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DIANAC said:
Where did He say that?

Mark 12:29-31
29And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord:


30And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. 31And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.

So, we are commanded to love God, others, and self.
 
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whitedove7 said:
Mark 12:29-31
29And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord:


30And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. 31And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.

So, we are commanded to love God, others, and self.
Whitedove7, good evening,
In Mark 12:29-31 Christ gives us 2 commandments: love the Lord and love one's neighbor. This is a material of a preschool Sunday School class. "As thyself" is used to describe how to love one's neighbor. Word "AS" (Strong's #5613) is used in the same fashion in Mark 10:16
Behold, I send you forth as 5613 sheep in the midst of wolves : be ye therefore wise as 5613 serpents, and harmless as 5613 doves. It does not say "be wise serpents and harmless doves".
Therefore, to suggest that Jesus Christ commands us to love ourselves is in error.
Take care,
Diana
 
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DIANAC said:
Whitedove7, good evening,
In Mark 12:29-31 Christ gives us 2 commandments: love the Lord and love one's neighbor. This is a material of a preschool Sunday School class. "As thyself" is used to describe how to love one's neighbor. Word "AS" (Strong's #5613) is used in the same fashion in Mark 10:16
Behold, I send you forth as 5613 sheep in the midst of wolves : be ye therefore wise as 5613 serpents, and harmless as 5613 doves. It does not say "be wise serpents and harmless doves".
Therefore, to suggest that Jesus Christ commands us to love ourselves is in error.
Take care,
Diana

Hmmm! Interesting!

If you do not love yourself in what God has created you to be (everything from your hair down), then you cannot love your neighbor because you are unable to receive their love.

Think about it.

• Do you stair at yourself in the mirror and don’t like what you see?
• Do you hear your voice and it sounds like someone scratching their nails on the chalk board?
• Do you compare yourself to others and wish you looked like them?
• Are you ashamed of yourself?
• Do you wish you were never born?
• Do you have a hard time receiving love?

When you don’t love yourself, you are telling him (the Lord) he is a jerk, you made a mistake in creating me and you are a liar.

What is an unloving spirit of not being able to love you. It makes you feel self-rejected. It makes you feel unclean, unworthy, don’t measure up, you are no good. That is the opposite of God because a person is not rejected. When you hear your voice talking it sounds like a piece of sand paper on the side of peace of metal. When you look in the mirror it says you old ugly thing. You spend all of your time debating if you belong on this planet or not. You look at your eyes and see things wrong with yourself. You spend your day in the world in which you never measure up. This person don’t like me, that person don’t like me, why was I born. You end up replaying the same old play until the pages are warn. Because you are so busy striving with yourself. That is evidence of an unloving spirit to make a bow with you.

Its time for you take your identity. If someone doesn’t like you, God loves you. Even if nobody does but him. When someone doesn’t like you, but God loves me. My father is God.

When you are in self-rejection and you have an unloving spirit, and somebody arising up their hand in them and they become against you, because you have the same problem, you withdraw in fear of rejection, you withdraws in fear of man, in fear of abandonment, withdraw in fear of failure and you go hide behind a rock. They are a liar. Let God be true and every man be a liar.

Do you want to continue to hate yourself are you ready to take your place on this turf called earth in the name of Jesus and get on with your life? You are going to have to come to a place where you stop fighting with yourself!

This is one of the greatest bondages on earth for people and that is self rejection and self hatred and having an unloving spirit.

I don't know what you were thinking of, but what I'm saying is love what God created us to be. To not compare ourselves with others and so on. If we are satisified in what God created us to be, then we will be at more peace with ourselves and be able to reach out more to the lost world. We will be able to love our neighbors.

In says in Psalms 139: 14I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

I think that is a person that loves who God created him to be.

Now, I'm not saying there is anything wrong if helping yourself out like dying hair or putting on mackup (?), etc. I know I do! I feel better when I do it.

DIANAC, maybe you were thinking of self love as a selfish thing. No, that is not what I was saying at all. We are suppose to be selfless and not stuck on I, me, myself, etc. But, we are to praise the Lord for who or what he created and stop comparing and feeling negative about ourselves.

Blessings!
 
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To get back to the basic - my brother was widowed when he was about 40. He had had a very domineering (but lovely!) wife who had severe MS. Some weeks after she had died, I was shocked to see his hair had gone totally silvery. Remarking upon this 'hair gone white overnight and it must be the shock' to my sister she replied "Don't be daft, Jenny made him dye it!"
 
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Dear whitedove7.

