ugliness

[Holy Messiah]

..has been affecting me deeply for 3 years. I get jealous when I see good looking guys with girls. I really do think I am quite hideous and monsterly. It's bad. I'm almost 18 and never had a girlfriend because of either me being to self conscious, or the fact that I am ugly.

Suicide is a thought of mine every single day. I struggle with the existence of God, Heaven, and Hell which sometimes makes it worse.

I will think there is no God sometimes and be depressed by that thought. Advice?

 

[Criada]

I don't know you, so obviously I can't really comment on your looks... but I suspect that you are probably perfectly normal.
Most of us are dissatisfied with things about the way we look.. but we are the way we were created. And God designed you and loves you exactly as you are. You are a unique creation, and He has a plan for you.
You are obviously seeking Him, and that is great... keep going, keep praying, and I will pray for you too. You can have confidence that you are loved.
Looks are not always what matters... if you are a person who is kind and honest, who helps others and puts yourself out for them, you will find that people love you for your heart, not your looks. Try to be there for others, and you will find that as you focus on them, rather than yourself, confidence will grow.

I hope some of that helps.. if you want to talk, please PM me any time.

 

[Carolyn H]

Dear Holy Messiah,

It might be that you are a late bloomer... I never dated until after I graduated from High School, because I was a late bloomer. We all are created differently from one another. We are all unique...

I once had a man tell me a story, and I want to share it with you...

God is the same yesterday, today, and forever... We all know that He took a Rib from Adam and created Eve.... Well He is still (metaphorically) doing the same thing. For every man, He takes a rib and places it inside the woman who will complete that man.

Every man is on a hunt...a journey looking for his rib...that woman who will complete him. When he finds her...he has found a good thing, a gift from God.

It is easy to settle... it is sometimes even easy to give up. But , if you do you will miss out.

When you find your rib, she will not look at you and see ugly. She will see the man who completes herself in every way. That is why it is important to know who you are looking for...what is it that you need... a sense of humor, honesty and integrity, ... Whatever it is, write it down. Make a list and keep on adding to it. This way, you will know when you have found her...she will be all the things you have listed, and so much more.

In the meantime, bide your time. School, work, church...vital areas of your life. Keep growing and becoming. You have to become all those things she needs in a husband, so that you complete her as well as she will complete you. Trust and pray!!!

God Bless you. I hope I have said this right. I will be praying, and you should pray for her!!!

Carolyn

 

[SonofGOD727]

Be patient and remember to control your desires and negative emotions.

 

[Jeshu]

..has been affecting me deeply for 3 years. I get jealous when I see good looking guys with girls. I really do think I am quite hideous and monsterly. It's bad. I'm almost 18 and never had a girlfriend because of either me being to self conscious, or the fact that I am ugly.

Suicide is a thought of mine every single day. I struggle with the existence of God, Heaven, and Hell which sometimes makes it worse.

I will think there is no God sometimes and be depressed by that thought. Advice?

Yeah to be honest you do need to die, however not physically, but spiritually.

See my dear friend you hold onto lies about yourself, and though it feels so bad that you want to die, you keep doing it.

I also hated myself for many years and tortured myself with such thoughts. You feeling and thinking that God doesn't exist is also a result of your misery, who wants a god when he makes you feel like that? However you feeling and thinking such thoughts ain't going to change the truth. He exists and loves you very much, longing for you to seek Him in your depression and leaving those inner lies behind, finding life in His loving truth.

Honest my dear brother it is better to be dead to lies and alive in His truth than considering a godless suicide - I know for he took me away from my suicidal years and killed my unloving lies about myself, replacing it with His loving truth.

I'm His child, Beloved, precious, beautiful, unique, holy and deeply cared for - it is this lovely truth - the truth of Jesus - that drove my depression away and got me out of my personal Hell.

Please remember that depression is horrible, disgustingly terrible and so unloving - and that resisting bad thoughts and not 'eating' such realities - are the only ways to survive the onslaught depression can be.

Believing loving truth instead of lies will surely get you better again!

 

[EbonNelumbo]

My brother, I have struggled with suicide for a long time. Please know there is light at the end of your tunnel, no matter how long and scary, there is light. Please know I am here if you want a friend to walk it with you, and I would be honored to do anything I can to help you in this time and all to come, I sincerely mean that.

Though I have no way of judging for myself what you look like, I can assure you that you are a precious son of God and in His time and in His will, you can have a wife, but sometimes it takes time, and it's hard to be patient, but if it is His will, it will come.

I'm here if you EVER want to talk. Nothing will scare me away, nothing will make me think less of you, I cannot judge when I have by far probably done worse if not just as bad things and had just as bad thoughts. I've doubted God and I know that the only real way to maintain life is to have faith in Him, even if it's the size of a squashed mustard seed.

 

[dvdripped]

Hi Friend

I have been in your position in the past, I too have looked at other good looking guys who have stunning girlfriends, but is there life really as perfect as it looks, the answer is, probably not.

There is nothing wrong with how you look, im not the greatest looking guy in the world, but me and my partner have been together for 9 years, and we love each other so much.

You will find the right woman for you, when you least expect it, and when it does happen, you will be so happy.

Until then, be confident, be happy, and try and find that special someone.

All the best to you friend

Ray

 

[Bellicus]

Something I've noticed about myself is when I'm filled with negativity this also makes me look like some kind of swamp troll, but when I have peace inside and are happy I like the person I see in the mirror.

And when I look at girls I often notice that they seem much more attractive if there is something good about them that I like. Even if she is Miss Universe she will look hideous to me if she has a cold and empty personality.

And I am totally honest when I say that I rather would want a normal looking girl that have a personality I like instead of some perfect barbie that have nothing good inside of her. And I think this is also the way that girls think, and those that don't think like that are no big loss.

When it comes to God, then I know He exist and are real, just like I know that I exist myself. He knows your heart and what you want in life, and He is ready to show you a better way then you are able to walk yourself, and lead you on paths that will lead to life for you. He loves you and want all the best for you, and He is just waiting for you to give yourself to him.

Matt 6,33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. This is the promise Jesus gave, that if we seek God and his will for us, then we will find all other things we need on the way there.

 

[Ariel]

God loves the heart that is turned to Him. It doesn't matter what you look like; it matters what your heart is like.

Your life is precious to Him. He loved you before you ever knew Him, and He loves you now. Call out to Him, He is there, He is with you. He will never leave you or forsake you, Hebrews 13:5.