Trying To Manage My Pain

[Introverted1293]

I can't seem to manage my pain right now. I am watching lots and lots of movies to distract me but it doesn't work all the time. I don't even want to go to school.

I worry about whether my mom was truly saved or not because she had a lot of flaws, even though she was seeking God. Sometimes she would have Outburst of anger and would swear. Every time I read the Bible it scares me. Did my mom's flaws keep her from the kingdom of heaven? This is what I keep asking myself and it is driving me nuts. I read the Bible and it just seems impossible to obey everything that's written in the Bible. It is easy to obey the Ten Commandments outwardly. But there is so much more to the Bible then the Ten Commandments. I know that my mom had some broken relationships when she died. So I keep asking myself did that keep her from the kingdom of heaven.

I also can't face the future right now. I can't seem to go back to school. I am looking for stuff to manage my pain. I even took some marijuana.

I am in so much excruciating pain. I just want it to end.

I am turning 42 tomorrow. My mom would have me come home every birthday and they will make enchiladas. I hate it now. I know that I am not the only one who has lost loved ones. So I am not pretending that I am. I just don't know how some of you who have lost loved ones can move on because I can't seem to do it.

I am looking for any source of comfort. But it is very short-lived. I hate listening to music. I keep my head to the phone while movies are playing on my phone when I am in public. People try to talk to me and I just can't be friendly. I am failing this test if this is what that is. I don't really trust God. How merciful is God? Did my mom's flaws actually kept her from the kingdom of heaven? Of course nobody could really answer that.

She loved her kids. But she wasn't in communication with all of them because of disagreement. Did that keep her from the kingdom of heaven? I just keep asking myself these things. I just sometimes want to know if she is with Jesus. She has a good testimony of how she came to Jesus. But she was flawed.

How do you manage your pain when you feel like life is not worth living? I would like to know how to do so. Did you ever have someone died and you were wondering if they were with Jesus or not?

I couldn't even celebrate Christmas. Sometimes I Cry uncontrollably. My eyes are very crusty from crying. I really need help and I don't know how to manage this pain.

 

[timf]

Pain is difficult for a number of reasons. One of which is it tends to focus your attention on it. Your use of movies is a good way to try to draw some of your attention away from a focus on pain. Other techniques are going for a walk or other exercise or going to the library to read newspapers, magazines, or books.

Heaven is not reserved only for perfect people. We are told that salvation is by faith. Since not one of us can see into the heart of another, we have not certainty of who goes where. However, we do have faith and can trust that God who is both just and merciful, will sett all things right.

You might want to try reading the Psalms. Many people over the centuries who have had difficult challenges in life have found comfort in the Psalms.

 

[Pop D.]

Flaws cannot keep you from heaven. If they did, absolutely no one would get in.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

even though she was seeking God

Salvation is by faith, if we have faith when we die we will be saved. Faith is a trust in Jesus to forgive us, a belief in the cross. Your mother had that. We all have flaws, some more evident than others. The bible tells us that "God does not punish us according to what our sins deserve", He is merciful.

 

[Lost4words]

My dear friend.

Dont be afraid of the Bible. Its God's word remember. A lot if it can be difficult to understand. I get that myself.

Be confident in that Jesus came to save us (your mum) His children. God works in mysterious ways my friend. Nobody knows His heart.

Just pray for your mum. Keep her in your prayers. I lost my Mum and Dad within a year of each other. It was horrendous but, what helped me was my faith in God. My love of God. Its not easy losing a loved one. Time is a healer. Stay true to God. Never let satan whisper untruths in your ear! Dismiss them. Turn to God in prayer.

I suffer with depression and anxiety. Plus, i am living on my own. Life is a mess for me. The devil loves to sit on my shoulder tempting me etc. Its extremely difficult to stay true to God. Its a daily battle.

Ok, i may lose many battles to the devil but, he aint ever going to win the war!

Be at peace about your mum. Be confident in God's love for her. Trust in God's mercy and love. Believe that your mum is at peace in heaven. Dont let satan tell you otherwise.