Thank you for your very interesting post. It is very much synchronous with a present day thinking which is as follows: proper self-esteem is the secret to life and most of its problems, Self-esteem is the single, greatest need facing the human race today.



Abraham Maslow developed Hierarchy of Needs which includes: physiological needs, safety and security needs, love and belongings needs, self-esteem needs, self-actualization needs. Upon Maslow’s extremely popular teachings many management/corporate seminars are taught.



Resulting ideas from this are:

Self-love is the prerequisite for love for others. You can not love your neighbor, you can not love God unless you first love yourself.

People who have poor self-image, who fail to realize their own self-worth, who are always belittling themselves, these people usually have difficulty in loving others properly.

To paraphrase the latter: So love yourself, as you should love others.



I surely understand these feelings. The way we think about ourselves can be damaged in the childhood by critical parents, etc. Maslow was born into a family of jewish emigrants from Russia – talking about a guilt feelings developed in the childhood! In addition he married his first cousin – imagine the family problems that he had! No wonder he perfected his theory. Other factor and events in our lives can distort the way we think about ourselves



But let us see what the Bible says about this. Throughout the pages of the Bible the message is move the spotlight away from ourselves. Loving ourselves in the Bible is always in the negative light. 2tim 3:1-2” This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy”. Scriptures recommend that we should not desire to be first, but a servant. Mark 9:35 “And he sat down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to be first, [the same] shall be last of all, and servant of all.” Bible recommends that we hate our life in this world. John 12:25 “He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal.” And that we should not live for ourselves 2Cor 5:15 “And [that] he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again.”



How is it we should feel about ourselves?

Feeling of inadequacy is just a feeling. We are to base our opinions not on feelings but on facts. And the facts are

We should feel good about ourselves

because we exist,

because we were made in the image of God,

because we were made perfect in God’s sight,

because God loves us,

because God foreknew each one of us, Eph 2:10

because we are co-workers with God,

because we are to be co-heirs with Christ,

because we enjoy our work as we work to glorify God and not ourselves without expecting praise and appreciation of others, Col. 3,

I am blessed to know a young lady from our church. She is confined to a wheelchair due to a bad accident. She can not speak, or walk. Her head is bandaged and misshapen. She is undergoing numerous surgeries. But she rejoices in her salvation! She one of the joyful christians that I know. You can see Christ in her.

And about hiding our age, more “real” Heaven is to us, more we welcome ageing process. I am learning to say when I see in the morning a new wrinkle on my face – I am one more wrinkle closer to Heaven.
Hallelujah!
Be well,
Diana
 
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I'll admit it - I color my hair during the cooler months - and highlight it for summer (it helps blend the grays believe it or not). I hate the thought of wrinkles in the years to come and more gray hair. I may not have a choice about aging - but I plan on doing it with grace (or at least making it appear that way LOL).
 
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I have been dying my hair since I was 14 years old. Now that I'm 43 I am letting the light brown dye grow out, I am amost totally silver now and my hair is down to the middle of my back. I think it will look cool to have long, thick silver hair. I even have a streak of natural white on the right side. When I was younger I was so worried about the way I appeared to others, now I only worry about how I appear to God :)
 
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humbled4Jesus said:
I have been dying my hair since I was 14 years old. Now that I'm 43 I am letting the light brown dye grow out, I am amost totally silver now and my hair is down to the middle of my back. I think it will look cool to have long, thick silver hair. I even have a streak of natural white on the right side. When I was younger I was so worried about the way I appeared to others, now I only worry about how I appear to God :)
I am sure that you have most exquisite look. Long silver hair! That is great! I had long hair to the middle of my waist (soft light brown curls). When I turned 40 I decide that it is not appropriate for a woman of my age to wear long hair, so I cut it. Later I realized that I was wrong and now I am keeping my hair shoulder length.
Thank you,
Diana
 
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I have always been told I look young for my age. (I think I really have a "young" personality and a "young" voice and a "young" attitude. I don't think it's necessarily my looks....)

I noticed a big change when I turned 50. I never dyed my hair till I was 48. Didn't use wrinkle creams, etc.

Now I do, but I still consider myself a low maintenance person.

I exercise 4 or more times a week, but I consider that to be more for health than vanity (yes, we all start creaking at 50, like it or not, and I don't want to creak.)
 
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Yep, i'll color my hair till the end probly, lol. When it starts to grow out I think I look twice my age----course that wouldn't work, cuz i'd be dead. Anyhow, anything you can do that makes you FEEL better about your age is a good thing I think, well, within reason. :)
 
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