I feel your pain. Please, be strong. Continue in prayer. Continue to focus on God's true love for You.

Offer up your sufferings to Him, daily.

Jesus is indeed carrying you, while you carry your cross.

'Dear Lord my God in heaven. Please wrap Your loving arms around my dear friend here. Show him your undying love for Him. Keep him close to your heart. Guide him in life'

 

[Introverted1293]

Thank you very much. These were helpful advice

 

[turkle]

The only way to get through the pain of loss is to walk through it. Grief has stages, and all of them must be experienced. It is a long process, but you will get through it. Ask God for strength, comfort and wisdom, and He will provide these. Don't turn away from Him.

Your mother's flaws have nothing to do with her salvation. Neither do yours. It is because we are all flawed and sinful that Jesus gave His life for us. You will survive this, as so many of us have.

Happy birthday!

 

[Marumorose]

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I can't seem to manage my pain right now. I am watching lots and lots of movies to distract me but it doesn't work all the time. I don't even want to go to school.

I worry about whether my mom was truly saved or not because she had a lot of flaws, even though she was seeking God. Sometimes she would have Outburst of anger and would swear. Every time I read the Bible it scares me. Did my mom's flaws keep her from the kingdom of heaven? This is what I keep asking myself and it is driving me nuts. I read the Bible and it just seems impossible to obey everything that's written in the Bible. It is easy to obey the Ten Commandments outwardly. But there is so much more to the Bible then the Ten Commandments. I know that my mom had some broken relationships when she died. So I keep asking myself did that keep her from the kingdom of heaven.

I also can't face the future right now. I can't seem to go back to school. I am looking for stuff to manage my pain. I even took some marijuana.

I am in so much excruciating pain. I just want it to end.

I am turning 42 tomorrow. My mom would have me come home every birthday and they will make enchiladas. I hate it now. I know that I am not the only one who has lost loved ones. So I am not pretending that I am. I just don't know how some of you who have lost loved ones can move on because I can't seem to do it.

I am looking for any source of comfort. But it is very short-lived. I hate listening to music. I keep my head to the phone while movies are playing on my phone when I am in public. People try to talk to me and I just can't be friendly. I am failing this test if this is what that is. I don't really trust God. How merciful is God? Did my mom's flaws actually kept her from the kingdom of heaven? Of course nobody could really answer that.

She loved her kids. But she wasn't in communication with all of them because of disagreement. Did that keep her from the kingdom of heaven? I just keep asking myself these things. I just sometimes want to know if she is with Jesus. She has a good testimony of how she came to Jesus. But she was flawed.

How do you manage your pain when you feel like life is not worth living? I would like to know how to do so. Did you ever have someone died and you were wondering if they were with Jesus or not?

I couldn't even celebrate Christmas. Sometimes I Cry uncontrollably. My eyes are very crusty from crying. I really need help and I don't know how to manage this pain.

May God bless you. It is a really really good thing that you are thinking about life after death and whether your mom is in heaven or not. Remember that God is merciful and He is good All the time.
It is VERY HARD to enter into Heaven and you cannot get in unless you are completely pure (without flaws). We do not go to heaven immediately after death. BUT the good news is that we do not go to Hell immediately after death because God searches your heart to see if it was good or not. God understands that the physical body is not perfect. Your mother may not be in heaven yet But she will be because she did seek the Lord while she was living and God will see that in her heart and he will purify her so that she can enter into heaven.
I can tell you this without a doubt. YOU are hurting your mother by being miserable. She wants you to be happy and move on with your life. You would have wanted the same thing for her if you were gone right?
You will not fail the test. You cannot fail the test. After darkness there is light. You will overcome this.
Pray Psalms 28:7 everyday
The Lord is my strength and my shield;
my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.
My heart leaps for joy,
and with my song I praise him.
May the Lord be with your mother,
May the Lord bless your mother's soul
May the Lord purify her and keep her in his Kingdom
May the Lord forgive your mother for all her sins and all her flaws
May the Lord strengthen you and be with you
May the Lord dry your tears and give you a blissful future
I ask in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ
AMEN